Hi All
Having spent a fair amount of time on this site, it is clear to all that Single guys either get a really bad wrap, or just seem to get ignored because couples are looking for couples and ladies tend to look towards the couples too. This is understandably so. I have also seen so many guys place comments and requests on this site, or respond with one liners - which really does not create attraction or interest.
I would like to revolutionise this if i possibly can, but in truth not much can be achieved alone, so i am looking for some help.
Here goes: I am a Professionally qualified, Self Employed Guy, 34 years old and love life. I am into most things where it is deemed adventurous, exciting or an experience, and willing to give it a go. That being said, i am totally against drugs, i drink a very limited amount of alcohol (good scotch and good red wine only), but only to compliment a good chat or a good meal - and not to get tipsy or drunk - ever.
With the luxury of working for myself - my time is usually my own - this is not the case 100% of the time, but for most part it is, and for the rest, i have the ability to remain flexible.
I live in the Bayside suburbs of Melbourne - so keep that in mind when considering locality.
What i am looking for is: A Lady or a couple of similar age groups (say 20's to early 40's) who would like to get to know me, and who i can get to know. If you message me, i will reply, i will give you my telephone number (or you can give me yours in your message) and i will call. If we click on the phone, i would like to meet up with you - the sooner the better because anything exciting is based on a moment in time, and if we let that moment pass, we may miss out on what surrounds us.
I will buy you a drink / a coffee and we can have a chat - again if the chemistry is right - then we collectively can decide if we want to take if further or not.
I am not looking for a relationship of dependancy, but friends - with benefits if that works. Ideally, an ability to chat, but the comfort to play, even at the drop of a hat - i am happy to be your booty call if that works too.
What i don't want is to waste your time, or have mine wasted either - i hate the hypocrisy on some profiles where people clearly stipulate what they want and what they don't, and when you fit that profile, and respond to them - they just ignore you. I am not like that, and i will treat you with the respect you deserve and ask for the same in return. If you want to meet - then we wont just talk about it - we will do it. Again, i will not waste your time, i am free in most part fairly quickly and be it a morning / afternoon or early evening - i am sure we can figure that out.
My profile has a very limited photo collection - and due to the nature of my profession and industry - i intend keeping it that way. In saying that, my private album has face pictures, which i will happily share.
Finally - as i said before - i want to revolutionise a couple of things and need your help - this is where i need your help.....I want to prove to me, to you and to all those on SW who have doubt, that by being a good person, doing the right thing, communicating with more than 1 liners, and by being clear about what we want, what we are looking for, and asking and offering the same in tone, attitude, commitment and respect - that good will come our way, and with that - i hope that the good will be recognised by a lovely lady, or couple with the same ideas and mindset, looking for a Friend with regular benefits in which together we can meet, chat and play - hopefully ongoing, and prove the point that this can and does exist.
So can you help me - can i find what i am looking for, or is all hope lost in the sheer and simple fact that I AM A SINGLE GUY?
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i like wat u have to say
Thank you however one of the issues that so many of the ladies and couples tend to have with the single guys on this site, and an issue that helps in making it so much harder for us genuine single guys to get the "invites" or to actually meet genuine ladies / couples and the like is based on the fact that we "as guys" are so weak with words / or lazy or maybe even to expecting, that all we can muster up is a SINGLE LINE RESPONSE.
Without the intention of offending, if you read my post you will see that i am trying to point out to the ladies, that not all of us single guys are one liners, and to point out to the other guys that we need to re-build our credibility by putting in a real effort (with thought) - i find it ironic that over 150 people have read my post in half a day and the one key response i received was a ONE LINER
Well at least i have been humoured and amused (amazed or amused), either, neither or both.......
So i say, if the mind fails us, we still have our legs
What an awesome well written post, I have enjoyed reading it immensely! I only wish you lived close to me as what you are after is exactly what I am after! I am so tired of guys contacting me but fail to take note of the one really important factor I have stated in my profile.............I usually cannot host and want a fwb who is able to host most of the time!!
I also want to connect on a more personal level, share a drink, share a laugh, listen to and enjoy some good music and share time together and then have it end in amazing sexy fun that fulfills us both, its as simple as that.......or should be.
But instead I am inundated with cheating men who cant host and want fuck and run type arrangements!
On a more positive note I have, on the very odd occasion, found the perfect fwb, but due to life and changing situations, either work related or whatever, they have come to an end. Now I find myself searching for that perfect arrangement again and man is it a task and a half!
Anyway, thanks for the post and know that some ladies also face just what you are.........good luck in your search babe.
I can't understand why guys would speak to women the way they do on these sites , would they speak to their mother or sister that way or how would they feel is someone spoke to theirs in that way , most people are here for a bit of fun and excitement in their life , I've organized gangbangs on here before however the response that I've had to deal with just made me not want to do it anymore .
Sexpert
28, thats because your in the wrong state lol
Hungaussie - i could not agree more. It baffles me how some guys talk to the woman on this site - i wonder if confidence comes from hiding behind the screen, and further wonder if they are the ones that promise to show, never do and give the rest a bad name. I can only wonder......
I know i have never spoken to my mother in the way some post comments, and if i had, i am sure i would have been clipped across the ears. More so, i respect myself, which makes respecting woman easy. I know what i like, i know what i want, but more than that, and more importantly, as i have stated numerous times before - and it never gets old.... My greatest pleasure is gained by the pleasure i give. For those that dont understand that i will explain in context of this site - Being willing and prepared to provide pleasure (i hope) for another person, is the greatest turn on for me, regardless of the outcome.
This in no way suggests that you cannot have fantasy, be wild in bed, calm, clean or push the boundaries sexually, but doing so with respect for you, makes respecting others so much easier, and their pleasures are equally heightened by the same.
This post of mine has generated some amazing interest, been seen by over 700 people, and i have not only read all the responses on the forum, but too have read every response sent to me via PM, and more than that - I HAVE REPLIED TO EACH AND EVERYONE OF THEM.
The responses and replies have all been positive and with great compliment - some have suggested that i should be flooded with interest - well in truth let me tell you that is not the case - none in fact, but i have had plenty of responses from people who agree with me, and my thoughts, and while maybe a little over confident in my comments, i think it is fair to say i have gained the starting point of respect from others on this site, and this places me in good stead. I know now, and have already seen it in the chat rooms - i get the greetings, the chats. What does this mean...well it means i may very well be well on my way to making new friends, regardless - and all because i was true to my heart and my head, placed in words what i believe, and took the time to actually do so - i have gained and will continue to gain the respect.
So Guys - GIVE IT A GO. Drop the one liner vulgar responses and choose rather to respond to appropriate forms in an appropriate way, but READ THE PROFILES FIRST.
To everyone on this site that has read, responded to or will read my posts - Thank you, and enjoy yourselves.....What ever it is you do, and however you go about doing it.
To the ladies on this site who once contemplated single guys - but no longer does due to the influx of dumb comments, and harassing posts - give the good ones another shot if you will......
Have a great long weekend all
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This is sooooooooooooo good ... there are some amazing single guys here on SH ... and I am so glad so many people are reading and responding to this post .... way to go guys!!
Manners are free and using them goes such a long way .... This post still blows me away .. thanks again for opening up the lines of communication Diesel!
Master of Sex
Kudos to you Diesel and best of luck in your search. Yes indeed many a single guy has come to a dead end here and ultimately it is honesty and openness (and a little bit of humour and spark) that can get you far.
The odds are apparently not in your favour but they are now much improved. Keep at it and be involved in chat and get to meets when you can.
There are people looking for guys like yourself so don't give up.
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I can't understand why guys would speak to women the way they do on these sites , would they speak to their mother or sister that way or how would they feel is someone spoke to theirs in that way , most people are here for a bit of fun and excitement in their life , I've organized gangbangs on here before however the response that I've had to deal with just made me not want to do it anymore .
Because you're a good man...
Warming the Bed
Thank you for this post sir.
I myself have noticed the same issue, and i've been on here for a good part of 3years and to this day i have not had a single reply.
Its amazing how a minority can make a majority look or appear to look like ''single liners''
I really hope that some good comes from this post;
Once again. Thank you good sir!
and i hope you find what you are looking for.
Warming the Bed
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Although the original post is to be commended
I agree to a point. The OP sounds quite different from the usual posts you read here but in the end it's just an articulate way of saying "hi, who wants a root?" Or maybe I'm just cynical?
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Although the original post is to be commended
I agree to a point. The OP sounds quite different from the usual posts you read here but in the end it's just an articulate way of saying "hi, who wants a root?" Or maybe I'm just cynical?
Of course that's what it's saying. That's what every post, every profile (single male, single female, couple, TG etc, etc, etc), every ad, and every chat room session says. If it weren't for sex, none of us would be here. We'd all be off in online knitting forums, or playing video games until our thumbs dropped off, but that's the point. We're more exciting than that. We're after more from life than day to day drudgery. We're after sex. Sex, sex sex, sex, sex, sex, sex! It's just that, as you point out, the OP, and others amongst us are a bit more erudite than average, and can put our point across in a manner which needs to be neither offensive nor dull. It's all well and good to ask for a "root", but unless you drive a panel van, wear flares, have long hair, drink chocolate Moove and still live in the 70's, then that approach probably isn't going to take you far in your sacred quest to get your dicky sticky. Far better to make an effort, show some humour, give respect before expecting it in return, accept that as a guy you're in a vast majority competing for a very small prize pool, and just show some common decency. As the OP (God rest his virtual soul) pointed out, not all single guys are like the neanderthal majority on here, nor like the couples with unrealistic expectations (to play with us, you must have Brad Pitt looks, minimum 14 inch cock (soft), hair the exact colour of Phar Laps mane, with each hair no longer or shorter than 45mm, and balls with no more than a 2% size differential). All we ask is a fair go. I've met some wonderful people on here. Single women, couples, and other blokes as well. Not always for sex, often just for a chat, but in every case, they are people who have reciprocated my effort, and actually taken the time to engage with me, usually because they are good people who just happen to have an interest in sex.
So, I'll come out and proudly and bravely say it. I WANT SEX! I want fun! I want to be judged as a man, not as a sleazebag! I want to write posts and replies of more than one line! I want to give and take compliments! I'd even take a '70's style root if it was offered (must look like Cheryl from Puberty Blues. You know, the one with the big fun bags, who'll do anyone in the back of a Sandman).
Just kidding.
You don't have to look like Cheryl. A Mrs. Vickers lookalike will do. I'm not fussy. 
Ok, when I was single the whole notion of a FB sounded interesting. No real ties, no commitment, no staying overnight, etc. what I learnt about the FB situation was as a female eventually I made a connection with the guy, emotions started coming into play. No, I didn't feel clingy but at some point in time the FB becomes something else in a female's mind. I have had a discussion with my girlfriends about this and we all seem to feel the same way.
So as a female, my advice to you is, remember single guys you are playing with a female's emotions. Don't complain when the female goes psycho or ape shit for you breaking it off (yes us women hear what you say). If you don't want the complication, hire an escort or go to a brothel for your guaranteed root.
Regards
Mrs Melb
PS this is not an attack on single guys
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I agree to a point. The OP sounds quite different from the usual posts you read here but in the end it's just an articulate way of saying "hi, who wants a root?" Or maybe I'm just cynical?
But isn't that largely why we're here?
The angst seems to be that many of us want a root with someone who is polite and articulate and knows how to entice, but so many of the potential rooters assume it's just about sticking their dick in a hole. The OP seemed to better grasp what many of us are looking for.
Orgasminator
The problem I am finding so far is that the single guys, and some of the couples are looking for a prostitute they don't have to pay. They want sex with no intimacy, when they want it, how they want it, and with anyone they can get it with. I'm sorry, I'm not interchangeable with every other woman here. I am a unique person in my own right and wish to be treated as such.
As far as I can tell, NSA has nothing to induce a female into accepting. I am no one's fuck toy. If I wanted anonymous sex, I would become a prostitute and be paid for my time. I don't want to only hear from you when you want sex. If I'm fucking you I also want hello calls, and how about a cup of coffee calls, and seen anything decent on TV calls. You know - the 'buddy' part of fuck buddy.
If you want anonymous, hassle free sex. Pay for it
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Way to go diesel manners are everything when it comes to communication.
It pains me to see some of the comments given by supposedly "single mature guys" to both single ladies and couples.
The old adage goes "if you cant say something nice then say nothing". Us single guys who are genuinely looking for partners for fun times are getting overlooked because of the a-holes who think with the little head in their pants only.
I do like the chat rooms and I usually make it a point of saying hi to people I know. Even if I am in multiple rooms this is just being polite.
Well to finish off this reply I would just like to say that if I send an email to someone be it couple or female, its because I genuinely want to get to know them and given the chance become friends.
Thanks for listening to my rant.
Melv811
We'll said... I must say there are some decent single males here, one of them for is Hungaussie bloke
top guy but no longer available which is a shame... :) 
