I am getting a little sick of reading "no singlle males" written in capitals and/or bold typeface on members profiles.
Not for the usual reasons a single bloke gets on here to gripe about it.
It annoys me to no end because this behavior is indicative of people who have been pestered by those they dont want contact from.
Now if you had straight male, or bi male listed in your looking for section I can understand the confusion. I have come accross a few profiles like that, but most of them also have a written description and/or ad describing what they want.
Majority of the profiles with the "no single males" in the description have couple or woman in their "looking for" section. In reality that should be enough.
Now I still think its good practice to have a write up on your profile, and some time you will see in there that a couple is looking for a single bloke as well.
two reasons for this come to mind:
1. The situation has changed and she/they are no longer looking for men. the "looking for" section was updated and the written part wasnt.
2. She/they dont want their profile listed in the "looking for single men" search as this may bring too much attention.
so if you dont, or are unable, to match the desire description of what somone is looking forjust dont bother. If they are asking for a 9" prick and youve got an 8.5" go for it sell yourself, you might get lucky. If you have a beard and they want shaved, pull out a razor. BUT if they want a girl, either booka trip to Thailand (if you get me) or dont bother.
Could couples and single women of any orrientation please respond as well. Maybe we can educate the masses. I am fairly sure that the men (good & bad) read the forums.
thanks for your time.
We had a good example a couple of days ago.
Our profile very clearly says no single males at this time, and our "looking for" does not include males. We also suggest that if and when we are looking for males, a simple "want to meet up" message is not sufficient.
So, we get a short and unimaginative "want to meet up tonight" message from a single guy. We reply, telling him that our answer is hidden in our profile, and ask him to see if he can find it. His next message is asking for our email or phone number!
FFS!
Our profile says no single males. He either doesn't read it or ignores it and contacts us anyway.
We basically tell him to go read our profile again. He STILL doesn't do it and tries pushing the contact further.
Honestly, even if we were after a single guy, there's no way we would pick someone who is clearly incapable of listening to what we want. Guys who try that approach are only wasting their own time, as well as ours.
well done azeasy you hit the nail right on the head and it shows you understand the implications of conduct and how you present and research on those around you and your not even a wanna be psychologist .
We hope you have success educating the masses, as surely it would make everybody's experience more relaxed.
we met az at a meet and greet, hes not pushy and is very polite and fun . very nice person.
Havent heard from any blokes yet. lots of views though so the message might be getting out there
az your dreamin. they cant read lol
hi baabaa,
you're right, it has been a long time.
I was actually thinking of you at one point while writing the op. Seeing as you are one of the excrptions to the rule (I base this on what I have read from you before) I needed to word the op correctly to show that I wasnt targeting all males, just those who dont pay attention.
Saying that, the problem ones probably wont read the op in full. But if just one will take heed, that is a win in my books
You'd like to think most of this should just be common sense, and even though I'm a bit of a lurker on here, I'd like to think if I was messaging women and couples I wouldn't be that stupid. The problem with this topic is we all know what kinds of guys these are, they've probably never been on the forums, they sign up, search for any woman (couple or single) sorted by proximity and send out batches of messages without ever doing more then looking at pictures. There's thousands of them and more signing up every day, so for every single guy we educate here, 10 more take their place. Only thing I can think of is reporting the really stupid ones that completely ignore the requirements, enough of them get sanctioned and they might start to take notice.
Valid point Haidee,
Admin did say they were implementing a cam block feature. What if they also added a pop up like on other sights alerting someone sending a message that you dont meet the recipiants requirements, or better yet ad a feature that allows you to block incomming mail from one or more subgroups, but set up a safe list. ie acouple can tick that they dont want to be contacted by single males, but after chatting to one in chat add him to the safe list so they can message.
Also why isnt there a big "verified" badge on profiles. you know how we verify our pics with the hand written note. wack up a big stamp that stands out at a glance, for free members as well. I know there is a little one, just beef it up
....Its a subject that matters to a section of the site
that are at odds with the way others write their profile...
you might just have to 'up' your own profile-writing skills
to appeal to those you want. Have you tried putting " NO COUPLES WANTED " on your profile?
I agree with Az.
It's not that hard to read profiles (even the long ones) to see if you meet the criteria.
Very few are ambiguous.
I only contact those who's "needs" can be met. If I ever contact someone outside of these parametrs it's to say, "nice pics", "good luck" or similar only.
I agree with Az.
It's not that hard to read profiles (even the long ones) to see if you meet the criteria.
Very few are ambiguous.
I only contact those who's "needs" can be met. If I ever contact someone outside of these parametrs it's to say, "nice pics", "good luck" or similar only.
this is the response I got for simply saying "no thanks but thanks for taking the effort to write to me"
The guy isn't even from the same state as me!!!
That's ok. You're not getting any younger anyway and after reading your profile I'm not interested. Your husband must be a shit shag.
Cya later shorty.
thankfully not all men are wankers like this. I just wish we had a way of "outing" them.
From a single guy new to this site, thanks Az. It is common sense and worth putting it out there to remind those without sense.
Just paid up today to this site/service as a single guy. The main attraction was lower spam/scams than other sites, so it's interesting to read that here the couples are the ones who get a form of spam, albeit from multiple single guys looking for sex instead of those pesky webcam girls looking for credit cards on most other sites, pffft.
Part of the problem Az has raised though must be the home screen suggestions to new users, after the free signup my home screen includes this message;
People who may interest you.
These results are based on your location and looking for settings, to change these please visit the my profile section.
The first suggestion (based on my "looking for" not the people's "looking for") is a couple (twonewbies), there is a great photo of a sexy female, so I open the profile of course. Their "looking for" does not say single male, and their "about me" clearly states they don't want contact from men without their female partner......So given I've taken some time and have enough consideration to check the profile, I'm not going to contact them but I do wonder "why would the site suggest this profile to me then?"
Sure it's wrong for a single male to contact a profile that clearly states they do not want that contact, but isn't it equally wrong of the site to suggest to a single male, a profile that is obviously not looking for single males? Especially when it's evident that some single males don't take their time and consider the "looking for" or "about me" fields, probably because many single males are in a rush, playing a numbers game or a bit desperate or frustrated.
It takes all types to make a business work, for some customers a sexy photo and a site suggestion is powerful motivation to send a message. I'm not saying that's OK because it's not, just saying that it's reality, and ain't gunna change unless there is a change in the site suggestions to single males.
Also consider that the site probably makes the same profit per subscriptions whether the profile is single or coupled, and there is a huge volume of single male market share to be won. To some subscribers with a user experience perspective these inconsiderate single males are seen as "timewasters", but to someone else in the business with a commercial perspective these pesky single males may be seen as "cash cows" given they pay to send heaps of messages, and there's lots of them.
So something to consider is would couples be happy to pay more per subscription to have a site with less single males? or more features to out the timewasters? or for the home page suggestions to be based on the location and looking for settings of all subscribers?
welcome tex. thanks for the comment . its good to see people read profiles.
i believe you will go far because you read profiles. all i can suggest is chat in the rooms and put an advert in the lets meet area. also keep an eye open for meet and greets, theyre a great place to meet people. the more your known the more chance you have. good luck with your quest.
oh and dont send messages like nice tits :grin: i know you wouldnt.
Amazed, read a profile, honoured their wishes, sent a polite message with a photo as requested, then they invited me to a party later this month. Plan is working well so far.
So mr two you mean like see what life and/or this site brings you when you act with some courtesy and common sense?
just like in real life - nice, respectful and genuine will get you laid more often that being an arrogant, argumentative jerk. At least by the people worth hooking up with
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) and I changed my profile text to what it is now because I got sick of blokes trying it on....
My point is because of these people that cant read, spoils it for everyone else.
