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sending people a message with not a return .. is this wrong
Orgasminator
We always reply to msgs from couples as they are our target market.
Those who don't bother to read our profile and understand what we're looking for often don't get a reply.
Cheers,
Good & Greedy.
Sexlightened
Quote by rach_pete
we personally send out messages to people and they see them but cant even send a reply ....
G'day Rach
If the people you are sending to are newbies and still on a 'free' membership, they cannot reply to any messages
these days you must be a full paying SH member to be able to reply
Phil
Quote by Lumix_Lovers
we personally send out messages to people and they see them but cant even send a reply ....
G'day Rach
If the people you are sending to are newbies and still on a 'free' membership, they cannot reply to any messages
these days you must be a full paying SH member to be able to reply
Philthe thing is they are members as it has extra next to their name .. yes good and greedy you guys are like us and do the right thing .. we were also talking to couples and we send them our private pics and they disappear and they also piss us off they could have said sorry guys not what we are looking for .. this happened also just this morning ..
Orgasminator
i know we would reply, love the pics
speaking as a single bloke , rach_pete ,,,not receiving a reply is pretty much par for the course ....while I agree it could be considered rude ,considering you have gone to the trouble , I assume , of writing something worth reading ,and not just " hey ,,like you pic's and profile ,,wanna cum and fuck with us ?? " ... however the sheer volume of messages that I understand some couples and single ladies receive ,,many would spend their entire lives just returning thanks but no thanks ,,,perhaps a simple solution would be for the site to install a simple automated reply button ,,,thanks for interest but no thank you ,,,this I believe would save a lot of time and needless agro ,,and it can't be too hard to do ,I have seen and even used it ,,( yeah ,,a singe bloke does say no sometimes too ) ,,on other sites .
perhaps some options
thanks but no thanks
you never read our profile so piss off and leave us alone
you've been blocked
sorry ,,we are busy at the moment but we return your interest and will get back to as soon as possible .
just a thought 
tho it can also be taken as no reply , no interest ,,so forget them and move on ,, those who can't be bothered with a simple reply probably wouldn't be worth your time anyhow .
enjoy 
tho it can also be taken as no reply , no interest ,,so forget them and move on ,, those who can't be bothered with a simple reply probably wouldn't be worth your time anyhow .
enjoy 
Orgasminator
Or another reply............
"We're going to the meet & greet on the 30th November, lets catch up for a drink there"
Quote by rach_pete
we personally send out messages to people and they see them but cant even send a reply with ( sorry not interested ) or no thanks or anything and we really think it is rude and annoys us as it only takes a minuite to reply.. what do people think ?
If you want a reply, we think you should message us!
Warming the Bed
rach_pete - I agree, it only takes a minute to reply.
There is a long held social more that if you communicate in a reasonable manner, then the onus is on the recipient of the communication to reply in the same form of communication ie. letter for letter, telephone call for telephone call, e-mail for e-mail, you get the drift.
So yes, 'reply for a reply' is what should happen.
I did write 'in a reasonable manner', so the unintelligent and often rude replies should not be expected to be answered.
Orgasminator
I reply to people who have read my profile and match my criteria. If they haven't bothered reading it, whyshould I bother replying?. For the articulate ones who have read my profile and mention something about it, I will reply to, but this rarely happens.
Master of Sex
I always reply ... Easy that ... Seeing I get probably one a year ;)
We always try to reply but admit that sometimes it may take us a few weeks before we decide on what to say or the right wording as we like to personalise the response rather than use standard comments, mind you we are not perfect and so we likely have missed some messages (given that unless saved they disappear quick)
Mind you, of late it has more been Telstra -- just built and moved, took Telstra 2 bloody months to get a phone connected
Orgasminator
Quote by shebagazz
just built and moved, took Telstra 2 bloody months to get a phone connected
thats because you live in the boonies :boxing:
we get about 12 to 18 a week, mostly singles who cant read.
Orgasminator
Quote by Greg007
Is it really that hard when you receive a message to read it, look at the profile and reply with a thanks for the interest,but yes or no.
when they dont bother reading your profile or ignore it yes it is. if they dont understand no single men or nobody over 30 etc then why would they understand no?
Sex God
Quote by Greg007
Is it really that hard when you receive a message to read it, look at the profile and reply with a thanks for the interest,but yes or no.
Valid points all over -
Strangely enough for this place.
Though i agree, if you dont read a profile, then you shouldnt get a reply. I think the point is, Thanks but no thanks. Doesnt hurt.
After all the op was talking about manners.
But then again, if your not a full site member, and only have 3 chances to talk to those that interest you. Who do you think they are going to reply to. (unless this as been changed again)
The profile that matches what they are after.
Or the one that just saids hi...
Oh the choices.
Quote by Greg007
Is it really that hard when you receive a message to read it, look at the profile and reply with a thanks for the interest,but yes or no.
Greg, it may have already been said so if that is the case than we apologise where a person may not have read the profile and will still contact people, that is to us somewhat rude and whilst we will generally reply, we also fully understand that many people do not reply as they do not feel like rewarding rudeness.
But, a crucial point is also that whilst one can complain if a person has not read your profile and messaged you, is your profile clear enough that the sender could not be uncertain?
We ask this purely as we know of some people/profiles that when we read them we genuinely have NFI of whether we fit the criteria or do not, thus (in our case) we do not contact, but what if someone does try to make contact and does not meet the criteria?
IMO, it is just as critical to ensure that one's profile is clear in what they seek as if this is not the case it is then unfair to criticise those that may also be confused
Quote by mr_twonewbies
we get about 12 to 18 a week, mostly singles who cant read.
We found that after putting a male picture up as our main profile picture, we get hardly any messages from single guys anymore. When we had Mrs T's picture up we got plenty, even though our profile text clearly said no single guys. It seems that when the profile screams "Man inside!" rather than "Woman for your pleasure" or the "Let your imagination run wild" of having no profile picture, then many guys won't even bother clicking.
Or maybe there's just something off putting about Mr T's photo. Come to think of it... we don't get nearly enough couples or single women messaging us either.
:lol: 
Orgasminator
I find the profile pic rather tempting 
Orgasminator
I'm with you Ms Greedy, I've checked out that profile pc more than once
Orgasminator
i thought of that tempted but it would put everybody off
We saw this in someone's profile on another site. Thought it was amusing, and relevant to this discussion.
A woman created a profile with the tag line "more cocks in all holes!!!!" and a username that is similarly suggestive.
A short time later she updates her profile with the following message:
"EVERYONE pls slow down i've only been on here for 2-3 hours and i have 124 messages
88 winks
10 chat requests"
A woman created a profile with the tag line "more cocks in all holes!!!!" and a username that is similarly suggestive.
A short time later she updates her profile with the following message:
"EVERYONE pls slow down i've only been on here for 2-3 hours and i have 124 messages
88 winks
10 chat requests"
Forum Virgin
I see a lot of the excuse if they haven't read the profile they don't deserve a reply. An mostly aimed at single men. I try not to message people that have no single men in their profile. But heres a thought not everyone is on here to try and fuck everything they see. some of us have joined so that there might be a chance to meet someone with the same sort of mental and or sexual inclination. And though there is a high chance won't meet a single chick on here. It would also be nice to make some friends be them couples or single chicks. So sometimes might message a couple as they simply sounded nice. Another thing I find hard is not everyone is that into talking about themselves so their profiles mightn't actually be a fantastic read , but unless you give people a chance how will you know. Tho I do admit that sometimes you can tell straight off def wont be any sort of connection. even if I got a hundred messages a day, which I don't I barely get any replies lol. id at least say nup not interested. To me I try to treat it as if up the street, if someone approached me and said hello, I wouldn't turn my back and walk off. Anyway, just my 2 cents
Warming the Bed
Unfortunetly, not answering is becoming the signature of this site....
Im with you guys, a "quick thanks but no thanks" put some above all the others here
Orgasminator
All the more reason to allow people to get to know you through the chat rooms & attending meets & greets.
Super Admin
Hmmmm a Reply with a No button would be nice, Let me speak to the technical team
So for example if you read their message and was not interested you could click the "Reply No" button and it would message them back a message under the lines of
"Hi,
Thanks for taking the time to contact us but we would not be interested in meeting at this time.
Regards,"
Although this would be impersonal, it would save you time?
So for example if you read their message and was not interested you could click the "Reply No" button and it would message them back a message under the lines of
"Hi,
Thanks for taking the time to contact us but we would not be interested in meeting at this time.
Regards,"
Although this would be impersonal, it would save you time? 
Warming the Bed
Quote by gasketThey're not replying, not ignoring the entire message, it never said they weren't reading them, so more then likely the message wasn't "I want to be friends" but rather "I want to fuck your wife"
I see a lot of the excuse if they haven't read the profile they don't deserve a reply. An mostly aimed at single men. I try not to message people that have no single men in their profile. But heres a thought not everyone is on here to try and fuck everything they see. some of us have joined so that there might be a chance to meet someone with the same sort of mental and or sexual inclination. And though there is a high chance won't meet a single chick on here. It would also be nice to make some friends be them couples or single chicks. So sometimes might message a couple as they simply sounded nice. Another thing I find hard is not everyone is that into talking about themselves so their profiles mightn't actually be a fantastic read , but unless you give people a chance how will you know. Tho I do admit that sometimes you can tell straight off def wont be any sort of connection. even if I got a hundred messages a day, which I don't I barely get any replies lol. id at least say nup not interested. To me I try to treat it as if up the street, if someone approached me and said hello, I wouldn't turn my back and walk off. Anyway, just my 2 cents
