Why so cold ladies

hi there everyone, I'm sure I'm not Robinson carusoe  when I ask this simple question, ladies, if you get a message from someone, why fob him off like a dirty dish cloth. Supposed ideal matches that appeal to me and aren't a few hundred Ks away, I send them a polite tasteful (usually) message and no reply, if we aren't of any interest how about letting blokes know? Dozens of messages sent off and 1 lousy reply. A simple thanks but no thanks would be great,  hell, I'd be happy to be told  to drop dead, at least it's a response. Bazz 

Well said Bazz.

I've had one woman check out my profile 5+ times, I've sent messages and got back zip, nada, not a word. Where's the equality? 

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hi there everyone, I'm sure I'm not Robinson carusoe  when I ask this simple question, ladies, if you get a message from someone, why fob him off like a dirty dish cloth. Supposed ideal matches that appeal to me and aren't a few hundred Ks away, I send them a polite tasteful (usually) message and no reply, if we aren't of any interest how about letting blokes know? Dozens of messages sent off and 1 lousy reply. A simple thanks but no thanks would be great,  hell, I'd be happy to be told  to drop dead, at least it's a response. Bazz 

If you ever meet a lady on here you should ask her to show you her inbox (rather than just her box lol) and maybe you have an understanding of why that is.

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I try to reply to all my messages I think its a polite thing to do. However I receive so many and so many are so rude they would make you blush lol I get asked to look at their profiles and you go to have a look and they have no info on their profiles no pics nothing! C'mon guys you need to get our attention send us something original and funny not rude or crude! You are in a competition where the men outnumber the women great for us but not for you! And don't get me started on cock pics just randomly sent to me! Stimulate our minds and our body will follow?! There is a man on here who is very good at it! Well he charmed the pants off me! Lol Maybe you all need to get lessons off of him

Have to agree with Am I 

Manners are for free and I try to answer all messages that come in, but as like  Am I, I get inundated with messages , be it those  check me out messages .. which 9/10 times those profile have nothing on them at all ... or I get flat out dick pics  with nothing else ... like I have said ... don't send me dick pics .. it's like getting a gift card for a present ... no imagination... and we know they all do the same thing... 

Yeah this is a "swingers site"  supposedly ... just a nice way of saying yeah .. i wanna shag ... but  with the amount of bullshit profiles  and this is all profiles .. not just guys is astounding ... or its males just after pics to add to their wank bank collection....or profiles on here are also ..just look at me but don't touch glory hunters ....I am far from being a prude but  Some of the things that come in you think ..wow and you talk to your mother with that mouth.... We are not asking for the wine and dine bullshit ... but a little tact and decorum goes a long way... Us women have the luxury of being picky considering the amount of male to Female ratio. 

Yes I do believe that if you guys put in the effort to actually type something then the women should really reply ... but have a good look at their profiles first ... if you don't fit their demographic .. you probably won't get an answer

I have been on an off for 5 or so years .. and i have met some absolute devine men.. some after all these years I still play with .. because they  have got it on all levels of Stimulation and arousal.

But I can only talk for myself.. I'm not a bitch ,, i'm just blunt 

Good luck xx

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Sneaky I'm the same...not a bitch just blunt, upfront and very clear about what I want and don't want

I agree with youbignbeautifulwife your classifications are spot on lol ! However I must admit some of the ridiculous messages do keep me entertained even more so then some of the boring ones! Unfortunately I am after a spark and a connection and I am finding it very hard to find! I have had it before and I want it again! Maybe all the nice genuine men are at home being faithful to their wives lol 

They are an absolute hoot Fuckable. Im definitely getting my subscription fee back in laughs. 

As for spark, I keep an open mind and never expect much lol 

I know not all the good ones are at home . Patience and clear expectations .. should help find what you're looking for. All the best 

yeah must admit im of the same..shits n giggles  entertainment  

Good luck girls may the force be with you ;)

maybe that's my problem I expect too much! Lucky I am a patient lady and the right one is worth waiting for! But in the mean time there are lots of chats and laughs that's for sure!

i love dick pics. Not lol they all look the same

I have been a member on here for years and had some great times. That said there has been a substantial increase in the above stated, Not just woman but also couples who contact you then dont get back in contact. I take it as the norm now that most people literally have no manners or common courtesy. Hence i no longer make an attempt to contact anyone. And the disappointing thing is some on here that say they return messages are the biggest culprits.

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I have been a member on here for years and had some great times. That said there has been a substantial increase in the above stated, Not just woman but also couples who contact you then dont get back in contact. I take it as the norm now that most people literally have no manners or common courtesy. Hence i no longer make an attempt to contact anyone. And the disappointing thing is some on here that say they return messages are the biggest culprits.

In fairness sometimes people look interesting until the chat starts, then based on the chat it obvious nothing going happen.

Likely if a lady/couple does not get back to you then it's obvious they are not interested. 

I agree maybe a "Thanks but no thanks" if they feel you are worthy of it, like you say it's what you call common courtesy. However it's also likely they had a better offer elsewhere and you have simply been overlooked/forgotten.

On a further point and I'm sure some of the ladies will confirm!! Is that some guys ask for honest feedback as to why they were rejected and it doesn't go down so well.  For many just killing the conversation is a far better method.

It also might be noted that some people have their notifications turned off for single guys, so they don't even know you are messaging them. They can't be rude if they don't even know you are trying to contact them. Of course, if they have notifications turned off, then they aren't interested in hearing from single guys either, so even if they replied, it would be with a 'thanks but no thanks'.

I don't have notifications turned off. I recently was messaged by a
single guy, asking me to meet up to play. I sent a polite message back that I wasn't meeting anyone,
 he was too young, single and a smoker. All three are of no interest to me. He messaged back asking to meet up again. I replied again, that I was not interested in young, single smokers, and that I wasn't meeting anyone at all right now. The next message was saying that he and his FB would like to meet up with me. How long should I keep responding with a thanks but no thanks beforegetting annoyed and sending a rude message?>

Well said Bazz, I'm always polite, mostly no response. Or if so a small one and nothing. Not very community minded if you ask me.

Guys, and I repeat this - you may be messaging someone who has messages turned off for single guys. Therefore they have no clue you are even messaging them as your message isn't going through. Try talking to people in the main rooms of chat. Talk a little, then ask if they want to go private. Much better idea than cold calling someone who may not even be aware you are around