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we look 4 play mates man and women sum men turn up and get a shock coz me a large lady and so is he we like sex
well, I don't know why they would be shocked, you have loits of photos of yourselves on the site. The way I figure it, is a lot of men (and women) are on here are married and their spouses don't know. They have no intention of meeting because that would be 'cheating' but have no problems setting up meets. They figure that if soeone wil meet with them, then they will have sex with them - so they 'score' without cheating on their partner. This is sick and childish. But it happens a lot. Have to just move on and make other appointments .
We have trouble just finding other couples/women to meet-up with in the first place :-(
Unfortunately, we all have to filter through the time-wasters to find the genuine people on the site. It can be extremely frustrating at times but I've met some brilliant people through here and they make it worth it. They're the people you focus your energy on.
Keep being yourself and don't let the others spoil your fun.
Jake
http://www.swingersheaven.com.au/groups/949/
Funny that Ive never missed a arranged meet up
cannot get away from their wives
saw your profile, says large, do they think size 12 is large ??? well i suppose it is if you buy cloths from china on line weve had to re arrange 2 meets but we did meet up and sometimes it takes a while to get a date organised but if you promise to go then go, not doing so is slack and low. i do understand that family stuff takes priority but an sms or a phonecall is all it takes good luck and dont give up.
We imagine that for some there is a big difference between the fantasy of meeting a stranger for sex, and the reality of it actually happening. They get freaked out with nerves, performance anxiety, etc, and opt not to show or to bail early.
I have never failed to arrive at a pre arranged meet ,,,I also give my mobile no. to those I am due to meet so they can contact me if I happen to be late finding my way or for in case they need to cancel due to family needs ,,this has happened to me once ,,,,as for a complete no show ,,, well I for one wouldn't dare to do pull this stunt on anyone
Quote by letshaveun
we look 4 play mates man and women sum men turn up and get a shock coz me a large lady and so is he we like sex

How sad to hear about the size of some, we are certainly not all the same, someone is keen to to have an encounter with another and are let down only because he or she is a little overweight. What's wrong with some ppl....we are not all size 8 or 10, but the way I see it our bodies in the flesh is most certainly a beautiful thing...
So "letshaveun" don't let some of these ppl let you down
Well said "gotit". A perfect response.
Quote by Daniand
We have trouble just finding other couples/women to meet-up with in the first place :-(

know that feeling, most people see our pics and never talk to us again
How i wish you were all in adelaide. I know a few guys, as well as my self, who love larger curvy ladies.
Well, after reading through this thread and looking at people's profiles, all I can say is... holy crap! I understand we need to do a certain amount of due diligence before we meet people but far out. I would be willing to meet everyone who's posted in this thread, if they were wanting to meet up with a straight male to play, or even just to have a drink. What the hell? I noticed someone on here has in their signature something like a man should choose his wife not with his eyes but his ears. I quite like the line from *Pulp Fiction*: "It's unfortunate what we find pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is seldom the same." (In fact, I just added it to my signature!) There are genuine people on SH, of that I am certain. Perseverance will yield its reward. Good luck to all of us! :-)
Know how you feel Letshaveun .... we cant spell it out any easier in our profile willing to let them see our private pics ... get the ok for a meet and greet ...turn up and they no show ...very frustrating But we can only but keep trying
Well its happened again date, time and place sorted ...get there wait an extra 1/2hr... a no show what do you have to do
you do what I do, set up a meet at a food place, that way if they don't show, you can grab dinner and head home to get back online smile
Quote by MrnMrsBIG
Well its happened again
date, time and place sorted ...get there wait an extra 1/2hr... a no show
what do you have to do

Send them a pm telling them how rude they are. Leave negative feedback on their SHREP and leave a comment on their profile so others can see it. Just make sure the comment is constructive and not abusive.
And to the no show - YOU'RE A KNOB!
Yes Haidee thats what we did ordered a meal and some drinks ...helped a little ...lol
Quote by GoodandGreedy
Well its happened again
date, time and place sorted ...get there wait an extra 1/2hr... a no show
what do you have to do

Send them a pm telling them how rude they are. Leave negative feedback on their SHREP and leave a comment on their profile so others can see it. Just make sure the comment is constructive and not abusive.
And to the no show - YOU'RE A KNOB!
But that can be considered naming and shaming....
if the comment.... is posted, be it constructive or not.
shep would be the spot, but again, constructive is the word there too...
You want to blow up.. at all .. if they receive a abusive email or abusive anything on site, and they report.
Then it back fires...
Enough grapevine on this site.. word of mouth... is a big killer of anything .... even if not true.. smile
Quote by TheRose
Well its happened again
date, time and place sorted ...get there wait an extra 1/2hr... a no show
what do you have to do

Send them a pm telling them how rude they are. Leave negative feedback on their SHREP and leave a comment on their profile so others can see it. Just make sure the comment is constructive and not abusive.
And to the no show - YOU'RE A KNOB!
But that can be considered naming and shaming....
if the comment.... is posted, be it constructive or not.
shep would be the spot, but again, constructive is the word there too...
You want to blow up.. at all .. if they receive a abusive email or abusive anything on site, and they report.
Then it back fires...
Enough grapevine on this site.. word of mouth... is a big killer of anything .... even if not true.. smile
I disagree Rose. The comment box on their profile is not naming and shaming at all. It acts as validation, be it good or bad. We often read comments lefts on other people's profiles.
Bagging them openly in the forum or chat is naming and shaming
Quote by TheRose
Well its happened again
date, time and place sorted ...get there wait an extra 1/2hr... a no show
what do you have to do

Send them a pm telling them how rude they are. Leave negative feedback on their SHREP and leave a comment on their profile so others can see it. Just make sure the comment is constructive and not abusive.
And to the no show - YOU'RE A KNOB!
But that can be considered naming and shaming....
if the comment.... is posted, be it constructive or not.
shep would be the spot, but again, constructive is the word there too...
You want to blow up.. at all .. if they receive a abusive email or abusive anything on site, and they report.
Then it back fires...
Enough grapevine on this site.. word of mouth... is a big killer of anything .... even if not true.. smile
I disagree Rose. The comment box on their profile is not naming and shaming at all. It acts as validation, be it good or bad. We often read comments lefts on other people's profiles.
Bagging them openly in the forum or chat is naming and shaming
Spot on Greedy. You can say that again! Oh, wait. You did. lol
Quote by GoodandGreedy
Well its happened again
date, time and place sorted ...get there wait an extra 1/2hr... a no show
what do you have to do

Send them a pm telling them how rude they are. Leave negative feedback on their SHREP and leave a comment on their profile so others can see it. Just make sure the comment is constructive and not abusive.
And to the no show - YOU'RE A KNOB!
But that can be considered naming and shaming....
if the comment.... is posted, be it constructive or not.
shep would be the spot, but again, constructive is the word there too...
You want to blow up.. at all .. if they receive a abusive email or abusive anything on site, and they report.
Then it back fires...
Enough grapevine on this site.. word of mouth... is a big killer of anything .... even if not true.. smile
I disagree Rose. The comment box on their profile is not naming and shaming at all. It acts as validation, be it good or bad. We often read comments lefts on other people's profiles.
Bagging them openly in the forum or chat is naming and shaming
Umm it will be Naming and shaming if you bag them,, and thats in any public areas of the site. Which is why we have shrep :Shrep is the validation point.... For meets :)
As it states in the AUP - Naming and shaming members (with the exception to the reputation system).
:)
So as we see it with SHrep you can only post good things about someone and to post something negitive about them is name and shaming whats the point of having SHrep then if both good and bad rep can not be posted to let other members know either way If they arrange a date and do not show up without a valid reason then they only have them selves to blame for a negtitive comment placed on thier SHrep profile , its not open forum bagging of a member , members that are genuine and do the right thing have nothing to worry about , the idiots only can blame themselves for a negitive rep Just like on ebay you can leave positive feedback and negitive feedback what the difference here
Quote by melbcpl01
So as we see it with SHrep you can only post good things about someone and to post something negitive about them is name and shaming whats the point of having SHrep then if both good and bad rep can not be posted to let other members know either way
If they arrange a date and do not show up without a valid reason then they only have them selves to blame for a negtitive comment placed on thier SHrep profile , its not open forum bagging of a member , members that are genuine and do the right thing have nothing to worry about , the idiots only can blame themselves for a negitive rep
Just like on ebay you can leave positive feedback and negitive feedback what the difference here

UUMM no.. you post.. what you want to say....
Its the only place naming and shaming can happen.....
As it states in the AUP - Naming and shaming members (with the exception to the reputation system).
That is shrep system.
Probably for the same reason people don't reply to messages that are sent to them
Quote by justme65
Probably for the same reason people don't reply to messages that are sent to them

lol Well played, sir.
Quote by TheRose
So as we see it with SHrep you can only post good things about someone and to post something negitive about them is name and shaming whats the point of having SHrep then if both good and bad rep can not be posted to let other members know either way
If they arrange a date and do not show up without a valid reason then they only have them selves to blame for a negtitive comment placed on thier SHrep profile , its not open forum bagging of a member , members that are genuine and do the right thing have nothing to worry about , the idiots only can blame themselves for a negitive rep
Just like on ebay you can leave positive feedback and negitive feedback what the difference here

UUMM no.. you post.. what you want to say....
Its the only place naming and shaming can happen.....
As it states in the AUP - Naming and shaming members (with the exception to the reputation system).
That is shrep system.
What a load of crap
so what happens if the person doesnt have SHrep makes it a bit hard to make a comment