I was forever seeing people complain about people not showing up or not letting them know they aren't going to make the meet they had previously arranged and i always thought they must just be unlucky until it happened to me...
What the fuck is wrong with people seriously??? Is it so hard to just say to someone sorry I've changed my mind or something has come up instead of ignoring contact or switching off their phones...
It's just rude, disrespectful and out right fucking WRONG!!!
No wonder people have a hard time meeting others on this site when you have others stuffing us genuine people around for no reason what so ever other than they just can...
Wake up to yourselves, if you don't really wanna meet then say so, don't put other people out because you're a dildo. Yes i said dildo because they look good but aren't real exactly like a dildo haha
i have to agree with you there bitchy
Hey I'm hearing you Bitchy. Not only on this site , Gay/ bi sites are the same & even" legitamate" dating sites like rsvp or e harmony have the same problem.|
Too many wankers with to much time on thier hands because they are too scared to actuallyget out & meet & socialise with the human race.
OH and that goes for both Guys & Girls & couples
my theory is that these people are married, and their partners don't know. They get their jollies chatting up people, arranging to meet, then not showing up. Not showing up means they aren't cheating, bu they can tell themselves that others find them attractive, because they wanted to meet - but they didn't cheat! How good are they?! (that last sentence was sarcasm)
Hey, we have been on the receiving end of this and been slandered.
Difference is we were in an important meeting that went about 2 hrs longer than expected, but we messaged the other couple and they then posted on the forum complaining about this issue.
No show is different from texting and explaining that something important has come up
That is also like profiles that message you and you respond and they never reply, even though they contacted you???
Worse, they are often repeat offenders.... they must send so many emails they forget who they have contacted!
Best thing is to all speak on the phone first.
Don't forget you can use the site rep to your advantage!
Cheers
D & C
Those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.. just sayin ;)
Very true baby_doll well said ?
I got caught out too, had lined up a meet with a couple, husband rang me an hour before the meet saying his wife was in hospital and could he come on his own. I said no, and hung up. Turns out his wife actually fell and broke her leg, and actually WAS in the hospital - but still! Wife in hospital, hubby says, sorry love, just gotta pop out for our 3some without you?
Two2Please, I was more interested in playing with the wife - the hubby was more of an afterthought, but the idea of shagging someone's husband while they are in the hospital was really offputting for me. If he is insensitive to his wife's needs, why would be be interested in mine? After all, his wife is the one he told the world he loves and adores enough to marry
I know what you mean....... we live in the country, every meet is usually a bit of a trip and a motel. Remember the meet and greet we met you at bitchy ? It was a last minute thing that we actually went to that. We were approached by a guy about 2 weeks before who was at a motel in our town, invited us to his motel..... when we said yes, all of a sudden his mates came back from the beach and they'd decided to head back to Sydney for New Year. Should've known then. He wanted pics texted to him, wanted faces etc...... we only sent really general ones, what he sent back were just the ones off his profile. Made arrangements to meet at a nude beach on South Coast whilst we were in Sydney on other business. Meant we had to stay the night, but that was okay, Sydney is 8 hours from here, we had to stay somewhere. Two days before he rings and says can only meet during day, the beach isn't appropriate, so we decided to book at one of the motels listed close to the meet and greet, had to book and pay for 2 days as he could only meet during day. He texted in the morning and confirmed. An hour after he was meant to meet he texted and said that he was disappointed and upset that we were at Caste Hill. It was way too far for him to drive from Sydney where he was going to be that morning to drop off a cricket bat for repair and wasn't coming. Gave us a real horrible serve for not booking closer to him (mid January) so he could meet. My guess he is not in an open relationship or separated, and couldn't explain being away for that long at all. We only drove 8-9 hours from here to Sydney in January and booked the motel an hour further on than hour business, paid for 2 nights (not one) so we could meet in the middle of the day (he wanted 11am hook up and as everyone knows you can't check in to a motel before 2 and have to be out by 10, so 2 nights) and then sat around waiting to be abused for booking a motel so far away he only had to drive 1 hour to get to it. Needless to say my answer to his text was not a pretty one. We saved the weekend away from our kids by going to the meet and greet and having spontaneous fun. Then this guy has the hide a few months later to make contact again and when we ignored him, he asked "are you not talking to me for some reason ?". I don't want to say his name, he said he was from the Gong, separated now but kept his couples profile because it was too difficult to change (yeah right). I think most of them just shit themselves when someone actually wants to meet (can I say shit ?) and don't know what to do. What do they think the site is for ? Talking ?
Never stood anyone up at all bitchy!
I learnt a big lesson that weekend, now know how to screen.
I know what you mean....... we live in the country, every meet is usually a bit of a trip and a motel.
You are so patient.
That's an awful lot of dicking around for one single male.
lets keep this post on track and not pulling apart folk. Any nasty or mean or naming or shaming . Anything like that will get the poster in trouble and the thread locked.
"People in glass houses just shouldn't
That said we agree with sentiments about being sensitive that there is a clear divide between "those who get their jollies flirting", and those who would not possibly make contact/date, even if they wanted to.
Been stood up once, and it will never happen again.
Would rather just say " it's a nice idea, lets see if it flies sometime" and see if hey keep coming back
We would rather be seen as a bit distant or picky, than lead anyone on,
And finally, ffs people, it's the internet, does anyone really expect "honesty", "or "integrity" or all those other nice words we like to think we can live up to.
Thanks for the thread, great idea
We get approached by bi-claiming men a few times a week.
After several failed meets, we now let them make all the effort.
After all, it's usually them that's cheating.
With actual couples, the women always talk on the phone first .
and with bi-claiming men, it's always "you host", and, as a special test of time wasters or not,
it's boys only on first meet.
I think it is now accepted to waste peoples time. Ill use my most recent example. I meet a nice couple at an adult get together. we all hit it off very well and agreed to meet at a close nudist venue, confirmed via text 2 days before. Upon arrival they completely ignored me and approached some other friends of theirs. ( and yes they saw me naked prior ) I walked up to say hi and they just brushed me off. I always believed that nudist weren't materialistic, i got proved wrong that day as i dont drive a 100 series landcruiser or have a 40 foot van in tow. The rudeness of some people amaze me. So in point i have no expectations of anyone being genuine even the ones that contact you and give you there phone number.
I have had some good and not so pleasant experiences on the swingers sites. If I have been chatting with someone for a reasonable time, there is an interest and we decide to meet, I have always ensured that I turned up.
But I have had some who suddenly stop chatting mid way, leaving you guessing what crime you committed. They don't even have the courtesy to say what is wrong, if there is any. My plea to these people is don't lead others on if you are not keen in meeting. If you only want to chat, say that in the beginning so that the other person can decide if he/she wants to continue.
I have just had one instance when someone didn't turn up and wasted my time.
why.. do you think it applies to you?? :P lol
