I have noticed the profiles of STRAIGHT MEN wishing to 'play with' bi/gay men...... doesnt this make that straight man bi-curious in the very least ??? Most of these ads are a couple claiming to be a STRAIGHT MALE and a bi-female... and when I have asked them about this , they have reassured me they are indeed STRAIGHT!! Have I missed something , am I extremely naive ???? Or something ?? (By the way I am a bi-female ) I would be interested in hearing a few different opinions on this !! thanks for ya time xo
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STRAIGHT MALE ??? or is he ???
we list bi men as well as straight men even though my husband is straight because we have no issue with bi men - as long as they respect my husband is straight.
we have had 3somes with bi men and straight men and we find bi men to be more comfortable with a MFM.
Not to mention if there is some accidental touching of bits theyre less likely to freak out 
Sex God
To us if a guy has seeking couple with bi male he is bi no matter what he has as sexual preferance , they can not be bi and straight at the same time they are one or the other not both
Think they tick the box for couple with bi male just to increase there chances at meeting someone
They could be so confused with there own sexuality they dont know what they want , if anything conflicting information lessens the chance of meeting someone .
There seems to be a lot more single male profiles popping up with this trend
Guys we ask why would you want a bi male if your straight ?
Melbcpl01
Sex God
Just as we thought not one reply from all the single straight bi males out there
Melbcpl01
Sex God
just looking at the post again , well it can apply to both single males and couples where it has straight male plus seeking bi male couple with bi male in the profile information
guys either your straight or bi make up your minds or watch what boxes your ticking off
Melbcpl01
as i said earlier my husband is straight, we have no issues playing with bi men as they tend to be a lot more comfortable to be around
so we tick the couple with bi male box
i would also love to watch two bi men but thats my own little fantasy and nothing to do with my hubby lol
and bi as opposed to gay so then i can join in as well
all the boxes i have ticked for my own little fantasies :) whether its voyeurism or stories etc
all the boxes i have ticked for my own little fantasies :) whether its voyeurism or stories etc 
Sexlightened
Quote by Sammi
we list bi men as well as straight men even though my husband is straight because we have no issue with bi men - as long as they respect my husband is straight.
we have had 3somes with bi men and straight men and we find bi men to be more comfortable with a MFM.
Not to mention if there is some accidental touching of bits theyre less likely to freak out
You reckon a few guys freak out when theres a "crossing of the swords" huh sammi?
We would have thought that a straight male would not be comfortable having a mfm 3sum with a bi male, there will be accidental touching and the straight male might be less comfortable known that if the other male was bi, the accident might not be an 100% accident, there got to be doubt if one is bi and the other is straight. We have always looked for only straight males when we are after a mfm 3sum.
Fair point/s Melbcpl01, and firstly I'm speaking as a straight guy seeking only girls and couples, but I do have a theory on the subject. I think it was Kinsey who said that all people can be rated between 1-10 straight to gay. So if a guy was somewhere say around 3-4 he might consider himself straight but be somewhat inclined to bi-sexuality (which might make them appear confused). I guess its important to remember that in some parts of the community there is still some stigma attached to declaring to be anything other than hetro. Also after speaking to a few people in that chat rooms I think perhaps people don't want to be contacted by lots of guys even if that's what they're looking for, as generally they'd rather do the contacting, so hence they have some what contradictory profiles. I don't know if this helps or not but I always like to have my 2 cents worth.
Husbandandwife, in the case of a straight guy having a mfm 3some with a bi guy, it rather depends on what the touching you mention constitutes. It's only a problem if the touching is clearly not an accident and of a more sexual nature (i mean given the circumstance of course it sexual but there are limits of acceptability). Its pretty easy if you have chat first, you both understand the terms and there's a certain level of trust. Just get to know the people before hand and its all good...
Cheers.
Master of Sex
My point of view I'd that it is all about comfort levels. I don't consider myself bi but at the same time am very comfortable in a mmf scenario. When you are in a situation where people understand each other and are quite open to a level of adventure you can have a lot of fun indeed.
Here is a question for so called "straight" guys. Say you are in the middle of a hot sex session. Bodies are intertwined. Sweat is heavy. The gorgeous girl is sucking the other guys cock and she looks up at u and with that look says come and suck this with me. What do u do?
Master of Sex
Lol that's why I said so called. People get so hung up on labels. I don't want to limit myself. Life is about adventure and sometimes trying something outside of your normal.
Very straight male here. Couldn't be less interested in other guys, on a sexual level.
Have been in a couple of MFM situations, however - and the whole two naked dude things didn't matter at all. The last time, the guy had previously indicated he dabbled in a little 'bi' play. But I didn't really care for it. That was his thing - not mine.
In fact, even as our dicks were in her mouth together, it still wasn't a problem. If he had bisexual inclinations and was even enjoying himself having another naked dude that he was able to get amazingly cozy with - it still was not an issue for me. I wasn't going to grab his cock, I wasn't going to kiss him. I wasn't going to touch his ass. Didn't want to. And he made no apparent effort to initiate any contact that wasn't a direct result of being with this girl who was enjoying having both our cocks to play with.
When a couple indicates the male is 'Bi' - provided he understands that I am not (and behaves himself) - then whatever. It's all good.
Master of Sex
Lol that's why I said so called. People get so hung up on labels. I don't want to limit myself. Life is about adventure and sometimes trying something outside of your normal.
Master of Sex
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Thats fair enough Sammy,
But I believe this stuff we hear about no labels they dont want to limit their sexuality does not gel with us.
Its simple you are open to sex with the opposite sex, both sexes, or just the same sex.
Hotqld not trying to get anyone to believe me. I'm just adding my 2 cents and being as open as I can be. I think the musician Pink has a nice way of saying that she us a tri-sexual. Try anything once;)
Hi Man-In-Black:
You made some good points. We have been with a couple of guys who were worried about the bi thing and I am careful not to rock the boat. However we had an interesting thing happen at last night's (Attunga) Bi-Night Party.
A. seemingly, nice guy was chatting at the bar and asked us to go to a room. We were quite clear that we do not play alone but once in the room he announced that he was somewhat homophobic and wanted no part of a 3 way. He became pretty upset when we tossed him out.
What on earth was he thinking coming to a Bi-Sexual party??
T & K.
I think some straight men say they can play with a bisexual man as this can give the straight man a better chance of playing with a bi-mans female partner, if there is one. What the straight man is saying is that he may be up for a little bit of man to man fun (within limits) if he is allowed to fuck the blokes partner. He is not into putting his dick up another males arsehole but he understands that the male partner is bi and there has to be something in it for him.
I think single men need to be clearer in these cases as to what there limits are with the bi sexual man. As I just said, a guy who describes himself as straight probably isn't going to want intercourse with another male.
Labels are not always correct. I say to others that I am straight, and I never seek out men, but on a couple of occasions I have gotten a headjob off males as this has helped me to get a bit of action with their female partners. It is just the way it has to work sometimes. I could be referred to as a semi coerced bi curious male he he he.
Without a doubt this post shows how devious some men will be just to have sex any faking Bi and any misinformation with the goal of getting someone elses female partner is disgraceful.
That you would feel its appropriate to say such a thing as personal experience or tactics reflects very poorly on you.
Bi sexual and any sexual activity develops I guess and in really hot and shared couples swinging such encounters can and are likely to occur, if the level is controlled its really of no consequence as everyone is going off and enjoying if not there was something wrong during the vetting process for potential partners.
This post again cements our total disregard for single men seeking couples for sex , If couples want that then thats fine by everyone If they do want a single guy extra then they would likely initiate the request and that would mean the guy doesnt have to lie, thus couples feel some guys or there experience has been good and due to there open and upfront proposition it has been but these successful swinging sharing with an extra have to agree that any deception is unacceptable.
Currently as a couple and with a group of friends very interested in why single guys seek couples and not single girls per say, it is becoming clearer these guy are so desperate for sex they will engage in bi sexual conduct to get to the female partner, whilst not truthfully wanting or valuing bi sexual playing
I find that statement totally unacceptable , if on the other hand the guy was interested in any level of bi sex then we feel thats totally acceptable but tolerating a blowjob or anything to get to the real MF sex is disgraceful.
Please be open honest and see how good swinging is the more liars the more manipulators and the more contrivance the less future the people involved in swinging are likely to have this sort of out come is not good for anyone.
Firstly, I am Sexmad, not sedmad. This set the tone for your ill thought outburst.
I did not say some men are faking being bisexual and being deceitful. I was giving an explanation as to why some straight men may seek out a bisexual man in a relationship. I did say that if this is the case then the straight male should be clearer about his limits with the bisexual man. This is why I do not like labels because there are people who do not fit into these labels the way narrow minded people like yourself expect.
And I did not imply that men who seek out bi sexual men in a relationship are not valuing bi sexual play, I was saying that they may not want to engage in intercourse. Once again, these labels lead to preconceived ideas about what behaviour is standard for sexuality types. Some men are quite happy to just get a headjob etc from another man and this can be quite a pleasant experience.
In my post I said I have gotten a headjob off males as this has helped me to play with their partners. I did not say that I got headjobs because this is the only way I could have had sex with their partners, I just said it helped. And guess what.....I really enjoyed those headjobs too so don't get up on your high horse and try to slag me off as being some horrible, deceitful single male because I think that some members who can actually think for themselves will actually see you for being narrow minded simpletons.
Sex God
sexmad its clearly a typo the D key is right over the X key have a look at your keyboard , am sure you have done the same type of typo yourself more than once and over looked it , we know we have many times
So not the best opening line to a reply message hey
Melbcpl01
Sex God
Have to agree.. there Voyeur.
Its a shame when a subject comes down to name calling.
So back to the subject at hand.. shall we, Im assuming as adults, you all know how to talk about things, without lowering, or putting any one else down.
Dont we?
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I have noticed the profiles of STRAIGHT MEN wishing to 'play with' bi/gay men...... doesnt this make that straight man bi-curious in the very least ??? Most of these ads are a couple claiming to be a STRAIGHT MALE and a bi-female... and when I have asked them about this , they have reassured me they are indeed STRAIGHT!! Have I missed something , am I extremely naive ???? Or something ?? (By the way I am a bi-female ) I would be interested in hearing a few different opinions on this !! thanks for ya time xo
Will try to give or side of this, and apologies if it rambles a bit.
We are a couple and do openly seek couples and single people for play, yet we have no sexual preferences for these people other than they be willing to enjoy themselves and make sure we enjoy ourselves.
With regards to bi-guys we have found them to be far more accepting and accomodating when we are having a threesome as in contrast many 'straight' guys we have found to be uncomfortable due to fear of male/male sexual contact. The problem being that the fear of these 'straight' guys with regards to unwanted advances means that they actually ruining an atmosphere and really, why would we bother.
Suffice to say that many, yes many of the straight guys are homophobically straight which is a turn-off when they approach you as a couple for a threesome yet they have only one intention which does not involve the male. In our case, should they state up front what they want they may well get it, but to lead on then turn will mean no chance.
Alternately, we have found many bi guys or at least bi-comfortable guys who will play with no such fears and this leads to fun, sexually charged erotic times that we all enjoy.
Now, to clarify our preferences we could best be described as a couple who are totally open to everything with Sheba definitely bi-curious and Gaz very comfortable in the environment so we may be different to some here who have commented.
Shebagaz
well clearly the point of our post has been lose to the point scores.
Sexmad did say he accepts bi men to get to there female partner.
Secondly yes it is unacceptable if you lie about your intention or have alternative agenda no matter if single to couple or couple to single In our humble view dishonesty is just that and it doesnt add to the experience.
There are way to many people prepared to accept that as they have lucked out into a safe group that others who have been deceived have no recourse or views.
We dont have any position on bi sexuality we prefer to be labeled sexual and any limits are found by experimentation and how natural and good the event feels.
But we can not accept liars and deceptive behavior those who are upfront no matter the relationship status or orientation are fine with us.
We do mot agree with different entries for the sake of it because they can, but we do object if its couples only and single get in. We really enjoy the couples night for what they are and on occasion we enjoy mixed bi nights or whatever for what they are, we are in fact very open and respectful people we do however demand the same, and find small increments of deception no different to large ones, our friends are honest with us and and us with everyone we meet or chat to, We dont think its unrealistic just a matter of weeding through the inconsistencies.
IT may read as a personal insult Sexmad if youtake it as a wake up call to express deception is never good, we do however accept your post was honest in its content and circumstance may be your justification but it still proports deception.
OKandQ,
I did not say I accept bi men to get to there female partner. I said on a couple of occassions I have played with the male partner (gotten headjobs) as this has helped me to further my chances with their female partners. I said in my second post that I enjoyed these experiences with the males, which I did. In these situations the men were quite fit looking young guys and I was open and willing to engage in a bit of activity with them (not just accepting them). You have to understand every situation is different. You have now said that I accept bi men to get to there female partner.
The way some people will read your line is that I just go around banging every bi guy and then force myself on there partners having reason to do so.
You do have a predisposition to get stuck into single guys judging by your previous posts. Sometimes you are definitely justified but it seems you are the type who want to sink the boot in whenever possible to reinforce your negative image of us.
