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Hi everyone I need soem advise / suggestions. me and the wife have recently been going thought a "dry" path in the bedroom however things have recently got better. I guess we are past the point (been together 14 years) where it's only about the cock in the pussy... if you know what i mean. So recently we have been exchanging kinky emails, basically about a girls pictures (a local girl, we don't know here but the pics are from our area so it feels close as such). The wife is turned on by pics of girls but says she don't want to do anything with girls one on one. So my question is do you girls think she is maybe suppressing her "real" feeling given the like of the pictures and society pressures are telling her it's wrong / cheating on me! I'd be more then happy for her to experience another woman i don't even have to be there (but I'm keen to be).
i never thought id like to play with women but it happened and i love it so soft and gentle dont get me wrong i love men but women are different
Quote by twonewbies
i never thought id like to play with women but it happened and i love it
so soft and gentle
dont get me wrong i love men but women are different

We learn something new about you every day, Mr Two ;-)
have you maybe thought of ringing up the mff threesome idea? she can get as involved, or not, as she feels free to. Just make sure the second wooman is at least bi curious
I'd love to have a FFM and am after all a very red blooded male!!! However I think she is struggling with the whole "but it's cheating on you" thing. She sometimes has pre-conceived ideas about things and wont explore them. Despite being proved wrong many times in the past. If it was soothing she was up for any advice on how to find someone, obviously on here but to be honest I'm not 100% sure everyone is who they say they are!!
Quote by ajsydney
i never thought id like to play with women but it happened and i love it
so soft and gentle
dont get me wrong i love men but women are different

We learn something new about you every day, Mr Two ;-)
lol aj, wish i was half as good looking or that popular
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I'd love to have a FFM and am after all a very red blooded male!!! However I think she is struggling with the whole "but it's cheating on you" thing.
She sometimes has pre-conceived ideas about things and wont explore them. Despite being proved wrong many times in the past.
If it was soothing she was up for any advice on how to find someone, obviously on here but to be honest I'm not 100% sure everyone is who they say they are!!

Hi Syd,
For what it's worth, in relation to your challenge here.
When we were first starting out, it was brought to our attention (and it made us more relaxed about it all) that swinging is simply a recreational activity, provided you're of the understanding of what role it takes in your life. It can't be taken too seriously, or be allowed to take over your life.
Some people go bike riding, some play sport, some go shopping for shoes & handbags, some do swinging. It's just something you do to get your kicks, and at the end of the day, you both go home talking about what a great time you had bike riding, playing sport, shopping, swinging, or whatever it is that you do to have fun together.
If you do it right, talk about where your limits are, stick to them, and trust each other 150%, you'll enjoy every moment. Your limits will be moved over time as you become more comfortable with what you're doing.
For us, it's all about experiencing this stuff together. Possibly if your lady understands and appreciates that it's in aid of you guys experiencing stuff in a controlled way (you control how far it goes), then she'll enjoy this new recreational activity, and you'll get to push your boundaries just that little bit & enjoy yourselves.
Hope that helps, and isn't too off topic.
Regards,
A & J
some people bbq with friends, some go to the beach with friends, we fuck our friends
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some people bbq with friends, some go to the beach with friends, we fuck our friends

Bahahahaahhha......... biggrin
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I'd love to have a FFM and am after all a very red blooded male!!! However I think she is struggling with the whole "but it's cheating on you" thing.
She sometimes has pre-conceived ideas about things and wont explore them. Despite being proved wrong many times in the past.
If it was soothing she was up for any advice on how to find someone, obviously on here but to be honest I'm not 100% sure everyone is who they say they are!!

Hi Syd,
For what it's worth, in relation to your challenge here.
When we were first starting out, it was brought to our attention (and it made us more relaxed about it all) that swinging is simply a recreational activity, provided you're of the understanding of what role it takes in your life. It can't be taken too seriously, or be allowed to take over your life.
Some people go bike riding, some play sport, some go shopping for shoes & handbags, some do swinging. It's just something you do to get your kicks, and at the end of the day, you both go home talking about what a great time you had bike riding, playing sport, shopping, swinging, or whatever it is that you do to have fun together.
If you do it right, talk about where your limits are, stick to them, and trust each other 150%, you'll enjoy every moment. Your limits will be moved over time as you become more comfortable with what you're doing.
For us, it's all about experiencing this stuff together. Possibly if your lady understands and appreciates that it's in aid of you guys experiencing stuff in a controlled way (you control how far it goes), then she'll enjoy this new recreational activity, and you'll get to push your boundaries just that little bit & enjoy yourselves.
Hope that helps, and isn't too off topic.
Regards,
A & J
Hahaha I have this image of AJ shopping for shoes and handbags. Although getting you in a change room might be fun lol.
Also Syd, going to a meet & greet is a great way to meet others in a relaxed, no pressure atmosphere. Usually held in a bar or pub and everyone is friendly and fun to chat to. That might put your lady's mind at rest when you meet some people like yourselves.
Good luck.
Cheers,
Good & Greedy.
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Hahaha I have this image of AJ shopping for shoes and handbags. Although getting you in a change room might be fun lol.
Also Syd, going to a meet & greet is a great way to meet others in a relaxed, no pressure atmosphere. Usually held in a bar or pub and everyone is friendly and fun to chat to. That might put your lady's mind at rest when you meet some people like yourselves.
Good luck.
Cheers,
Good & Greedy.

Actually, great idea. With that in mind, we also remember being nervous about our first Meet & Greet, but 5 minutes after you get there, and start chatting to people, you'll realise what you've been missing out on this whole time, and will feel almost immediately comfortable with the people around you.
Best of luck.
A & J
P.S. I can see you trying to jam me into a fitting room, Greedy... lol
Maybe she just likes looking at pictures of girls? :-?