that is my understanding too bluepair ,,,that does not however mean that your messages will be one of the 3 that is replied to ,,if indeed any are .
I recently wrote a fairly long message to someone in response to an ad they put up. I was polite, respectful and used proper English and got no reply.
I understand not getting a reply to a one liner, but to read a long, properly written message and not even reply with a simple 'no thanks' is downright bloody rude in my book.
Do remember that, unless it has been changed, unpaid members can only reply to 3 messages per day (yes, I agree it's a stupid rule). So if they got swamped with responses to their ad, they might not have been able to reply to you promptly (and not bothered to wait days before they could reply to everyone 3 at a time).
But yes, most people quite simply don't reply even when they can and should, and yes we find it quite rude too.
Complaining isn't going to change anything though, so if someone can't cope with that then they really should get out of this game.
We think that no reply is a reply in a way. It says "I'm just not interested". Sometimes this is better than someone telling you in graphic detail what is wrong with you and why they aren't interested. Also our profile clearly says "no single males please". Now if someone doesn't bother to read this properly then why should we bother to reply? Anytime we have it has turned into a long discussion or argument.
So I think it is a matter of the old saying " If you can't say something nice to someone then just don't say anything at all"
On another site we got a message from a couple who said something to the effect of "Even if you're not interested, please send us a reply to let us know" (unnecessary for us because we always reply). We were interested, and sent them a polite response with access to our private gallery. Clearly they weren't interested after seeing more about us, but did they reply to let us know, as they had requested of us? Of course not. In fact they even went so far as to immediately block us. We're not fussed or offended, but the hypocrisy is amusing.
wow TT, you got knocked back? After sending photos? What is this world coming to........
And how are we to know who is a paid member and who isn't and may have used their 3 replies up for the day?
Also, we clearly state if we want single males we will find you.......so don't waste your breath.....we wont reply.....if they then send a msg anyway......well........
We too have had this problem.
We put in our emails saying "if we do not seem to be the couple for you, then please let us know", (not only on this site but on another as well), but still no response. On the other hand, when we have been sent an email we haven't responded right away (due to work/family time), sometimes it is hard to be on here every day. We responded back apologising for the delay - but then no response back.
This is not everyone who we have emailed, we are greatly appreciative to the couples who have responded.
Does sending a "gift" or a "wank" constitute sending an email for those who can only send 3 a day? Even though the "wank" list doesn't seem to be for couple - couple.
The problem here is that Rach- Pete is pretending to be a couple when in fact he is a single male. He uses "we" in his forum post but look at his profile. You will see it is Pete and pete. both presumably straight males (same age) and no pictures or any other information. He messages couples when those couples clearly state on their profile "No single males" and "We will not reply to messages from single males" This is why he doesn't get a reply! He is the one who is rude!
I think it is quite likely that when RachPete first posted the question it was in fact a couple profile. This is an old message/thread which has been resurrected and while now it certainly does appear to be a male only couple, I'm under the impression from reading it when the post was first made that this was not the case. Previous messages on their profile seem to be commenting on the fact that they are a lovely couple and a great time was had by all. Sadly, circumstances and situations do change.
ETA: And presumably now as a result of you pointing this out, the profile is now that of a single male, not a couple.
