Self esteem and Body image

Hey everyone,

Not that everyone has issues with it but if you do, how do you deal with self esteem, nerves and body image issues?

I have had this account and have been lurking the forums and chat rooms on this site for a few years now (Not continuously but a stint every couple of months) but have not uploaded a photo or contacted anyone due to feeling as though I would not be attractive enough or personable enough to whichever standard is held. I also feel as though due to being utterly and completely inexperienced in any kind of sexual relations that I would essentially just be wasting even interested peoples time.
I know that this thought train is incorrect and harmful and I would like to ask how if anyone has overcome these issues before and can offer any advice?
Thank you kindly for reading and I am sorry for asking nonsense like this on here.

you Know Moon .. that's really hard to answer .. and i think due to your age and the way society is these days ... makes everyone self conscious of everything ...social media is a bitch..... I am of the old school variety ,, that shake what your mumma gave you .. to love your skin regardless ... and who gives two hoots what people think ... always find the fun in everything you do .. on an every day purpose .. not just here .. you need the rest of your life to be cruisey to get the self esteem basics ..... if you walk in thinking that women will only be remotely interesting if your cracking a six pack and look like an adonis .. you are severely mistaken ... as you would know looks aren't everything ... some of the biggest male twats on here have great bodies .. but are shallow and spiteful to women ... as some of the stunning looking women ... can be very cruel to men and women for that fact ....

its us run of the mill people that keep this world balanced from the self centred egotisticals that throw it off balance.

Even though you have been on here for a few years .. just take things slow ... load a pic of what your best asset is ,,, if you have killer calf muscles,.. start there .. you make have a sexy big toe ....work your way into .. can u use the chat rooms ... just wander in there and start talking in the main room may get you more at ease with the way this joint runs 

doesn't matter at the stage of sexual experience i suppose ... you are going to build up to better things 

Self esteem/body image work hand in hand with confidence ...

what i said may not make sense at all... but good luck man 

Leap of faith in your self is all you need 

Bacon

xxxx

Well said bacon....beauty is always in the eye of the beholder and manners mean alot. Its a case of striking a chord with people and how you treat you time on here.

I know exactly how you feel. For years my ex gave me shit about having a bit of a tummy, called me fat etc. Okay to be honest I could of lost a few kg's but I am not fat, but it didn't make me feel great. Now fast forward a few years, remember the ex comment lol, okay I was very unsure about posting a photo but mate not many of us are models. I have come out of my shell, I am a hell of a lot more confident, yes I still have some ups and downs but if you dont try and get out and meet some people you will never get over the hurdle that you have in front of you now. If you need a stranger to chat to send me a PM happy to listen and give advice.

Agreeing a lot with Miss Bacon here too. Personally, I like a bit of 'squish' in my guys,. I prefer not to end up with bruises in 'interesting' places. There is a fgavoured body shape out there for everyone, and who knows - you may be someone's perfect fantasy. But you won't know it until you dip a toe in the water.

I do have to admit that it's easier on these sites being a woman, we are vastly outnumbered by the guys so it's a case of supply and demand and some can get a little arrogant and dismissive. And yes, some of the absolute stunners (both male and female) can be complete areseholes.

I have chosen every single one of my playmates, no exceptions, from meet and greets and chatrooms. I hang out in the chatrooms and keep an ear open for intelligent, open, polite and charming gentlemen, who don't open a conversation with "wanna fuck" or "check out my massive cock". My usual response to this is a semi polite "No thank you"

Make yourself known int he chatrrooms, even if there is no one in there that turns you on, someone in there may think you are perfect for one of their friends. Women on here talk to each other. If you are a douchebag, it gets around. If you are worth talking to, that gets around too. Some of the most popular guys on here are popular because they TALK to women, not AT them, they make us laugh, and laughter is sexy!

OK, I'm getting a little soapboxy, so I'll stop, but listen to what we are saying, and engage in the chatrooms. You may be pleasantly

Thank you everyone for the replies, It means a lot!

I think I will wait and attend the next meet up when ever it is and hopefully develop some kind of rapport with even a handful of people so that I don't feel utterly and completely on my own here before attempting any moves.

Moon, make some friends in the chatroom, that will ease your way into the meet and greets, as you will already know most of the people going

awww all you guys gave great advice 

Moon 

Not everyone on here judges purely on looks ..... And what you might think is not great ,some might find that a little sexy .... Get in the chat room .... Say hi ... Make general conversation ..... It might be an adult sex site .... So we are adults too not all just Randy sex fiends ... ( well some)

Good luck Hon and don't be so hard on your self ...I'm not model material, but I've learnt to like me for me 

Quote by moonrune
Hey everyone,
Not that everyone has issues with it but if you do, how do you deal with self esteem, nerves and body image issues?
..... Thank you kindly for reading and I am sorry for asking nonsense like this on here.

G'day Moon

Just seen your post ...
The business of body image and the associated sexuality desires / responses is one that affects us all at various stages of life.  Some of us are "blessed" to be built like a hollywood film star, the other 998/1000 are just normal people

I have been involved for many years with a group that has "Love, Intimacy & Sexuality" weekends [the venue is about an hour's drive from Sydney] where 50 - 60 adults spend the weekend together, all naked, exploring their sexuality along with love & intimacy

I will not put their web details here, as I do not want admin to zap the post ... what I invite you to do is to PM me and I will give you website details.
ps- the group is a legal Aussie business, no issues there, has been operating in Oz for over 30 years, and has had over 10,000 Aussies through its LIS workshops

Phil