It is a fantasy of my wife and mine for her to do the whole suck and fuck a stranger. How ever its proving harder than first thought.
Over the last 6months she has approached 8 men in public and at work and been knocked back every time. Some have called her a slut other called her a desperate house wife looking to trap men.
Can someone please tell me what she is doing wrong or is it all on the guys shoulders and there up then self.
Cheers and thanks in advance for the tips n pointers.
What is the pick up line she is using or her approach like?
~Lotus
She been in idle chit chat with the guys she has known and then told them we are swingers and that im fine with her giving them a head job or a root if there keen. The others she has pulled up and asked outta the blue buy just asking if there keen to have a play.
Personally I think a lot of people these days are just a little too closed minded. So many people have too many hang ups, to me it sounds more like her asking the wrong people than anything else. Personally, if somebody asked me something like that, I would at least hear them out with an open mind, but each to their own of course! Keep on trying, and you'll find someone much more open to what you wish to explore. If you were a little closer, I'd say ask me lol
Good luck :-)
Maybe the guys have learnt from bitter experiences and that of others...
viz...:jagsatwork:
"If it sounds too good to be true, it isn't"
most likely its attraction or lack of it , maybe she feels comfortable to ask but the person not comfortable to receive the request, look at it this way we have zero interest in an extra guy so no matter what line or approach we just wont be going there, maybe these people she has approached just arent going there.
Quite often you can chat a bit and feel out if theres any fun and or flirtatious responses we find that many just ask for too much too soon . Most single guys lack social graces hence they are single so do not be surprised if they find the proposition overwhelming and if married well the vast majority of couples would never consider swinging we didnt until our mid 40's.
As we arent interested in another bloke we are on a different page based on our own personal experiences this info may not apply to others but might be an interesting spin on it
go to a sex shop that has glory holes or adult cinema. its easy there
men are scared if asked they go somewhere and get mugged or blackmailed.
I was presented with this scenario a few years back...I found it easier to find a male online and prep hi mto the scenario...screen him for safety / guidelines etc and then had him arrive at a predetermined venue ...such a s bustop....or cafe table...at which you prompt your wife to approach that fellow.....not entirely the real deal..but if you find a guy that loves role play he wont give the game away.
If you were in Melbourne.................... I'd be in.
The guys you approached were probably ALL gay and didn't want to be sprung !!!
i think that most guys talk big but when it comes down to it... scared little chickens.
she wouldnt have to ask me twice!!!!!!!!! ive had anon woman in the past hit me up and ive never refused............why would u?
Like they say "One you knock back is one you don't get".
I agreed to meet but something came up and it was a no show so still waiting. Will let you know when it happens.
What type of men is she asking, buffed Ken dolls or average Joe's ?
Usually Ken only wants to roll with the barbies if u get my drift
I must admit I am guilty of knocking back a woman for sex.
Only twice has it happened to me in a 100% normal straight situation (when we were in the swinging / nudist scene it happened often and going back then none of the women got a knock back from me).
The last time we were on a cruise ship, I got into a lift and their were three women in the lift and they came on real strong with one of the women asking me straight out if I was up for a quick fuck, promising me the time of my life, a god time that I would tell everyone about, then looking at my left hand and seeing my wedding ring added "except your wife", decisions decisions, no it was not really hard, I was on my way to meet the wife to go to a show, I knew she would not approve of it and I was playing it pretty straight with her "at the time", plus being confined on a ship with a woman you had fucked could become a bit confronting and dangerous if things went wrong.
I would say that the woman were having some sort of a bet as to who could get fucked first or maybe the most fucks in the night, how many other guys had they fucked (not that I am against silky seconds in fact I love them under the right circumstances) but I just thought NO, I must admit it was one of the few times discretion got the better of me!
We arrived at my level and I told them "thank's but no thank's" with some regret and left the lift.
As someone said earlier in this forum, one you knock back is one you will never catch up on, but!!!
Rick.