My wife is a larger lady

I love my wife very much and we both want to try the swing thing. However my wife is very self-conscious about her weight. My wife is over 90 kg and thinks people would reject her. Not sure how to talk her around. My wife wants to have a foursome but is worried about rejection.  Have any of you guys had the same problem, if so how did you find away around this.

I think she'd be fine. Some people may judge, but sexy is in attitude not kilograms. Good luck.

I was 113kg and hubby was 150kg. We both had gastric banding and lost a lot of weight. We worked at a swingers club in Perth and had way more success as a bigger lady. After losing the weight most guys would not even talk to me and most said to come back when put 40kg back on. Be proud of yourself and enjoy life as there are plenty of of lovely people to enjoy this adventure with.

Not going to be a problem at all. My girlfriend and I went to a swingers club for the first time recently and she got the best reaction because of her curvaceous figure, especially her ass. There's as much variety in size as there is in taste. I'm BBW exclusive so I'm biased, but you'll find a welcoming response at a swingers club. For any who don't... forget 'em.

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I think she'd be fine. Some people may judge, but sexy is in attitude not kilograms. Good luck.

 Thanks for the comment.

Thanks for the sharing everyone, I will show my sexy wife your comments and hope to be swing soon. 

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Thanks for the sharing everyone, I will show my sexy wife your comments and hope to be swing soon. 

 To be brutally honest, you and your lady are unique. I do know its a self asteem issue and we all have something that we don't quite like about ourselves. Me personally I am not that shallow and find I prefer to judge by personality and communication. Don't get me wrong but you will possibly get some "toss pot" land you with derogatory comments in chat or mail, you do have a report and block button at your disposaland some are quite apt in using them. After all this is an Adult site and most do play accordingly. To start off I would suggest sexy lingerie and go from there. Any way my two cents 

if people don't like you and your wife then that's their problem. they can move on. theres all sizes here and all are after the same thing, FUN. so go and get yourself some.  some nice pics and info would help your profile.

some men prefer larger lady. Myself for one. I just adore curves. But for me and I guess most level headed mature guys its all about attitude. A woman no matter what her size if she is free and open with her sexuality is the biggest i hope you both have lots of fun. 

I have never been small - Currently sitting on 85ish. You know what I do to give myself a shot of self esteem? I go into the chatroom, wear a low cut top and turn my cam on   DOn't even have to get naked. The amount of comments are amazing - sure there are a couple of dingbats who make snide remarks, but the majority are all on board with bigger than size 10 girls. I"m not saying there is ANYTHING wrong with small girls, never being one, I've never seen that side of the fence :) Before 'braving' the scene in person, try getting your toes wet in the chatrooms, make some friends, and before you know it, you are making plans to meet for some sexy fun times :) As has been said before, sexy is in the mind before it's in the body. If you know you are sexy, it shines through, and some who may not have seen you as attractive before, will be attracted to the confidence you put out. (I just realised I sound like some internet self esteem coach ) Get up, get out, and show yourselves off ;)

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I have never been small - Currently sitting on 85ish. You know what I do to give myself a shot of self esteem? I go into the chatroom, wear a low cut top and turn my cam on   DOn't even have to get naked. The amount of comments are amazing - sure there are a couple of dingbats who make snide remarks, but the majority are all on board with bigger than size 10 girls. I"m not saying there is ANYTHING wrong with small girls, never being one, I've never seen that side of the fence :) Before 'braving' the scene in person, try getting your toes wet in the chatrooms, make some friends, and before you know it, you are making plans to meet for some sexy fun times :) As has been said before, sexy is in the mind before it's in the body. If you know you are sexy, it shines through, and some who may not have seen you as attractive before, will be attracted to the confidence you put out. (I just realised I sound like some internet self esteem coach ) Get up, get out, and show yourselves off ;)

 Thanks Haidee for your advice and insight.

I'm 110kg and men in general love me like I am. I mainly go to swingers parties and never have any issues finding men to play with. In fact, they sometimes even line up for me.  As with the comments from the othersothers above, it really comes down to confidence and sexiness.  The more I realize that there seem to be more men that prefer curvy over skinny, the more confidence I have.  They adore us, treat us like goddesses and love a woman who knows what she wants in the bedroom (or out of it, wherever you wish to play, lol). 

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I'm 110kg and men in general love me like I am. I mainly go to swingers parties and never have any issues finding men to play with. In fact, they sometimes even line up for me.  As with the comments from the othersothers above, it really comes down to confidence and sexiness.  The more I realize that there seem to be more men that prefer curvy over skinny, the more confidence I have.  They adore us, treat us like goddesses and love a woman who knows what she wants in the bedroom (or out of it, wherever you wish to play, lol). 

 Well said Jacdogging, thanks for comment.

im by no means small in the least, and i do very well, have a few regulars i see when time allows, some meets wont eventuate into playdates just because im not what they are looking for, but on the whole, its not a disadvantage of being larger... some have gotten very sensitive over their weight and they can then be savage over what they perceive as a negative comment, but they are few and far between.... good luck! im sure you will both be fine xx

Thanks Kerry 

We are all getting bigger these days. Have to say personally much prefer a lady or a guy who has got some curves when I get hold of them I want to now I have someone in my arms not someone that can slip through  lol

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We are all getting bigger these days. Have to say personally much prefer a lady or a guy who has got some curves when I get hold of them I want to now I have someone in my arms not someone that can slip through  lol

 Very true.

Sexy is a state of mind not a clothing size or what other people think. But if it helps, we think your wife is sexy! In fact we would like to see more photos of both of you!

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Sexy is a state of mind not a clothing size or what other people think. But if it helps, we think your wife is sexy! In fact we would like to see more photos of both of you!

 I agree sexy is a state of mind and we all like different sizes, shapes and facial looks that is want makes us all interesting. Thanks yes my wife is sexy and I will see what I can do about more photos.

the best advise I could give is just be honest with yourselves  and enjoy yourselves and if the worst you will do is make some great friends that's enjoying life

Absolutely dig big ladies. There's no such thing as too big. She looks hot, lovely big tits.

Thanks Paul well said

Love the Body your in   Make them feel like a goddess and all the lumps and bumps will be forgotten :) 

I'm not a little thing, it was showing off on sites like this that made me realise that lots of people really appreciate my curvy bits. Haha now I'm a rampant online exhibitionist. Maybe start with some discreet pics of flattering angles (I'm the queen of these) and watch the fans go wild

Do it Bella. and check out one of the world's oldest sculptures the Venus of Willendorff

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I'm not a little thing, it was showing off on sites like this that made me realise that lots of people really appreciate my curvy bits. Haha now I'm a rampant online exhibitionist. Maybe start with some discreet pics of flattering angles (I'm the queen of these) and watch the fans go wild

 My wife is now letting me do videos and take pictures and post them online here in our profile.

Having watched your (extremely hot) videos I have to say I think your wife is certainly very sexy and you won't be short of any offers. Curves like that always attract a man.

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Having watched your (extremely hot) videos I have to say I think your wife is certainly very sexy and you won't be short of any offers. Curves like that always attract a man.

 Thanks for the great comments 

I think that no one should judge anyone on weight or any other features, these days everyone's so judgemental on looks, I go by personality. Tell your life she gorgeous just the way she is don't let anyone tell her otherwise....

I personally think she is very sexy. I've never had an issue with a woman's weight. And I've never understood why people think it discounts a person's attractiveness. I like- scratch that, i love curves on a woman. 

And as a few very wise people have said already, 'sexiness is a state of mind. It's more about attitude than anything else.