Hi everyone,
We thought we'd raise a discussion about something that strikes us in many profiles we view. This is usually couples profiles, but also in guy profiles, when we bother viewing them.
It seems that these days, girls are either completely waxed (Brazillian), or at least have a runway and then waxed. We see that this is more or less the norm these days.
Should the same (but perhaps to a lesser extent) degree of "tidiness" also apply to the gents? By that, we mean that the guys should at least tidy up, or "manscape" as it is termed.
In our opinion, we consider this to be a simple courtesy. As an example, when we are to play, Mr ajs will Veet underneath and the penis, and trim the pubic hair on top to less than 5mm. That way it looks like he has actually reached puberty, but he is still very clean and tidy.
We often look at profiles, and when we see pics of the girl, we like what we see, but when we see pics of the guy and he has masses of pubic hair, it immediately makes us think that that is the way it is all the time. For us, that's a massive turn-off.
Guys, if you generally tidy up for play dates, and insist on putting genital pics in your profiles (we much prefer face pics, even if they are kept in private gallery till later, like ours), why wouldn't you present yourself in this way in your pics? You may get many more "hits" as a result. We realise that some people do like the 70's look. This is just our opinion, but we're also interested in the related views of others.
What are the opinions of the general site community about this?
Regards,
A & J
[quote="ajsydney"]Hi everyone,
We thought we'd raise a discussion about something that strikes us in many profiles we view. This is usually couples profiles, but also in guy profiles, when we bother viewing them.
It is generally expected/acceptable for girls to be either completely waxed, or at least have a runway and then waxed. We would have thought that this is more or less expected these days.
In our opinion, the same, but perhaps to a lesser extent, degree of "tidiness" should also apply to the gents. By that, we mean that the guys should at least tidy up, or "manscape" as it is termed.
In the swinging world, we consider this to be a minimal courtesy. As an example, when we are to play, Mr ajs will Veet underneath and the penis, and trim the pubic hair on top to less than 5mm. That way it looks like he has actually reached puberty, but he is still very clean and tidy.
We often look at profiles, and when we see pics of the girl, we like what we see, but when we see pics of the guy and he has masses of pubic hair, it immediately makes us think that that is the way it is all the time. For us, that's a massive turn-off.
Guys, if you generally tidy up for play dates, and insist on putting genital pics in your profiles (we much prefer face pics, even if they are kept in private gallery till later, like ours), why wouldn't you present yourself in this way in your pics? You may get many more "hits" as a result. We realise that some people do like the 70's look. This is just our opinion, but we're also interested in the related views of others.
What are the opinions of the general site community about this?
Regards,
A & J[/quote
I couldn't agree more I have always been of the opinion if we guys expect you girls trimmed waxed bare... Then it's only fair me as I guy should be the same for the girls.. I used to trim until a little while ago went bare for a while as my fb at the time liked it that way.. I prefer to be manscaped anyway so didn't worry me either way...
But all in all well said!!
Michael
We agree AJ we love the look of clean shave or trimmed pubic area seems to make it more enticing and adds to the thrill of photos lol.
We have a friend thats has let her self go in that area went to beach with her and she had a bathers on,she has a very nice body but as we do had a look at pubic area and low and behold looked like fozzy bear,what a turn off we still laugh about bears ears.
cheers
needachange
each to their own i reckon!!!
'It is generally expected/acceptable for girls to be either completely waxed, or at least have a runway and then waxed'
Really? Who says?
Swinging it about expressing yourself in a way that most people in society don't. The cornerstones of this freedom are tolerance and acceptance of others, so surely talking about your personal preference in a negative way and suggesting shaving is a 'minimal courtesy' seems like a betrayal of these basic freedoms we enjoy as swingers?
My wife and I wax/shave (therefore we fit your model of what is ok) but while my wife prefers shaven men, I love both waxed and natural women (and men for that matter). As I like something that isn't acceptable to you, am I therefore also unacceptable? Is there no place for me in swinging because I indulge those who don't extend this minimal courtesy and just don't seem to get the whole thing?
The problem with labelling differences in personal preference as being unacceptable is that once you start on a road of non tolerance, where do you stop? For example, Australia has one of the highest incidences of obesity in the world, this too is reflected in SH members. Are overweight swingers acceptable? Is being slim a minimum courtesy to others? Again, my wife and I are both slim/medium build and any kind of beer belly is a total turn off for my wife but I love big ladies (and even fat hairy ones if you can imagine that!) so where does that leave us?
So the short answer to why is there masses of pubic hair on profiles must be because you are wrong in your assumptions about what the world at large sees as acceptable.
It's a thing called diversity, let's celebrate all of it even if it's not all to our own personal taste.
though i love answering all and yeh.. never mind.... I dont go for the so called whats expected...i did the hairy to shaved.... part of being a sub in a previous life, so to years ago it was expected.. and still is..... I prefer being hairy.. my self.. just to be different....Trends.. ppfftttt
Though i prefer, guys to be at least trim.... I leave the choices open....
A bit of hair adds a bit of expression and style.
Could you imagine a world where everyone was bald? And I mean on their head, not their crotch. Everyone would look so much more similar. No variety. No sexy hairstyles or fun colours. Boring!
The same goes for those haircuts that are less often flaunted. Totally waxed parts are fine, but give us some enticing variety in hairstyles too. Though please, do at least put some effort into grooming. You wouldn't go on a date without doing the hair on your head, so if it's a date where you hope to show off more hair than that, make sure it's tidy too.
Hi again guys,
Thank you for your input so far. We look forward to the ongoing responses and interest in the subject.
If we may add one thing in response to the posts to date, we would have to say to Squilookal that the tidy up thing is, to us, a courtesy, as if to say it is something that WE do as a courtesy to others (as well as for our own selves as we think it feels better too). That's why we immediately went on to explain that that is what WE do.
Regards,
A & J
It's absolutely fair enough that you don't like lots of hair and so as a courtesy to others you take care to shave but perhaps those that don't do the same aren't being discourteous or don't get it, they just have different views on the matter.
If you see unshaved people in profiles then it's clearly because they are happy to publicly present themselves that way. If this is the case they are probably that way all the time which just helps you move quickly on to someone who is more appealing. Personally I can't see the problem with it but concede I may have missed something.
well, I don't like hair in my food, so prefer at least clippered. Not to say hairy guys won't get a look in. I choose my partners from chat mostly. I like my men articulate so personal grooming and looks aren't as important to me. Funny though that the first question asked of me is whether I'm shaved or not
totally agree Aj.....please men shave your balls
,mrs 2b
xooxox
Most sexy when it's skin on skin and pubes have a way of sticking to tongues! At the end of the day we want what we like.
Am I being silly..... There must be a reason why we got given hair "down there"... LOL
Personally, can't stand hair and I have lasered mine and shaven Mr Seaford's.
Totally agree it's a personal choice.
Regards
Mrs Seaford
havnt seen a hairy pussy in 6 months, love smooth but wouldnt knock one back because of hair
i dont have a lot of body hair anyway but mrs two likes us both shaved so we do.
its sort of like with the cams and whispers, if you dont like it dont do it or look at it
thank you for allowing my spleenal venting
And hair on their chests, and I get wet at the sight of a good snail trail. And I DO love to follow that snail trail all the way down ... brrrrr
Its natural, it's manly, I don't see anything wrong with it. Sure do a bit of manscaping if you like and trim it up a little, but I prefer the hair there.
I totally understand that what one person likes another doesn't, personal preference, etc etc. But I really don't like the idea that a bit of hair is considered 'unacceptable', discourteous and generally ... rude or something. Reminds me of that saying - I may not agree with what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it. If you like the hair, keep it (that goes for men and women) and if someone doesnt like it, then fine they aren't a good match. And guys please dont think that this is what all women want. I agree it seems to be the current trend, but please keep in the back of your mind it is not ALWAYS the case.
And for the record I am almost completely shaven, because I do like to keep a clean workspace. But I like to keep a bit of an airstrip because damn it I am a woman, not a girl and if they don't like it they can go elsewhere 
