I do apologise for removing my original post.
I was subjected to a troll attack on my own page.
Not wishing to have my wife see it and become upset, I removed my comment.
I wish to update this post and seek opinion of the Swingerheaven web site and how they enjoy their time here.
I was of the opinion that this was a 'meet n greet' site with the eventual outcome of some form of actual physical sexual outcomes. Hence the name 'Swingersheaven'.
I now realise that this site covers a broad church of sexual activity physical and non-physical and it is not up to me to criticise others of their use of this site.
So yes, I still believe there are 'lookers' and 'doers'.
However, my original concern remains.
Why make a commitment to engage in an actual sexual encounter and at the first sight of it actually happening and an invite extended that many disappear or come up with some sort of excuse?
I am not talking about those with legitimate reasons. I understand this is not an easy pastime.
There is a profile in Forum called 'Cindy' who organised a gang-bang and no one showed up.
I want to applaud all the women on this site who are prepared to have a go in situations they may struggle with more than guys.
I am sure most women get an ego boost when suitors come a callin' but would be equally devastated when those that have begged to be included end up 'no shows.'
Anyway, thanks girls for contributing most at your male partners insistence I guess?
We are all proud of all our partners I am sure.
Happy playing, whatever your pleasure.
Cheers
Chris
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Sex God
Is having a chuckle... really....
I can see, if we went with this idea. That if some one annoys the hell out of you, you get you and your mates... to get them the three strikes.....
Maybe they dont play or meet with you, but they have met with others.....
hhmmmm so doe's that make them a looker or a player???
Where does it say.... anywhere on site... that EVERYONE as to play????
I dont think its even in the rules.... maybe its the choices folks are making.... There could be heaps of reasons....
You go onto any swingers.. or adult site, and expect to play straight up.... Well
I would say u would be in for a big disappointment....
No site anywhere, can say, you will play on a first visit.... 
But then you could always put into place.... questions and answers.... and based on that you may work out those that will play straight up. :)
Oh the choices....
Will hand this to admin though :)
But then you could always put into place.... questions and answers.... and based on that you may work out those that will play straight up. :)
Oh the choices....
Will hand this to admin though :) 
Sex God
Monica44 have to somewhat agree with you getting someone to actualy commit to meeting up here would be the hardest of any of the adult sites we are on , there are way more dreamers / tyre kickers here for some unknown reason thats not realy the fault of SH itself
While we have managed to meet only a couple of people from SH that have been good experiances but the amount of commitment is very lacking from many
There does seem to be more intrest in birthday partys and the like or chitter chat than actualy meeting for adult related activities
The 3 strikes for no shows maybe a bit hard to moniter but is a good is a good idea if it would work
Melbcpl01
i agree with you monica there are lookers and there are doers but this site doesnt insure you get a root just helps you along the way its up to the individuals and to be honest we are all pervs just some actually make it an action rather then all words. No point making a different area more problems will arise just keep the people that make the effort at the top of your list and who gives a shit about anyone else but hey thats my opinion
Warming the Bed
We agree with Monica sometimes its hard to tell who are fakes and time wasters are, but we keep trying with the hope it will get better.
i do love a comment with a bit of sarcasm in it. but everyone is allowed their say we guess
cheers
needachange
Sexlightened
I have tried to meet people from here with no luck, even drove for an hour to an alleged dogging session to be dissappointed.
I must say it is easy to just post up, chat etc and then just masturbate but, but, the fact that people have their cams on and do things for others to see in the chat rooms shows me there are definitely players here.
Too many rules makes it an admins nightmare, keep it simple I say.
I must say it is easy to just post up, chat etc and then just masturbate but, but, the fact that people have their cams on and do things for others to see in the chat rooms shows me there are definitely players here.
Too many rules makes it an admins nightmare, keep it simple I say.
Orgasminator
I have been stood up in here numerous times, such is life online. My guess is that some of the people in here are married and partners have no idea. They set up meets and have no intention of coming across cos the spouse wouldn't let them. They are only after the score. They don't need to actually play because they got the invite. They 'scored'. They can say - check what I could have had. Not - check what I backed out of.
My favourite lame excuse for not showing up for sex - "My flatmate has me blocked in and I can't get out". Like the fact that he doesn't want to bother his flatmate is more important than rampant sex with me. He tried again the next week and wondered why I knocked him back
Orgasminator
were doers, if you make a date the stick to it unless its unavoidable. we had to cancel once but we made up for it as soon as we could.
also we are a couple and play that way. join us and enjoy us
I guess we are more lookers than doers because we only play on webcam. Having said that, I think our profile is pretty clear on that so we don't feel like we are leading anyone on.
I think the core of the problem is more about respect. If we say to another couple that we will meet them on cam at a certain time then we take it as seriously as people should when arranging a meet.
CaN
Warming the Bed
I am a doer, if you say you're going to do something or be somewhere you be there.
This site has a good feature in Shrep allowing people to rate you. If you have been good and true to your word you will get doo reviews. I think more people should embrace it and use it as a filter for potential fun.
Cheers and good luck.
Dazza
Orgasminator
im going to look for shrep
