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its come to light that somebody has gone around shooting their mouth off that people they know play on cam Even suggesting that a video was made to the point where this got back to them via their kids school So this has me thinking How do we keep ourselves safe on cam from these dicks? 2bnorti
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its come to light that somebody has gone around shooting their mouth off that people they know play on cam
Even suggesting that a video was made
to the point where this got back to them via their kids school
So this has me thinking
How do we keep ourselves safe on cam from these dicks?
2bnorti

Ok purely as a member, i use what a site offers, BUT in saying that, its not up to a site, to look after me, to say this, problem, Thats up to me, its not fool proof, but then i cant blame anyone else.
Dont show what you dont want seen. IE dont show your face, if your afraid of being spotted.
Want your face on cam... wear a half mask.
If you want to play... change where you do play, dont make it so folks, go, OH yeh i know that room...
If you live in a small population area. Dont use your postcode, use the next biggest town...
There is more, but i look forward to the thread on this.
*oh as a moderator though* IF you know some one as said they have recorded folks off here REPORT IT!!!!!
EDIT
*is just one web site with helpful advice.
This is totally NOT on. Firstly, if a video was made without consent than that is a criminal offence. I'm sure you guys have reported this dick to Admin. I have made numerous requests to have more control over our cams. All we can see is who is watching. It would be great if we could control that watch list. Also handy for those of us who are sick of wankers who direct, send disrespectful msgs or annoying whispers when we're on cam. Why not add it in the Extras package as a value add. Or set it up like the whipers option - Allow, Ignore or Block. Maybe if enough of us make the request it might happen. I'm sure I'll get the same response I always get to this suggestion......make a private room and invite only those you want in there. I, and many others, prefer to be in a public chat room. Frankly I'm over hearing it. Yes, it's our choice to go on cam but a little control would be most helpful. Greedy smile
dont know who it is GnG, its not us Just voicing it to see what suggestions come up Control might be nice though And i beleive its been reported now But it has cost us a popular cammer sad 2bnorti
Control doesnt always mean that those you think are safe, wont do what as happened here. Now... this thread was started, for YOU guys can keep your self safe, and not relay on others to keep you safe.
Being able to have an element of control over our OWN safely should be an option for us. Most of us take as many precautions as possible.
I always thought that we all came on this site for the same reason, and all expected the same amount of discretion from each other. This is disgusting to say the least, i think a way of controlling who can and can't watch you on cam if you have extras is a great idea. Might weed out some of the trouble makers..
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I always thought that we all came on this site for the same reason, and all expected the same amount of discretion from each other. This is disgusting to say the least, i think a way of controlling who can and can't watch you on cam if you have extras is a great idea. Might weed out some of the trouble makers..

Who saids it wasnt some one with extras???
Could of been, no guarantee the profile concerned didnt have extras.
So in saying that... WHAT would you do to protect your self's, so this cant happen???? Its sad that it as happened. But the idea of this thread, is to help others and those concerned, as well.. ON what can be done WEB SIDE, this site is just one little area.
Rose, You misread it. We didn't say the person had Extras. Sexii was agreeing with me that offering cam control with Extras would be a good thing. Maybe you can put your Mod hat on and see if you can wave your magic wand and make it happen. I'm sure you'd make a lot of people happy.
True Rose but at least if you had a block button you could stop certain people or even local people from seeing your cam, it has gotta help not hinder..
Agreed Sexii, As blocking someone does not block them from seeing your cam.
It would be good to see an admin try to answer this question, and explain why they won't add a block button for cammers. Every time this topic comes up in the forums, it's left to the mods to answer all the time......even though they can't change it anyway. Most of us are thinking that it will never be changed because it is bringing in the new full paying members. But how long will that last if all the couples and fems stop camming? Not many new members are going to pay out their money to join up and watch a sausage fest on cam every night. We may be wrong, but until admin states any different, I don't think so. And to the OP, thanks for bringing this up, it's a risk we all should be reminded of now and then.
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It would be good to see an admin try to answer this question, and explain why they won't add a block button for cammers. Every time this topic comes up in the forums, it's left to the mods to answer all the time......even though they can't change it anyway. Most of us are thinking that it will never be changed because it is bringing in the new full paying members. But how long will that last if all the couples and fems stop camming? Not many new members are going to pay out their money to join up and watch a sausage fest on cam every night. We may be wrong, but until admin states any different, I don't think so. And to the OP, thanks for bringing this up, it's a risk we all should be reminded of now and then.

Im afraid admin as answered this one often. But mods do cop the brunt, even though folks,think we can wear out mod hats and get things like this done.
The site.... didnt make money, really till less then a year ago. so i dont think money is it, doesnt explain when the 80 thousand who got the site for free, till may last year.
This as been the answer since i first started and to this time, havent heard any differently.
And is one greedy as said she keeps getting.
Which is why i suggested the 2BN write this up. The idea was when speaking to 2BN that we help folks understand about being secure.
Its not just up to a site to add a block button... ONE really.. doesnt solve the problem of security.. in general. FOLKS could be your best mates, and you wouldnt know unless something got out and they admit it.
SO.. how else can you protect your self.
I heard alot of suggestions, ie not showing face, was just one. So how do you be safe???. No place is safe....on the web, worse luck.
BUT how would you do it!!! or are you doing it...
or how do you think you should???
And no i dont want to hear oh a block button works... I want want you do web wide.
Oh and greedy.. me waving my mod hat doesnt make folks happy... smile
But i know something else that will :)
anyway....
So folks.. how web security/privacy aware are you?
This thread brings up a topic that arises so often it is no longer funny. G & G and others have brought it up here again and as they say, we keep getting the same answer over and over without the question actually getting answered. Put simply, WHY can't we have a block button to stop people looking at OUR cam. So many members no longer cam and the reasons are generally the same, that they don't like the way certain members treat them while they are on cam. If a block button was available and you could allow only those that you want to watch have a look then the problem is solved. We have seen the question posed so many times and as G & G says, the answer is always the same, Make a private room and invite people you want in. That is not the answer. Are we expected to open a private room , go into all the chat rooms, pick the ones we want to watch then give them the password. Then while we are putting on our show, do we keep stopping and going back into all the chat rooms to see who else has come in and then invite them in and then go back to our play? The members have asked for a block button for camming and admin have not answered why we can't have one. We are on no other sites but we believe from reading these forums that this feature is available on many other adult sites. If SH cannot give us one then fine but please can we have a reason given for this often asked question.
Gees thanks... sigh Answer as been the same.... since the beginning and admin have not changed that at this point in time. And as they arnt on site till Monday night.. HEY give me a break... So until we can all get an answer that would keep the majority happy dancing.. LETS offer other suggestions... Thanks Oh look i repeated my self.... sigh....
Oh and greedy.. me waving my mod hat doesnt make folks happy... smile But i know something else that will :) anyway.... My suggestion to you wearing your Mod hat was in reference to bringing it to Admin's attention on our behalf. I am well aware that Mods can't make it happen, but I'm sure you taking it to Admin carries more weight than our suggestions that rarely get answered. At least you give us some form of reply, which is appreciated. As for being safe how about informing all members that they should turn off the Enable Location Finder if they have the SH app on their android phone. That is a major safety issue that most members are not aware of. We only found out by accident from another member. No where on this site does it warn of the dangers of having that enabled. In my opinion that is something that is Admin's responsibility.
Just do what I do. Ask " and where are you getting this information" They will either dob themselves in for using the site, dob in someone else, or discredit themselves making their info invalid whether its true or not. If they admit to watching you simply state you must be mistaken or straight up admit to it and ask them what they thought. Challenge them to as why they are on the site.
me waving my mod hat doesnt make folks happy... smile makes me happy rose, ride em cow girl woooo hooo i dont go on cam mainly because i dont look good but mrs two loves it. she doesnt show her face when she remembers lol we havnt had any problems yet with that sort of thing. but if were recognised at the wrong time and somebody isnt being descreet we are just going to look at them wierd and walk off. if somebody does recognise us were not overly worried as long as theyre descreet. the cam room gets a make over for cam times, different bedspread and a cam tweek to change colours slightly . as for the video, if i found it was illegally obtained and knew it actually existed id probably ask for it back or talk to the police. really not much the site can do about it. you also have to remember that you are putting yourself into a pulic domain, its like putting yourself on tv or on the big screen at the football. you really dont have much control over what happens once the cam sends the images on and its easily recorded. so if you dont want to be recognised dont show your face, cover tattoos, change where you cam so it cant be seen as your place or like some on here a seperate area in the garage that is your secret what was said earlier dont put down exactly where you live just somewhere within 20 or 40 ks so its cose if you want to be found. were lucky our postcode is a big area. the idea of a block button for cams is a great idea. maybe somebody could start a poll on here so its easier for admin to see numbers. but you need to remember not a lot of people come here to read posts so you may need to be pro active with this. thank you cum again
Good and greedy i think you will find that app has changed and it doesnt give distances at all now, i did tell site about that cpl of months ago and they fixed it asap. As for recording video im pretty sure but once u broadcast it you lose rights to it and anyone can rec ord it if they wish, the only safe gaurd is that on a site like this they have rules and can ban ppl if found out, but its not illegal. I do have to laugh at aeazy when he says do as i do, lol it sounds like its happened to him often which i doubt.
The block feature (and I'm happy to call it that, because it actually works) on the site that many of us came from stops people you choose to block from being able view your profile, or contact you. It also prevents you from having to see their drivel in the chat rooms too. So, as far as you're now concerned, they just don't exist. Everything they type just doesn't appear in chat. It's great! I'm not sure about how it affects camming, but if it did all those things, AND stopped them from being able to see your cam, the world would be a wonderful place. It's obviously possible, coders, so let's make it happen. A & J
Coastie - the distance locator on the site is not what I'm talking about. It's only found in the SH App for your phone. And it is still there because I just had a look. AJ - The block option doesn't block cams. I was thinking more of an allow button. A bit like the whisper option where you have to give permission for someone to view your cam. Or disallow someone from your Watch List. Either option works for me.
I have actually had people question me about my profile and profiles i have on other sites. Thats why I don't have a face pic and my tattoo is hidden in my public gallery. I don't go around telling everyone I know that I am bi or the fact that I am a nudist and swinger, just my closest friends and some family . I am an upstanding member of my community and have a job where public image is key. However we all have private lives and thsts it they are private And to clarify: it is illegal to record a broadcast and distribute with out the participants knowledge and permission The problem is proving who recorded it
Good it doesnt work on mine as i too just checked, so not sure there. Azeasy, id love to see where you get the law your stating from as ive had a search and cannnot find it
Thats why I don't have a face pic I am an upstanding member lol az, you told me its because you look like a yeti that you dont have a face pic and im not going to touch the upstanding member bit lol 'nah , met az, hes a nice bloke. just needed to have a dig at him, as for the phone app i just turn off the gps thingy
could come under the copyright act as the people on cam are the original owners of the broadcast and it should not be copied otherwise it breaks the copyright laws same as a movie DVD music CD and Photographs..
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AJ - The block option doesn't block cams. I was thinking more of an allow button. A bit like the whisper option where you have to give permission for someone to view your cam. Or disallow someone from your Watch List. Either option works for me.

Probably the "disallow" option would be the most practical out of those two. The reason being if people are on cam doing the kitchen bench, the last thing they want to have to do is stop & "allow" each person that they wish to be able to view their cam... which is the point of being on cam in the first place.
We would suggest the "disallow" button would be more practical and quicker to use, as this would allow you to simple get rid of certain individuals who weren't behaving themselves... and also means you have to invest less time in that, and more time in shagging on the kitchen bench.
*hands out the pine-o-clean*
There's food prep going on there later, you know!
A & J
P.S. lol @ Yeti, Mr Two
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Good it doesnt work on mine as i too just checked, so not sure there.
Azeasy, id love to see where you get the law your stating from as ive had a search and cannnot find it

If you record a TV broadcast and redistribute it, you can be sued, I would guess the same law applies
We are all for the "block" button, would save a lot of unwanted whispers.
We too like camming in the main room
But if we can't have a block button, how about an option to broadcast to the whole room or just who we choose?
And I don't mean in a private room, yes we can do that, but lets face it, we are here trying to find swingers to meet with, hard to do behind the doors of a private room.
Keep the suggestions rolling, and lets not make it a mod bashing thread, as that was not why I started this thread.
And Rose, you keep saying we can't have a block button, but never tell us why.
So why can't we?
We, don't so much care who knows, but we are fairly anonymous in our little part of the world.
But we certainly don't go telling everyone what we do behind closed doors.
Quite a few of our friends know and are cool with it, in fact some have even played with us.
But discretion is the key.
If someone on here sees us and recognises us, come and say hi, but do it discreetly
And please don't record us, you will get another show, lol , in time
We have ran into a mum from school at a party we went to, it wasn't awkward at all as she was the one who came with two men smile
The situation that got this thread started really shouldn't happen.
I think what happened is that someone was rejected and thought, well I'll get you back.
Shouldn't we all be mature about this and take rejection as adult, not a 14 year old schoolboy/girl
If you aren't someone's cup of tea move on, find someone who does like you
2bnorti
yes i understand what your saying but thats not criminal, and as long as you dont do it to make money you cant be sued. I find on this site ppl just post up things about laws that arent actually laws, also nowhere can i find anything that says showing a video or picture from an online site is illegal. Id love someone to prove me wrong, but my thoughts r if you show on here you have to expect under current stiuations that it can get into wrong hands, so be aware and dont just think because its posted here by someone claiming its illegal that your covered