Let's start a controversial discussion:
Are single guys and girls technically swingers or just looking for a romp in the long grass with someone else's partner?
I am asking this as the vast majority here are singles. Before the attack-dogs start - We do meet and enjoy meeting single (openly bi) guys.:color:
According to Oxford Dictionary...
"Be promiscuous, especially by engaging in group sex or swapping sexual partners".
No mention of whether this only applies to couples, but the last line does seem to suggest the person swinging has a partner..
I believe that as long as you are willing to share your partner (if you have one) then you are a swinger. The ones that do the "I want to sleep with your partner, but mine is off limits" are just asshats, not swingers. Singles can be swingers as long as they would be happy sharing a partner if they had one
This info thingy I got on Facebook just tonight describes it as being where couples (usually married ones) swapped partners as being the origins of swinging.
I wonder if these singles would be into swinging as much if they had a partner and had to share them with someone else?
My opinion is that swinging is a couples game mostly but that is not to say that singles dont get a go because there are lots of couples just searching for threesomes.
Just read profiles and dont get offended if you dont get a reply or you get a flat out no.
Happy swinging peeps
I wonder this myself....Am I still a swinger considering I am now single.
The origins have always been a couples sport, where partners swapped, the old keys in a bowl. And I still feel that to swing there needs to be a couple. Singles can sweeten the event but does go outside the traditional boundaries. Yes I often wonder if singles would be happy to share their partners ?? And how many do have partners that are being kept in the dark??
P&E
One thing that we have always found interesting (and please, this is not targetted and any respondees thus far) is that we hear that to be a swinger one must be in or part of a couple.
All well and good but then, often those same couples list that they would like to meet single guys/girls.
So, is or are the couple involved still swinging if they play with a single?
We have had this discussion a number of times at parties and what not and it is very interesting to experience the level of determination that some people have either way on that discussion.
Many people (couples) will adamently say that they are swinging if they play with a single but then will berate a single who calls themselves a swinger (being fair, if the single is a female many see being single as acceptable but pity the single guy who calls himself a swinger).
We say go figure and who cares how one is labelled
well, I came in here through my ex, when we were a couple. He left when I objected to him saying I wasn't allowed to play, but he was. He flounced off in a huff when I got more attention than he did. Therefore, according to my rules, he was not a swinger, as he wasn't willing to share. I am a swinger, as I was willing to share, and would be willing to share again if I was partnered up, if that was how my partner wanted it.