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Bisexual Female, 70
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Sexpert
Quote by Haidee
I, like many of the solo girls, choose their fb's from chat or M&Gs.
I agree with what Haidee says - Many ladies I have spoken prefer to find guys from the chatrooms and meet n greets as opposed to a message or a wink (they get 00's) - that way they get a feel of a guy in how he speaks to others and how he joins in the conversations - funny or a pig.... and also see how other people interact with him - if he is well liked and respected its a good indication on just how genuine he is. It can be daunting to chat in the room where a quick wit and a hard skin may be required and go to a meet n great not knowing anybody - but its like a job interview, your out there selling yourself (figuratively speaking) so you have to do the best you can - the competition is fierce :twisted: - don't think about the might have been just think about what might be...
Sexpert
I wonder what the point is of going to all the trouble of taking some vision of people laying on a nude beach when taking into consideration the legal risks and public humiliation plus the possibilities of some hostile local justice handed out should he be caught.
The quality of the recording would not be that great and now its the u-tube generation and there are numerous videos of nudes on the beach that can be watched in the legal and private safety of your own home - why bother unless there is the thrill of been naughty and maybe getting caught.... it seems there is a illogical and troubled mind at loose...:silly:
Sexpert
I have made a postings elsewhere on much the same topic - there are some people who treat this site as a gaming site, a real life Game of Thrones who make contact and then use their skills to convince other people they are real and do meet so its a challenge to sound convincing and provide any evidence they are genuine and when the game is over they just retreat into the anonymity of the keyboard and there is nothing you can do to confront them as its just part of the game, hearing your angry or puzzled response.
Haidee has the right attitude and assume the meeting is not going to happen and have a plan B so the day is not wasted.
I have noticed on some profiles where one of the conditions is to speak on the phone to the lady of the house, if they are reluctant to give out their phone number or it comes up as "private", thats Strike 1 - if she is "not available" after 2 or 3 requests, thats Strike 2 - if there is reluctance to have their wife speak on the phone or a "what for" response when asked, thats Strike 3....they're out.....
There are plenty of real people so don't waste too much time on the fakers, wannabe's and butters "Would love too but..."
oh....If their pictures look too good to be true, they probably aren't....
Sexpert
yes - all too often so be prepared to be disappointed or pleasantly surprised...
In a similiar way I have exchanged many a friendly message with people and suddenly they stop - no reason given and nothing said to offend - I have thought the people I am messaging feel we are getting to the point where we may ask to meet up and stop so they are not put in an awkward position of having to think of an excuse not to meet up and maybe be exposed as a fake and just playing fantasy games...
Sexpert
Quote by boaty1066
I drive a fire truck from time to time and have never been flashed doing that I think there needs to be more fire truck flashing lol
Definitely our firefighters need all the support and appreciation possible...
hwoar: but all of our friends experiences have been on long straight multi lane expressways where the ladies put their car in cruise control and lose self control 
needles to say - we should not encourage such behavior where it puts theirs, the truckies and other drivers life at risk....:jagsatwork:
Sexpert
A friend of ours drives a Australia Post truck long distance and 2 or 3 times a year he gets flashed by women who know that truckies are up high and can see down into their car where other cars would not have a similar good view - he has seen many a boob flash (usually a long good look) and some with their dress up to their neck. No wonder some truckies have crashes 
but despite that he says its the only thing that keeps him driving
but despite that he says its the only thing that keeps him driving 
Sexpert
A very good point T2 - any symbols or signs indicating that you engage in fun adult activities will always attract those who you don't want to attract especially when its at the wrong place at the wrong time - We have heard a few stories of people, mostly women been approached by guys who recognised them as been on SH - all of which ended badly... guys - your fantasy will not happen in the real world so don't even try it...
Luvvy and I have been in the supermarket and on 2 occasions been stared at by a different couple, we had no idea who they were but it was it was quiet clear they were looking at us. We speculated they may have seen us on cam or maybe saw enough of our faces in pics. but.... of course - we had no Secret Masonic Handshake or nose scratch with 3 fingers to indicate a match of interest so we just ignored them and maybe avoided an awkward scene - pity though, they were rather attractive. :sad:
Sexpert
apparently there are many urban myths about what is the "secret symbol" for swingers - here are some of them...
Pineapple placed upside down in a shopping cart
A pineapple door knocker
A woman wears an anklet on her right leg
A woman wears an anklet on her left leg
White landscaping rocks in someone's front yard
Wearing a thumb ring
Wearing a toe ring
A man or woman wearing a red base-ball cap
Switching the wedding ring to the right hand
Yin-Yang tattoo
Pampas grass in the front yard garden
Pink or purple decorations in the front yard
A fire pit in the yard
A hot tub in the yard
but of course - don't assume any of that is true because your neighbour may just like pampas grass...
Sexpert
Quote by tony22
just a thought---how about putting a "swing" on the side or back ?
yes - good idea - a swing to go next to the cartoon stickers you see in the rear window of cars - mum, dad, the kids and the dog - now add an empty swing (or double swing) to mystify the unknowing and attract the knowing - although, it might cause an accident when the horny, single guy is trying to attract your attention. you would then need an accompanying "no single men" sticker for them to ignore....
- my apologies, yes I was quoting M/s Twatty....
Sexpert
Members should be completely aware there are people on sites like this and others who are there simply to play games and/or act out their fantasies, they have no intention of ever meeting but will go to great lengths to convince others they will. Its just a game to them and a challenge to see how convincing they can be and how far they can play the game in fooling others of their genuineness. Not much you can do about it as the advantage of been anonymous means you cannot find them or confront them in person, banning just means they can re-join under another name and start again or they can block you from making any annoying (to them) calls, text or messages asking for an explanation. Any abuse has no effect as they are expecting that, its all part of the game, seeing the reaction to their fun and knowing they are safe behind their keyboard.
I guess there is no 100pct sure fire way of verifying how genuine a person is apart from personal reference from others who have met them - game players are very good at what they do so people have to be aware that maybe they have been caught up in somebody's game fantasy and until proven otherwise, don't get their hopes up too much and be prepared to be disappointed.
Some gamers are very amateurish and are very easily detected, one "couple" was prepared to drive their truck from Melbourne to the Blue Mountains on Friday and meet us in their motel on Saturday night and all this was based on about 10 minutes of conversation and definitely there was no encouragement from me - of course, we may have missed out on the best Saturday night fun ever but... nobody should drive a truck all that distance to meet us, we are not worth the cost in petrol and it would have been cost-prohibitive so I had to decline their kind offer as a favour to them. 
Another simpler explanation can be the hubby is on here with a real intention of meeting but his wife is not and when he has organised a date he informs his wife there is this great couple who want to meet up hoping that she will comply because arrangements have been made but to his surprise she is NOT interested and he is then put in the shame-faced position of telling the other couple his wife does not want to play after already telling the couple she was...cowards way out is to simply say nothing and hope you will go away.
Another simpler explanation can be the hubby is on here with a real intention of meeting but his wife is not and when he has organised a date he informs his wife there is this great couple who want to meet up hoping that she will comply because arrangements have been made but to his surprise she is NOT interested and he is then put in the shame-faced position of telling the other couple his wife does not want to play after already telling the couple she was...cowards way out is to simply say nothing and hope you will go away. Sexpert
confirming what Haidee has said - when renting a place for the w/e - somebody has to be the keyholder, paying a bond, rent in advance etc as well as been responsible for the condition of the venue - it can be a expensive risk but if the people going are responsible and carefully selected, it won't be a problem. goes without saying if the people are mindful of what they are doing, there should not be a problem with the owners - its in our best interest to not cause a problem so a return visit is possible.
Sexpert
yes, I know this is wicked and in poor taste but If there are coloured ribbons/flags etc available I have a few friends ( and non-friends) I would love to attach to their car and hear about their puzzled experiences. Friends of ours are still puzzled and mystified as to who and why a new, unopened explicit gay porn DVD was dropped in their letter box with a short cheery note.
we are a bit puzzled as well because they have never said what they did with it...
Sexpert
We have been with 3-6 couples who have rented a weekender for fun activities - some have been isolated so complete privacy is possible. The holiday homes usually have plenty of bedrooms and space for socialising, BBQ and entertaining etc. Once the costs are divided up, its a relatively cheap weekend away with friends. Only downside is some of the bedrooms have single beds or bunk beds but only a minor inconvenience...
Sexpert
sounds like a classic case of somebody playing games with you. asking way too early to see private pics is a dead and stopping communication when you say no with a valid reason is another. if you did agree to meet up, they would not show and it's their way of getting back at you for not wanting to play their game - inconveniencing and disappointing you. fakers are very good at what they do, it's how they have their fun at other peoples expense. genuine people know the protocols and expect the same from others.
Sexpert
hmmmm - yesss - schoolteacher fantasy and role play..... Although the schoolteachers of my era would now be long dead or retired grandparents or gr-grandparents there would be a some I would like to f*ck to give me a good result or f*ck because they gave me a bad result and some who would require some BDSM in return for what they gave me...
:kick: - fantasy = what we think of doing when we cannot do in reality...
:kick: - fantasy = what we think of doing when we cannot do in reality... Quote by williek
Good comment tab. You're not alone.
I could have added schoolteacher to my list of roleplay "subjects", (there are many).
Keep having fun.
Sexpert
Semen in the Eye: Is It Dangerous? What Should I Do if I Get Sperm in my Eye?
By: Dr. Debby Herbenick | April 15, 2009
There you are, performing oral sex on your boyfriend, husband or what's-his-name and you start to feel that he's about to come. Maybe, if he's particularly kind, he even warns you with an 'I'm gonna come.' Then, in spite of the fact that he promised not to get it in your eye if you let him come on your face or neck, whoosh! There it goes. Semen lands in your eye.
The fact is that semen does sometimes get in people's eyes either during sex play with a partner (e.g., hand jobs or oral sex) or during mens private masturbation. It is usually accidental and it can be scary, too. People may worry about their eyesight or eye health, particularly if the affected eye starts to get red or feel painful. But they also might not want to call their doctor for advice due to embarrassment.
Should you get semen in your own or your partner's eye or eyes, here are some steps you can take:
1. Don't panic. You're not the first person to get semen in their eye and you're not likely to be the last unless sex toy companies suddenly come out with Semen Splash Guards and they become all the rage. Contrary to some myths, getting semen or sperm in a person's eye does not in and of it self cause blindness.
2. Rinse. You might want to rinse the affected eye or eyes with warm water (not hot water, and not too cold). Semen clumps easily and quickly, and this may cause irritation, soreness, redness, burning, stinging or pain in your affected eye(s).
3. Avoid further irritation. If you normally wear contacts, you may want to remove your contacts and put your glasses on for a while until any irritation subsides. Some people have found that using eye drops helps to reduce irritation. Try not to rub your eyes, which can cause further irritation.
4. Consider health issues. It is theoretically possible to transmit infections (including HIV) from semen to a person's partner if HIV-infected semen gets in another person's eye. And according to a friend who is an ophthalmologist, it is also possible for more commonly transmitted infections such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, and pubic lice to be spread this way (the spacing of the lashes closely approximate that of pubic hair allowing the lice to thrive). He notes that these infections can cause severe inflammation, itching, and discharge from the conjunctiva and in severe cases ulceration of the cornea. But good news: these problems can also be treated by an ophthalmologist. If you are not sure about your partner's HIV or other STI status, please ask him or insist that he get tested. To be certain of your own status, you may want to tell your healthcare provider that semen got into your eye and ask about any appropriate or recommended follow-up testing or health considerations relevant to your personal health. Similarly, if your affected eye(s) continue to be irritated, if they have discharge or if they crust, or if it's very painful or you have any questions at all about your personal health, please check in with your healthcare provider.
5. Note to future self: play it safe. It's very difficult for men to aim their ejaculate as precisely as they may like and closing your eyes while letting your partner ejaculate on your face is not always an effective safeguard against getting semen in your eye. After all, the semen and sperm can still get in your eye through the corner of your eye. Unless wearing protective goggles during sex play is your thing, you may want to use the 'hand shield' move during hand jobs or oral sex, or ask for an early warning 'I'm coming' signal so you have enough time to move your face away from the imminent expulsion.
Oh, and if you need a glimmer of hope: mens ejaculatory thrust decreases with age and ultimately becomes more of a 'dribble' than a whoosh. That means that getting semen in one's eye becomes much less common with men's advanced age.
Learn more in Dr. Herbenick's book, Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction, and follow us on Twitter @mysexprofessor
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so now you know....although....the last sentence is a bit of a worry
Sexpert
Absolutely Love Indian Ladies...
I have been chatting to an young Indian lady (off this site now) for a few months = she is incredibly sexy and always beautifully made up and dressed... her hubby is quiet OK with her chatting to me as I obviously pose no threat to him as I am elderly and happily married and she enjoys her our interaction together. I have chatted to other Indian people on SH and always find them very polite and well mannered - just wish many others would follow their example. :welcome:
Sexpert
written by - Chantelle Austin
This is a common question and an easy one to be confused by because they are quite similar and realistically, a swinging relationship is a type of open relationship, but by the end of this article (if I've done my job right), you'll have a much clearer understanding of what kind of relationship you have right now and what criteria means you have jumped the fence into the other.
First of all, let's get clear about swinging and what that looks like… Well, you know what I mean, we've seen what it looks like to see couples enjoying threesomes, foursomes and moresomes but that's not what I'm referring to exactly, although all of those are included.
Swinging is generally what you call it when you and your partner are enjoying the lifestyle and each experience together. It's just a sex and adventure thing for you, usually in full view or at least ear-shot of each other, just the way you like it!
It's generally accepted that if you're a swinger then you don't have any emotional connections with your playmates, and that's really all they are, playmates. I'd like to add something, which might challenge the generally accepted lines between swinging and an open-relationship…
While most experts will say that there are no emotional connections if it's just swinging, my experience has been that many people are looking for at least some level of emotional connection over and above just simple attraction (even intense attraction) such as friendship and social interaction outside of the swinging scene, but not a deep emotional connection such as love.
An open relationship (also known as open marriage is if the couple are married) includes all the fun and frivolity that a swinging relationship has but it also has agreements in place for each person to have the freedom to date and/or have sex with other people without their partner present. The agreements can vary depending on how comfortable and secure the individuals are within the relationship plus what desires they have to explore with others.
In an open relationship, each additional friendship or relationship doesn't necessarily need to be all about sex, they can enjoy going bowling or for walks on the beach, or going to the theatre with people other than their primary partner. They could easily be a platonic relationship to enjoy shared interests that are not shared by their primary partner.
Some couples opt for an open relationship because one partner has a fetish, sexual desire or some other aspect of their relationship that their current partner can't, or isn't willing, to fulfil. As an example, I'm keen to explore impact play (dip my toes in the BDSM world so to speak) but I'd like to try the giving aspect, understandably my husband isn't keen to be on the receiving end! Our relationship is an open one so I'm able to find someone else who is keen to explore this dynamic with me while letting my husband's backside off the proverbial hook.
Some couples just enjoy having their primary relationship while having the freedom to enjoy being single in their agreed ways, the best of both worlds!
Think about it for a moment, there's something addictive about the beginning phases of a new connection/relationship; the spark, the attraction and the increasing grr factor as you learn more about each other and what gets you both going. There are just some things you can't recreate with a partner you've had for over a decade but the depth of the bond and connection with a life partner is something you can't just create with someone new overnight or even within a few weeks or months.
So in summary; you're in a swinging relationship if you are in the swinging lifestyle purely for the sex and adventure, and if you are doing it all with your partner by your side, or at least in the next room. It's something you only do together and you aren't interested in sharing your partner (or being shared) with someone outside your relationship for something over and above a sexual encounter (or a few of them).
You're in an open relationship or open marriage if you are willing to, and do, allow each other to spend time with others alone, and/or to form sexual and/or emotional relationships with other people outside of your primary relationship. Open relationships where the external relationship forms a deeper bond and loving connection is considered 'polyamory' – a form of relationship where one or both partners have multiple loving relationships at the same time. Did you get that? There will be a test at the end… kidding.
Many couples start in the swinging arena and build such a deep bond and a high level of trust through the process of sharing each other sexually, that they feel comfortable in taking it to the next level to an open relationship, but not everyone does and nor does everyone have to. Ultimately just enjoy where you're at and all the amazing adventures the swinging scene has to offer, and if it evolves or changes into something else, enjoy that too!
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Sexpert
Its a common occurrence and its not just to you that it happens too.
You just have to realise that many attractive and desirable couples and especially single ladies get hundreds of messages every week and it can be impossible to read through and reply to everyone - this is especially so if the person sending the message to them does NOT fit what they ask for in their profile. Obviously if they do not want a single male and they get messages from single guys, they are very unlikely to reply or if they do, give a polite response.
Sexpert
Your experience is not an isolated case as I have had a similiar relationship with a much younger lady from this site - she is 25, goes to university and we have known her for over 2 years now. We chat 2 or 3 times a week and we have had cam sessions with her and despite hints that she would like to meet both of us we have declined and I tell her the fantasy does not always match with the reality but, maybe one day we will. She is attractive and intelligent although a bit of a party-princess she has a steady boyfriend who does not know about us and what her secret interests are.
When I questioned her about the interest in us she becomes very defensive and says its her decision and her choice to decide who and what she is attracted to and why. Like you, we cannot contact her in any way but she can contact us - this is via a social network and not on here. she no longer comes on this site after been constantly bombarded by unwelcome attention when she went in the chat rooms and in her words, the stupid, gross, offensive and often revolting comments by younger males really turned her off this site. she started chatting to me - I did not initiate the contact.
The other ladies had a similiar story and experiences with this site.
and...
Far from been an isolated occurrence, there are 3 other ladies under 30 that I have chatted with for some time and we have met one socially and all have an interest in older men although, in the real word, their physical relationships and friends are all in their age group and one is in a relationship with a younger man. All have said if their circumstances were different, they would love to have physical contact with us. In all cases, the initial contact to us was by them.
We are very aware of what we look like and are under no illusions we look better than we appear and although I may be a "daddy" I certainly don't have any sugar and all have said, the physical appearance is not what they are looking for.
The purpose of this site is where people of like minds and interests can meet up and indulge in their fantasy, kinks, perversions and sexual preferences and orientations without fear, condemnation or prejudices and if young ladies have an interest in older men, that is their right to do so (assuming of course, they are of legal age and sexual maturity).
There is still an apparent on older men/younger women relationships based on the assumption of the experienced predatory older man preying on the vulnerable naive girl, I know if I suggested to my young ladies they were inexperienced and naive they would get rather cross. Some of the escapades of the Party Princess makes my hair stand on end despite my lecturing :jagsatwork:
It is the 2000,s and everybody has the right regardless of age, gender and sexual orientations to make their own decision as to who and what they look for in other people and it is assumed that anybody on this site is more than capable of making their own choices.
There is a quiet obvious double-standard when it comes to older women(cougars)/younger men relationships, its "woohoo, go for it girl" and certainly attracts admiration and envy from younger men and older women.
So there are other young ladies looking for older men on here, not many but they are here - its a funny world and after been on this site for about 4 years, nothing surprises me anymore as to what people want and are looking for.
PS. NO!! - I won't say who they are so don't ask....:gagged:
and all have said, the physical appearance is not what they are looking for.
The purpose of this site is where people of like minds and interests can meet up and indulge in their fantasy, kinks, perversions and sexual preferences and orientations without fear, condemnation or prejudices and if young ladies have an interest in older men, that is their right to do so (assuming of course, they are of legal age and sexual maturity).
There is still an apparent on older men/younger women relationships based on the assumption of the experienced predatory older man preying on the vulnerable naive girl, I know if I suggested to my young ladies they were inexperienced and naive they would get rather cross. Some of the escapades of the Party Princess makes my hair stand on end despite my lecturing :jagsatwork:
It is the 2000,s and everybody has the right regardless of age, gender and sexual orientations to make their own decision as to who and what they look for in other people and it is assumed that anybody on this site is more than capable of making their own choices.
There is a quiet obvious double-standard when it comes to older women(cougars)/younger men relationships, its "woohoo, go for it girl" and certainly attracts admiration and envy from younger men and older women.
So there are other young ladies looking for older men on here, not many but they are here - its a funny world and after been on this site for about 4 years, nothing surprises me anymore as to what people want and are looking for.
PS. NO!! - I won't say who they are so don't ask....:gagged: 
Sexpert
yes....Many, many years ago when I was somebody of importance and had the corner office, a real expense a/c and secretary I had a torrid affair with one of my female staff.
We managed to keep it secret for a long time although some people suspected and but most had no idea so it worked to my advantage as she told me of things going on in the office that I otherwise would not have heard about it and as it appeared that we were good friends, people told her things knowing she would tell me about it, therefore avoiding trouble before it became too serious. A system that worked very well and resulted in a happy and mostly harmonious office.
A secret affair can be fun, the sneaked grapple and gropes in the lunch room, vague explanations of what we did over the weekend when asked by others, one memorable night of passion under my desk, subtle and unsubtle flirting in front of others along with erotic innuendo and daring touches and feels.
but....like all good and exciting experiences it has to come to an end - some good endings and sometimes a bad ending but it was my decision to end our secret life - the hiding and sneaking around and the little white lies so on Christmas Day 1988 I proposed to her and she accepted and we have been happily married ever since....:rose::thrilled:
We always look back of those days as a very happy and carefree time (no kids, no mortgage and before old age diminished our good looks )
:jagsatwork: PS - we were both single and un-attached so we were never cheating on anybody.
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:jagsatwork: PS - we were both single and un-attached so we were never cheating on anybody. Sexpert
This elderly couple were at the hotel where they spent their wedding night 50 years earlier.
The wife says to her husband, "What were you thinking about this time 50 years years ago."
The husband replied, "I was thinking on how I was going to fuck you stupid."
and so says the wife, "What are you thinking about now".
the husband grumped, "What a bloody good job I did."
:razz::lol2::laughabove:
Sexpert
no doubt most of the over 90 days profiles are non-paying members but it makes the site look popular if new-comers see 175000 members and think its a very popular site and worth paying to join as the odds of meeting up are very good - the few hundred active members may beg to differ.
