I've talked to a number of people that said they got into a pattern of behavior and then found that very hard to break free from. So sounds like that is what is happening with your wife. I'd say there is a good change that will change with more swinging.
I am also hearing a subtone that isn't too sub that swinging is getting out of control or beyond your comfort zone. Many your wife has more going on that she is really telling. Anyways, I'd recomend monitoring that and being ready to ask for some time away from swinging to grow as a couple.
Sounds like your attitude is stillgood.
let us know how it goes,
Danny
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danoly
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 54
Straight Male, 53
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After our first swing experience, we anticipated that we may feel strange or awkward, but for us, it felt like the most normal thing in the world. We talked about how we felt and decided that we could definitely handle it. It has changed our marriage, for the better. We now are in a place of COMPLETE honesty, whereas we weren't before. In order to swing, you have to be upfront about your feelings and desires, or you wil quickly have problems in the lifestyle. Because, once you've told your spouse, 'gee honey, I'd really like to pin her legs behind her ears', you can tell each other anything.
Danny
The 'no kissing' rule makes it more difficult. When you are kissing someone, your mouths are busy. For some reason, when your mouth is not occupied with kissing, there is this compulsion to fill the awkward silence with some kind of vocalization. Which, for me, is just plain wierd. I'm not a dirty talker, never have been, likely never will be. Or a talker at all. At least in bed! I must get it all out of my system on here.
Humour works well, I think. Massages work well. Dancing, if you're meeting out at a bar or something, can be a nice prelude. Then it's just that much easier once you head somewhere more private. Playing a flirty game of pool, a dip inthe hot tub, a game of truth or dare, strip poker... Just use your imagination. This is supposed to be fun...all of it. Not just the screwin', but the flirting and seduction, too.
Danny
Hi,
HOpe this helps,
Set your own rules between the two of you, and set a limit... if that limit is same-room-sex but no touching, then that's as far as you go. If that limit is double anal with multiple mouth-cumshots, well then that's the limit.
What we're saying is do not change your mind to go FARTHER on-site, in the heat of the moment. That is a recipe for disaster.
Danly
