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curiouscple
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 42
Bi-curious Male, 44
0 km · Victoria
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I have to say that I am exactly the same as your wife. Talking about it during sex is a huge turn on to me, then the next day I think about it and I get nervous again. I don't know why I am so nervous about doing it, I guess I am scared that it will seriously change our relationship and it is a good one already so why tamper with it?
curiouscpl
We were concerned about that before we started, too. Since neither of us had ever witnessed each other kissing or being sexual (in any way) with another person, how could we know what we would feel when we got into a situation? We didn't want to freak ourselves out, or get other people involved and freak them out, either.
What we did: We went to strip clubs together, which we'd never done. We thought we'd see how that felt, and then go from there. We visited two in one night - the gentlemen's club type, and then later that night, a full-nude club where things went a little further (so we heard) with the private dances. We had a lot of fun and went from nervous to relaxed at the first club. We were getting horny by then, and it was time to visit the other club. We met a dancer there that was very attentive to me, and seemed especially interested in couples. Later on, we had a private dance with her, and it was extremely sexy. She told me I could do whatever I wanted. We made out, touched each other, etc. It was my husband's first time seeing me kiss a woman. She was a very sensuous woman, and actually seemed turned-on. She was giving me all of the attention, so I moved her to my husband's lap. She grinded on him, while he touched and kissed her. Then, we all three kissed. It was the most amazing experience for us! Of course, we (he and I) had mind-blowing sex later.
I know now that we just got extremely lucky that night. We've been to lots of different strip clubs since then, and the dancers might as well be made of wood - including in the private dances. LOL
Anyhow, my husband and I discovered through that experience that we didn't feel awkward at all, we were very turned-on by including somebody in a sexual way, and we knew this was going to work for us. We moved on from there, gradually - and it did work out.
Also, we found that by starting swinging gradually, such as same-room sex with our own partners and another couple in the room (soft swing), this was a good next step. It worked out well for us to not move into too much, too fast.
Best wishes to you!
Nathan
Thank you so much for posting your story. That is a great idea of going to the strip clubs. I think that my husband and I will give that a try next weekend. I will keep you posted on how it goes. Thanks again!
curiouscpl
What we did: We went to strip clubs together, which we'd never done. We thought we'd see how that felt, and then go from there. We visited two in one night - the gentlemen's club type, and then later that night, a full-nude club where things went a little further (so we heard) with the private dances. We had a lot of fun and went from nervous to relaxed at the first club. We were getting horny by then, and it was time to visit the other club. We met a dancer there that was very attentive to me, and seemed especially interested in couples. Later on, we had a private dance with her, and it was extremely sexy. She told me I could do whatever I wanted. We made out, touched each other, etc. It was my husband's first time seeing me kiss a woman. She was a very sensuous woman, and actually seemed turned-on. She was giving me all of the attention, so I moved her to my husband's lap. She grinded on him, while he touched and kissed her. Then, we all three kissed. It was the most amazing experience for us! Of course, we (he and I) had mind-blowing sex later.
I know now that we just got extremely lucky that night. We've been to lots of different strip clubs since then, and the dancers might as well be made of wood - including in the private dances. LOL
Anyhow, my husband and I discovered through that experience that we didn't feel awkward at all, we were very turned-on by including somebody in a sexual way, and we knew this was going to work for us. We moved on from there, gradually - and it did work out.
Also, we found that by starting swinging gradually, such as same-room sex with our own partners and another couple in the room (soft swing), this was a good next step. It worked out well for us to not move into too much, too fast.
Best wishes to you!
Nathan
Thank you so much for posting your story. That is a great idea of going to the strip clubs. I think that my husband and I will give that a try next weekend. I will keep you posted on how it goes. Thanks again!
curiouscpl
This is the problem that we have encountered everytime we think of entering the lifestyle we are not able to find a couple that has a bimale so that we can have the best outcome of the first time. I wish that more men would not be afraid to peak into their curiousity and at least give guys a try just because you enjoy both male and females does not make you a freak. And BTW I am writing this as a woman.
curiouscpl
Well the first thing I want to say is pregnancy is not the only thing that you need to be worried about protecting yourself from. I think you also need to worry about disease. I would say that if I had the chance as a female that I would definantly be up for it as long as hubby was along!
curiouscpl
