Firstly I am not married but I have been in the same relationship for over 28 years, so I think that probably counts. My partner, through a series of major ops is now sexually inactive and does not have the desire or will to be so, however she understands I still have needs and she is quite happy for me to pursue an alternative avenue. I do not however want to rub her nose in it so I would still like to maintain a certain amount of discretion. I love my family unit and would not want it to change but I am looking for like minded people with a view to having fun.