As a couple we are new to this whole venture and as such my wife is very cautious in taking the first step. We are both shift workers and have a young family, so we cant just meet at the drop of a hat. Things will need to be planned. We are looking for ongoing friendships with the benefits, so anything happening on the first meeting is not likely. We can both be quite shy to start with but once we get past the first awkward stage we open up and enjoy most things. We are both non smokers and prefer the same.