What have we created?

19 Jun 2006

My wife and I are new to swinging (5 months) and we both enjoy it immensely. It was her that brought it up (midlife crisis) and I was all for it. Now I find myself in a dilemma and I feel like I no longer know my wife, sexually, anymore We've known each other for over 20 years (friends for 9 years, married 13) and she didn't have a lot of experience before we got married. Just this weekend she allowed another guy to take her anal cherry (I've only been begging for 13 years), had her first bi experience and had her first MFM. I'm OK with everything (except the anal part and she has agreed to let me try it when she is not sore anymore!) but sexually, I don't feel that I know her sexually anymore. When it's just the two of us, we revert back to our conservative style of lovemaking. It's not that I'm conservative in bed, I'm pretty wild and had a lot of experience before we got married. She just doesn't feel that she can get wild with me around. At her insistence, most of our swinging experiences are separate room and at the end of the evening, she likes telling me her experiences. Heck, I really didn't believe she did all those things until I got the digital pictures. I'm not too concerned as the rest of our relationship is still strong. I just wish that I could be there to share some of her experiences. Whenever we have same room encounters, she reverts to her conservative approach and I get the distinct feeling (actually she told me) that she wishes I wasn't there and that I make her feel inhibited. Sorry for the long post but has anyone else gone through this experience? BTW, we have posted as a couple under SexyAsianDiva in the past. Thanks, Nathan

19 Jun 2006

I've talked to a number of people that said they got into a pattern of behavior and then found that very hard to break free from. So sounds like that is what is happening with your wife. I'd say there is a good change that will change with more swinging. I am also hearing a subtone that isn't too sub that swinging is getting out of control or beyond your comfort zone. Many your wife has more going on that she is really telling. Anyways, I'd recomend monitoring that and being ready to ask for some time away from swinging to grow as a couple. Sounds like your attitude is stillgood. let us know how it goes, Danny