Ready to Jump In

27 Dec 2011

Hi all, I have been on here a while now and received many responses, some from those who obviously cant read banghead

, many from guys I think would be interesting to meet wave

. I am now in a position and with some time to make something happen and have few questions for those who have played before, especially other women. 1. How do you make any meeting as safe and secure as possible. 2. If not comfortable how soon should you make your feelings known and extricate yourself. 3. I am thinking of meeting for drinks/coffee for the first meet, although I will probably book a motel in case. lol 4. Any recommendations for what to wear, what to do, what not to do etc appreciated. 5. I have the support of Pat but would want to meet/play alone so discretion and security are important. Any ideas are direction to "How To's", "swinging for Dummies" etc appreciated. lol Anyway thanks in advance Lyn. P.s Don't respond with requests to meet, I have short listed already, I am really in need of advice and maybe a shot of Vodka to help calm my nerves.

27 Dec 2011

Hi Lyn, When I meet for the 1st time I do not usually give out any information that identifies me including mobile numbers & always meet in a public well frequented place with good lighting. I.e mc donalds or hungry jacks. Good luck. P.s. I am a guy.

29 Dec 2011

Hi Lyn, How exciting it is for you doing all this for the first time. When I was a single girl I always played it safe and never, ever had an issue. I always met in a public place i.e. pub, cafe etc. Meeting and chatting is important as you want to get a gut feeling for who you're meeting. Remember - you're doing this for YOU so if you're not 100% sure then don't do it. Trust your instincts. You'll know in the first 10 mins and I've never had a problem saying "nice to meet you but no thanks". Some meets lasted 30 mins some hours lol. I always gave the details to a "safe friend" of the meeting - the person's nick, their mobile no, where and when. I always sent a txt when I arrived and when I left to my friend. I dressed for how I was feeling so usually flirty but not overly so. And underneath I had my bedroom attire just in case. I found it a nicer surprise when the present was unwrapped and to see a guy's face. Don't forget some essentials for you like condoms, lube etc. I never trusted men to bring that stuff. Most important of all - have fun and enjoy. Cheers, Greedy smile

29 Dec 2011

Hi Lyn, We have met all of our swinging partners at Meet and Greets. Meets are social affairs at which people meet and get to know one another over a meal. We even had a wine tour at one Meet. With quite a few people attending (usually 8-28 in our experiences so far) we can talk to numerous potential play partners and then have some quiet time to ourselves to discuss our options. We always book a spa suite or nice room nearby in case a suitable play opportunity presents itself. If not we still have our own company and a nice spa to share with one another. We have nothing but praise and kind words for the people we have met so far at Meets. We have made many great friendships even if we have not played. For us the advantage of seeking playmates at Meet and Greets is that they give us the opportunity of talking at length to a number of people rather then just meet one person or a couple over coffee and then have to make a yes or no decision. Many Meets feature an after-party where those who wish to explore further might go. People often play at these and they can offer safety in numbers. Hope that this helps. Regards, Muffins

2 Jan 2012

Hi all, Thanks for the feedback. I am unsure about meet and greets only due to issues with discretion etc. Also Pat doesnt join in although happy to meet to confirm no problems, he just has other interests and doesnt want to join in. I think he may be happy to watch though wink

Anyway I am thinking tat the hotel with spa nearby is a great idea as is meeting in a public place (not too far from the spa). I have a few emails from people who seem to be nice guys and have at least taken the time to read my profile. I think this may be the place to start, although I am worried that I will pick some jerk who is not being honest and that will put me off. Anyway Thanks again and I will let you know how I go. Either way. All the best Lyn.