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Meeting in Public First
Totally reasonable to meet in public first, especially given you are a woman playing alone. Don't give in on this reasonable request would be my advice. Let's face it, it's not a big ask and I reckon any resonable guy would want to do the same - like you say...you don't know if there will be a connection until you meet face to face and if that's in a public place then you can part ways without a fuss. Definately harder to change your mind if the assumption is there will be a hook up.
Nice profile pic by the way...
Sexlightened
MissT i totally agree with ur ways good on u . Some ppl are fake others want to make sure they dnt go to any effort for nothing Sad but true
Sexlightened
nothing wrong with wanting to meet in public first, there is always that safety issue. Don't back down under pressure - there are always going to be ones that lie on their profile and there are always going to be pushy people we can't change that but we can protect ourselves.
Warming the Bed
Agree 100% - Stick to your process and if the other party doesn't want to play by your rules that's their loss.
I always prefer to meet first in person and won't go any further if there is no chemistry.
Sexpert
MissT,
That's the way we do it. It's always a drink somewhere at a bar, or lunch, and we often/usually have the kids with us.
After that, if we find that we would enjoy playing with the people, we make the appropriate arrangements. This time without the kids...lol.
Best of luck.
Regards,
A & J
Orgasminator
I too was a single female in the scene for a few years and even as a couple now we still follow the same process - meet in a public place, chat, drink etc. This gives us time as a couple to decide if it's enough to tick all our boxes collectively.
If someone doesn't like that or becomes pushy etc then nothing lost.
With you being a single girl it would be the best thing you could do for yourself.
Keep up the good work.
Cheers,
Good & Greedy.
Sexpert
we agree, if theres no click we dont play, met a few couples we didnt play with, too loud, medium is large etc
some look 20 years older than there say. and we do it for our safety but mostly the safty of my wife
we do play on first dates but there is usually a huge spark from chatting on line
Sexpert
Quote by MissT1967
Hi All
Am I strange? I insist that I meet people in a public place first whether they are couples or singles. I also won't play on a first meet. Does this make me unusual? OK I relax the rules if it is someone who is only in town for a day/night but I still insist on meeting in public first. I might not like them in person or they may have lied in their profile pics or we might not have a connection, if I meet them in public first then there is less awkwardness involved if one or both don't feel it.
I have been in the swinging scene for over ten years and never had a problem with this policy previously but just lately it seems to be getting harder to get people to agree to meet in person.
What do you all think?
Very pragmatic approach Miss T,
A public place is not unreasonable at all.
People should have nothing to hide and I would be happy to meet in a public place as I believe it is a fair and logical request.
Stick to the plan, the motivated people will make the effort
Sexpert
If you decide to have a first meeting in a public place, there is nothing wrong with that. It is safe for BOTH, not just you. Also the choice to say Yes or No should rest with both persons. The prior public meeting provides a platform to see if there is a chemistry and liking. You progress the connection to the next level only if the attraction is mutual. That way its a WIN - WIN situation for both, making the whole experience enjoyable and memorable.
Good on you MissT1967 for raising a serious discussion about the practicalitys of swinging.
We ALWAYS communicate via messages first, to make sure we are all on the same page.
We ALWAYS swap face and body pics (having learnt the hard way lol).
We ALWAYS meet in public first. This is firstly and foremost about safety. Then to find out if there is a mutual attraction.
If people are not willing to take the time to get to know us, then we are not for them......
Stay safe and dirrrty 
CumAgainForFun xx
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