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How to convince the wife?
Warming the Bed
show her how much fun other wifes have
Sexlightened
Try talking to her you might be surprised, you could also mention how she will be paid absolute attention by two males.....fun
At the end of the day she would have to want to do it. In our case it took lots of gentle persuasion over a long time. In the end the only thing holding my wife back was that she was worried that I would get jealous and it would create a problem in our relationship. I imagine this is a common worry of many wives thinking of taking the plunge. You have to be sure you can handle seeing your wife screw another guy and not become a jealous asshole.
Al
History of a hot wife!
It was a bloody lot of hard work I can tell you getting my wife started.
We met just before our 18th birthdays, she was a sweet innocent Catholic church going non drinking (still never touches Alcohol, everything she has done she has done stone cold sober) virgin girl, we were engaged when I took her cherry at 19, we married at 21 (her parents would not let us get married before we were 21 as they said it would not last), we had our family at 28 and 30 and she had her tubes tied after our last child, (her decision).
We joined a nudist club in the early 70's where we found out their was some swinging going on, 'I was all for it' and we talked about it 'to tell the truth it was me that talked about it'! I told her that if we did it was OK by me, I kept putting opportunities in front of her but never forced the issue.
In the mid 70's we were at a 100% straight party and I was called away to work, rather than drag my wife away from the party I arranged a lift home for her with a guy Joe that I knew she was keen on, and as I left I joked to them about them having fun on the way home, I trusted Joe to take NO for an answer if it came to that.
Next morning when I met the wife she told me that she had been a naughty girl last night with Joe, I replied that a bit of a kiss and cuddle never hurt anyone, and she replied 'it was more than a kiss and a cuddle', I barred up then and there and took her to bed and made love to her while she told me every little detail of what happened and WOW it was hot.
Two days later Joe (after a phone call) visited us with his partner, after a bit of a chat we all headed to the bedroom and the fun and games started. When it came out at the nudist club (amongst the other swingers) that we had started swinging we were welcomed with open arms 'and legs' into the fold, so we were 35 and married 15 years when she went with her first ever other guy and she took to the lifestyle like a duck to water, in fact sometimes she had me wondering just how big a Pandora's box I had opened, she had me biting my tongue at times with some of the things she got up to.
Come mid 80's when the big nasty came out we refined our playing switched to M F M threesomes and her being a hot wife with other guys, all our sex has been bare back sex for about 30 years and we have never caught an S T D, we were careful 'and lucky' I know, their has been times where in the heat of the moment caution has been thrown to the wind I can tell you but it all turned out OK in the end!
We are now heading to our late 60's, slacked off a lot but are still willing to play if the situation is right, we love to cam in chat rooms.
We have now been married 45 + years, very much in love and still going strong, 'who said it would not last' lol.
Rick181au.
Sex God
i had a hard time convincing the wife , got to hate it when it was her idea lol
Melbcpl01
We were slightly different in dipping our toes into the lifestyle. Mrs nomads_oz and I discussed swinging for several years before taking the plunge. We found discussing having sex with others was topic that seemed to enrich our lovemaking. By sheer chance we came across an advertisement for the Newcastle Swingers Club in a local newspaper. We joined the club, whereupon we had our first play and what a wonderful experience it was. We felt the Club was a swinging icebreaking experience. Being among other friendly, likeminded couples, put us at ease and at a social advantage as well.
We have made many longterm swinging friends all around OZ now. And the lifestyle is a very cherished part of our lives.
Warming the Bed
Dont consider any visual stimulation like videos, women are different and chances are that this could turn her off completely. Also, what you see in videos is acted and not real!
The best suggestion is to get to know a couple which are swingers on a social base, this way you can find out what her resons may be against and what for it. The resons could have been formed on wrong perceptions. It is on the end all a matter of confidence and find out how you may act, when you see for the first time your wife enjoying her self.
She was not keen on being watched at parties.
So we let her meet up with a guy of her choice in private.
That way she is able to be herself.
She reports back what happened, and we get high on that.
The good thing is that she gets to choose the guy, so gets more satisfaction.
The only concern I have is to stop her getting too deep.
Better different guys than ten times with the same one.
I had no such hassle Mrs had some exposure at work and came home talking about it . She said there wasnt full sex going on and everyone was happy and having a good night out.
My son was surfing porn and we followed the cookie trail to see what he has been up to .
We found the ffm and bi sex very exciting she likes the porno of two girls and slowly she thought well couldnt wouldnt hurt to try.
We talked and did this from chat to clubs together its brought us closer together and we have had a ball.
Have limits have fun and dont stress if you dont meet the Rights have some fun sex together in an environment of sounds and sex at a club
If it comes to it go with another couple to hold each others hands. Same room sex is fun and then shared foreplay and see where that takes you
keep it light and fun and it will happen
