As a couple new to the scene it is a little bit daunting, to say the least, to jump straight into an encounter.
Sure that might be fine if your looking to spice things up for a night, but what if your thinking a bit longer term then that?
Its probably wishful thinking, but we are posting to see if there are any experienced couples that would be open to, effectively, showing us the ropes
Ideally, optimistically, we are hoping to maybe find a couple that we can initially talk to and ask questions about there experiences and the lifestyle in a more social setting and take it from there – hopefully into something a bit more x-rated
From there it would be great to maybe attend some clubs or events together so we dont feel so out of place.
Kitty xoxo
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Sexlightened
G'day Kitty
Your post is 'perfect' > We were the same about 5-6 months ago when we signed up
We sat together at the keyboard - not just me, the daggy, randy ol bloke - and went thru lots of things
The Help Guides down the lower left of the screen were great, then we decided to search & PM couples close to us
We PM'd 1/2-dozen couples in our region and sent them our equiv of your posted msg
We got 2-3 replies
From there we PM'd & emailed & phone chatted ... all a bit nervious and unsure of things 'coz after all, we're talking stuff we'd never want to talk about to workmates or family members !!
We then met, had lunch / dinner to put faces to the names; to put 'people' to the names & voices
We chose one couple to help our initiation into the playing scene and then another couple to follow on, then a 3rd couple
So we've met & played & experienced different people, different styles of playing etc etc
One couple didn't have the chemistry, but one of the others did - so we've played with them a number of times
Several of many things that has come out of this is that a) 'she' has become very active & playful & enjoys these encounters; b) we play more together at home and c) we do more/lots of things together
Communication - lots of it - has helped, along with some 'erotic imaginings' discussions with candlelight has spiced up things too
Hope this helps
Regards, Phil
Quote by Lumix_Lovers
Several of many things that has come out of this is that a) 'she' has become very active & playful & enjoys these encounters
I think we're finding the same thing. Her libido has exploded since we started to explore the swinging world. I think she's very much enjoying all the attention that women get on these sites. Maybe it has helped her realise how sexy and desirable she is. But be cautious and take things slowly, as having other guys getting your lady all randy can be intimidating for the poor hubby if he's in any way insecure. Ladies - make sure you do everything you can to reassure your man that he will always be #1.
Warming the Bed
Hi. Great to see you have posted here because I sure many many can relate. Everyone was new once and first impressions make a huge impact on whether you want to explore further.
Firstly, everyone's experiences differ so this is just one opinion. We have met some wonderful people this way. Most are open minded, funny, caring and great fun. As grown ups it is often tricky to make friends so consider this a short cut.
Most important thing is your relationship so discuss some rules and boundaries before hand. For example we like to meet before even deciding to play, play only together, condom friendly, don't want unannounced visitors etc etc.
For us we enjoy watching each other have fun, you need to separate sex as a physical thing not emotional (tougher for girls). Also, there has to be some connection for both of you and the other the other couple. Sometimes if things don't progress it may not have anything to do with you so don't take it personally.
Two things I would like to add (Mrs here) guys do tend to get performance anxiety more than ladies and alcohol makes it worse and often leads to a non event, and secondly we have been surprised that the ladies here are often the extroverts and rarely being oppressed.
Some people are up for quickies, some for friendship, some bullshit and pretend to be couples when they aren't. Set up a chat account like MSN, come up with some net names and make sure you don't work together.
Oh and HAVE FUN! Trust gut feelings too!
Well that's my 5 cents worth. We are Canberra based but happy to chat if you want to PM us
E&J
Warming the Bed
Hi. Great to see you have posted here because I sure many many can relate. Everyone was new once and first impressions make a huge impact on whether you want to explore further.
Firstly, everyone's experiences differ so this is just one opinion. We have met some wonderful people this way. Most are open minded, funny, caring and great fun. As grown ups it is often tricky to make friends so consider this a short cut.
Most important thing is your relationship so discuss some rules and boundaries before hand. For example we like to meet before even deciding to play, play only together, condom friendly, don't want unannounced visitors etc etc.
For us we enjoy watching each other have fun, you need to separate sex as a physical thing not emotional (tougher for girls). Also, there has to be some connection for both of you and the other the other couple. Sometimes if things don't progress it may not have anything to do with you so don't take it personally.
Two things I would like to add (Mrs here) guys do tend to get performance anxiety more than ladies and alcohol makes it worse and often leads to a non event, and secondly we have been surprised that the ladies here are often the extroverts and rarely being oppressed.
Some people are up for quickies, some for friendship, some bullshit and pretend to be couples when they aren't. Set up a chat account like MSN, come up with some net names and make sure you don't work together.
Oh and HAVE FUN! Trust gut feelings too!
Well that's my 5 cents worth. We are Canberra based but happy to chat if you want to PM us
E&J
