My wife and I have had one awesome experience and are ready to try again with the same person. The first time she was VERY nervous and unsure how to start so after we met for dinner we came up with the idea of having her blindfolded and ready in bed when he came way she was unsure of who was doing what, and didn't have to go through the ackwardness of undressing in front of him.
This time we will skip the blindfold but are still unsure of a good way to start. I also need to mention that kissing the other guy on the mouth is out.
Without the kissing, we don't know really how to get the ball rolling once he comes in the room.
Once everyone's undressed and in bed there's no problem, we would just like a good 'opening' strategy.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Taylor
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Good ice breaker or opener to sex.
I know for me it was awkward to undress myself in front of other people. My former girlfriend did find one way to break the ice for all of us and that was to have them undress me. It was a good way to start foreplay and it helped to slow it down enough that you had time to move past the awkward moments before the sex starts. They usually spent about 10 minutes undressing me and then I would spend about 10 minutes undressing them. We had a lot of foreplay during those 20 minutes and all nerves were gone after about the first 30 seconds. I think it was better because the sex started while we were still dressed and that made it more sensual instead of just plain sex.
Nathan
The 'no kissing' rule makes it more difficult. When you are kissing someone, your mouths are busy. For some reason, when your mouth is not occupied with kissing, there is this compulsion to fill the awkward silence with some kind of vocalization. Which, for me, is just plain wierd. I'm not a dirty talker, never have been, likely never will be. Or a talker at all. At least in bed! I must get it all out of my system on here.
Humour works well, I think. Massages work well. Dancing, if you're meeting out at a bar or something, can be a nice prelude. Then it's just that much easier once you head somewhere more private. Playing a flirty game of pool, a dip inthe hot tub, a game of truth or dare, strip poker... Just use your imagination. This is supposed to be fun...all of it. Not just the screwin', but the flirting and seduction, too.
Danny
We prefer this method as most people become comfortable in this situation. When we have guests over we'll ask them (never been turned down yet) if they would like to use the hot tub with us. They can either use the bathroom to disrobe or do it right in front of us. Once they are in the tub 90% of you is covered by water so you're still beng risky but completely covered. If hands begin to venture all the better.
Great ideas!
We really like the hot tub idea, however there won't be one availabe where we're meeting
The massage could work, however I'm worried about the lack of kissing. She's ok with kissing anywhere except the lips (she wants that reserved for me.)
After talking some we're leaning toward the slowly undressing each other.
Next Saturday is the day! We're already pretty excited!
Taylar
