Hi Guys,
Me and my girlfriend are looking to experience our first mmf threesome in the near future. I would like to set one rule. That is, my girlfriend during the threesome, is only allowed to go down on the guy OR let the guy have intercourse with her.
If you guys were the third guy in our threesome, which would you prefer to do with my gf? and why?
Also, if you guys were in my situation, which rule would you set for your girlfriend? and why?
Please note this is a new experience to us so it may seem strange that there is such a rule in a threesome but we would like to take it slow.
Thanks.
New couple
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Oral sex or intercourse? Please help
Quote by ManInBlack
Just curious - why that specific rule? Are you uncomfortable that your cock may come into contact with where another cock has just been?
No that's not the case. I just feel more comfortable restricting him from doing all things with my girlfriend and it also gives me control if that makes any sense.
Exactly. Since it is the female who would be subject to 100% of the attention (assuming there is no bi-play) then isn't it up to her? Shouldn't SHE have the 'control' over what does or doesn't happen?
I dunno. Maybe I have a misguided understanding of all this - but the MFM's I have been involved in, the female has called all the shots.
In fairness, the times where my girl was the 'F' part, I watched closely what was going on to make sure the other 'M' wasn't pushy or aggressive (and only once I had to tell the other guy to pull back) but as long as she was enjoying herself, and the other 'M' followed any direction she gave - I was happy. And in the alternate situation, where I was the third person - any instructions the 'F' issued were obeyed most dutifully. Then I could be sure that she was comfortable - therefore HE was comfortable and much fun was had by all.
Please don't construe any of that to suggest I judge anything goes on with any other couple - just explaining my personal experiences.
wow I am somewhat surprised, firstly that the single guy replies tend to want to throw it onto the girl partner as if she was alone and secondly that the couple replies forget how as a couple couples have limits and agreed things so they both are comfortable.
It is neither a his or her thing as a couple they have to both be comfortable and if that requires one to restrict some type of contact and compromise for another , In our view that is totally and absolutely appropriate, and if thats what this couple or either partner of the couple need to be comfortable, then I suggest you guys talk about how you may feel afterwards and that saving something for just you two is really something you have both the right and respect for each other as I said I was somewhat surprised by the replies to date
The reply of assuming the F initiated has no basis no consequence as the couple are doing it and both need to be comfortable, that the essence of couple play.
We totally agree you as a couple set whatever limits you want and can live with cheers
Quote by rand_0m
totally valid in my opinion. theres no rush, and small steps are a good thing.
i think you just have to call it based on what YOU think is more intimate.
I personally think giving oral to a girl is more intimate, than fscking.
So you are saying in your opinion, that a girl giving oral to a guy is more intimate than intercourse?
Quote by ManInBlack
Exactly. Since it is the female who would be subject to 100% of the attention (assuming there is no bi-play) then isn't it up to her? Shouldn't SHE have the 'control' over what does or doesn't happen?
I dunno. Maybe I have a misguided understanding of all this - but the MFM's I have been involved in, the female has called all the shots.
In fairness, the times where my girl was the 'F' part, I watched closely what was going on to make sure the other 'M' wasn't pushy or aggressive (and only once I had to tell the other guy to pull back) but as long as she was enjoying herself, and the other 'M' followed any direction she gave - I was happy. And in the alternate situation, where I was the third person - any instructions the 'F' issued were obeyed most dutifully. Then I could be sure that she was comfortable - therefore HE was comfortable and much fun was had by all.
Please don't construe any of that to suggest I judge anything goes on with any other couple - just explaining my personal experiences.
Hi,
Of course my girlfriend will have the final say on what she would like to do. But I am just vouching suggestions on the basis that my gf will be fine with performing all acts with the third guy.
Quote by rand_0m
Im guessing that the F partner initiated the 3some idea, and that the guy is going along with it, but isn't sure how to feel his way into it and would like some form of restriction to ease his mind.
Hi, that is not the case at all. I am actually curious and looking to initiate it officially with my gf soon. We have spoken about it before. She has said that "I would have a threesome with you and another guy ONLY if I had a few drinks"
Is this a good or a bad thing? Any suggestions from the rest of you guys would be great.
Quote by OKandQ
wow I am somewhat surprised, firstly that the single guy replies tend to want to throw it onto the girl partner as if she was alone and secondly that the couple replies forget how as a couple couples have limits and agreed things so they both are comfortable.
It is neither a his or her thing as a couple they have to both be comfortable and if that requires one to restrict some type of contact and compromise for another , In our view that is totally and absolutely appropriate, and if thats what this couple or either partner of the couple need to be comfortable, then I suggest you guys talk about how you may feel afterwards and that saving something for just you two is really something you have both the right and respect for each other as I said I was somewhat surprised by the replies to date
The reply of assuming the F initiated has no basis no consequence as the couple are doing it and both need to be comfortable, that the essence of couple play.
We totally agree you as a couple set whatever limits you want and can live with cheers
In saying that, which would you consider to be more intimate (therefore only shared between you and your gf)?
Oral sex with her or intercourse?
Quote by Asiancouple1
Hi Guys,
Me and my girlfriend are looking to experience our first mmf threesome in the near future. I would like to set one rule. That is, my girlfriend during the threesome, is only allowed to go down on the guy OR let the guy have intercourse with her.
If you guys were the third guy in our threesome, which would you prefer to do with my gf? and why?
Also, if you guys were in my situation, which rule would you set for your girlfriend? and why?
Please note this is a new experience to us so it may seem strange that there is such a rule in a threesome but we would like to take it slow.
Thanks.
New couple
A different slant you may like to consider:
If your Girl gives him oral unless he has a condom on everything he may (STD) have is going to be shared.
Intercourse is obvious, with / without condoms.
Our thoughts are oral is a warm up for sex, so why restrict things ?
Quote by hotqld45
Hi Guys,
Me and my girlfriend are looking to experience our first mmf threesome in the near future. I would like to set one rule. That is, my girlfriend during the threesome, is only allowed to go down on the guy OR let the guy have intercourse with her.
If you guys were the third guy in our threesome, which would you prefer to do with my gf? and why?
Also, if you guys were in my situation, which rule would you set for your girlfriend? and why?
Please note this is a new experience to us so it may seem strange that there is such a rule in a threesome but we would like to take it slow.
Thanks.
New couple
A different slant you may like to consider:
If your Girl gives him oral unless he has a condom on everything he may (STD) have is going to be shared.
Intercourse is obvious, with / without condoms.
Our thoughts are oral is a warm up for sex, so why restrict things ?
I like to know that I am the only one that has done everything sexually with my gf. For me, this is important. Some guys dont mind that another guy has done everything in the bed room with his gf.
Warming the Bed
Having read the first post and the language you have used. Speaking in the singualretc I'd say you need to discuss this a lot more with your partner.
She first and foremost needs to decide who and what she does. If you are not comfortable with it discuss it with her. She is the one who should be in control and you are there to help her maintain that.
How can you restrict what she does? Phrases like "allow my girlfriend/wife' baffle me..they are not chattells.
Quote by Lostr8_mm
Having read the first post and the language you have used. Speaking in the singualretc I'd say you need to discuss this a lot more with your partner.
She first and foremost needs to decide who and what she does. If you are not comfortable with it discuss it with her. She is the one who should be in control and you are there to help her maintain that.
How can you restrict what she does? Phrases like "allow my girlfriend/wife' baffle me..they are not chattells.
I am not telling her what she can and cannot do. My girlfriend is only comfortable about doing a sex act with another guy ONLY if I'm comfortable with it. So if she wants to have intercourse but knows I'm not comfortable then she will NOT do it because she cares about how I feel. If I let the guy have intercourse with her but she does not want to then we will NOT do it. All in all, she will only be doing something if BOTH of us are comfortable with it.
