Long story short
Yes I have cheated on my partner.
Yes he knows about these times and has moved on
What should I do in the situation I am in.
My partner, who has never cheated apart from one time (we both agreed it was as 'payback' and since then forgiven the deeds, is currently messaging a female and is going to have nsa with her.
This current situation is out of the blue. I have been a loving faithful partner ever since our last misgivings over the cheating.
Given that yes, I have had a history of having fun and not telling him and he has found out or been told later,
Who thinks I should confront him and demand explanation
And who thinks I should deal with it as I was the first to cheat?
I want no sympathy, nor do I want to be told cheating is wrong (I know this)
What I would like to know is what should I do?
Because the catch of this all is......
I am the female he has been messaging and he has no idea that it is actually his current partner.
(Created a fake profile manymonths ago on a totally different website, as he was on it after an argument and he has no idea it was me. I have not used that site until he messaged my 'profile' asking for nsa fun last Friday night)
I'm not sure wether I should confront him and tell him it is me?
Or if I should confront him and lie about how I know?
Or if I should lie my way out of meeting him (as the fake profile) and ignore it this time and let him cheat with another wonan, as he WILL arrange another meet with another female soon) and deal with the fact that I know and he thinks I don't as my punishment....
Any help or opinions would be great... (comments about not cheating and just leaving the relationship are NOT required or wanted please....
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Opinions on mutual "cheating"
Warming the Bed
firstly go out and buy yourself some new sexy clothing go hire a hotel room just before he tells you he has to work back late next friday night 
after you have agreed to nsa through this other profile you have.. greet him at the door SURPRISE. 
then make wild passonate love and sort the problems out..
oh and get him to refund you the cost of the hotel,hey he might just dig deep into his pockets and pay for the clothing too :lol:
good luck..
after you have agreed to nsa through this other profile you have.. greet him at the door SURPRISE. then make wild passonate love and sort the problems out..
oh and get him to refund you the cost of the hotel,hey he might just dig deep into his pockets and pay for the clothing too :lol:
good luck.. 
Warming the Bed
Since neither of you seem to be put off the relationship because of cheating, why don't you both just talk to each other about it, be honest and change the relationship to an open one? Then you don't have to sneak around and call it cheating.
I'd confront him about it being you that he's been messaging, point out you already knew he was cheating or planning on cheating and you haven't tried to leave him for it, and then discuss whether you're both ok to be fucking other people. You could probably be enjoying it alot more and more easily if you didn't have to hide it.
Similar to the above comments - do you really mind if he sleeps with other women? Might you want to join in? If you're open to it, explore the possibilities.
But if that's not for you, the trust in your relationship is shot. Get out now. Not only have you both cheated, but you're trying to catch him out. Even though the account you spoke of may have been created some time ago, you're obviously still monitoring it well enough to spot his message among the many others a single woman would get.
honestly everything you have said about yourself is one BIG lie and your lucky he didnt leave you when he first caught you out, he obviously loves you to have stayed or has not much self confidance. you know what they say ' once a cheat always a cheat and although he has said he has moved on there will always be that little voice in his head reminding him that no matter how hard he tries to forgive and forget ' he cant ' you broke the trust, so my guess is that he is thinking ' if you cant beat them join them and thats why he is most likely going to do it OR he had a great time when he gave you a "pay back" and wants to do it again..... as for you creating a profile MORE LIES did you realy do it to watch him or did you think you could kill two birds with the one stone and find some action for yourself, I honestly dont mean to sound harsh im just seeing it how I read it, and I agree with 'tempted two' either start an open relationship or split and the best thing you could do is stop contacting him online and never ever tell him it was you... you have embarrased him enough with cheats and lies.... in closing I wish you both the best ;-)
Sexpert
please dont take this the wrong way but to me the relationship is a lie. be open and honest, affairs hurt too many people.
if you want to be a couple then play as a couple. we do and it works so well. i feel the other profile you have is like your trying to trap your partener or still being unfaithfull.
get it right and be honest
the devo in me says to agree with the first response ,,get a room and meet him half naked at the door ,,,some of your "fake profile must have a little of you in it ,,which he is obviously attracted too,,,,,but the realist reborn single bloke thinks ,,,don't start cryin and whining when that same door is slammed in your face ,,,
No one shoe as they say,
I have never "Cheated" on Pat but have had no need to because several years ago this came up and we talked about what we wanted.
Long story short I have had two "encounters" since and know that further "encounters" are ok with Pat. That may be why I am not so interested anymore and looking for that "fantasy/Special Body" rather than quantity. lol
Maybe that was his plan after all, deviously clever. :twisted:
Be Good
Lyn.
