Join the most popular community of Australian swingers now
Login
married guys registered as single
Master of Sex
Perhaps a blue-green box could be devised for married guys that are playing as single on here as to differentiate them.
Only couples who are playing together as a couple should be registered as a couple.
It would be deceptive of people to register as a couple on here yet not actually be part of a playing couple.
You can see someones relationship status if they fill that out honestly when you view their profile. If they play alone then they are a 'swinging' single as far as this site is concerned 
. That goes for males AND females and there are a lot more married females playing alone that you might think but no one ever seems to complain about that one.... ;) lol
So in summary... we don't care what relationship status you have off the site.. we just care about the relationship status you have on the site. Whether you are married, single, having affairs, defacto, have a regular FB, polyamorous.. whatever. If you play as a couple then sign up as a couple.. if you play alone then sign up as a single.
. That goes for males AND females and there are a lot more married females playing alone that you might think but no one ever seems to complain about that one.... ;) lol
So in summary... we don't care what relationship status you have off the site.. we just care about the relationship status you have on the site. Whether you are married, single, having affairs, defacto, have a regular FB, polyamorous.. whatever. If you play as a couple then sign up as a couple.. if you play alone then sign up as a single. 
Sex God
Quote by afflixion
I try and refer to "lone" males (and females) rather than "single" - I think it's less confusing.
That would be a good option "lone" say with a red square around the profile pic that way people looking for males or females can tell what the status is without opening the profile and wasting thier time
Melbcpl01
Quote by tripmeup
is it me or should married guys be on here as a couple and not on their own, to clarify they are a couple. do their other halfs know that they are on here, probably not is my guess.
As Sky has stated, a Couples profile is (or at least should be) for people who are seeking to play as a couple only, be they choosing to play with singles/solos, couples or groups they should be a couple playing as a couple (ie. knowlingly and both participating)
A single male profile that states married is a guy who from our interpretation is playing solo (that is the term we use rather than lone) and without his partner with or without that partners knowledge (same for similar female profiles). This is or should be no negative reflection on the person involved but rather should be a positive reflection as they have provided up front an indication that their partner may be unwilling or unknowing of their play.
And to those people that have been honest in this regard on their profiles, thanks you.
Warming the Bed
There a lot of couples profile here that the wife doesnt know,so we have found out,when you start asking questions the true comes out and you think what a someone says report the profile we have,but we never get a result of what was done about is,so i guess we have giving up on singles that have in their profile they are married or with someone we would like to say thankyou for being lest we know what we are getting ourselfs into if we choose to.
our thoughts only.
cheers
needachange
Quote by tripmeup
is it me or should married guys be on here as a couple and not on their own, to clarify they are a couple. do their other halfs know that they are on here, probably not is my guess.
Well theres plenty of women who are shacked up with a man seeking pleasure as an individual..
Whats your point ? who cares if they are married ? (if youre looking for your soul mate this is the wrong site) Who cares if their missus doesn't know they play up ?
Quote by needachange
There a lot of couples profile here that the wife doesnt know,so we have found out,when you start asking questions the true comes out and you think what a someone says report the profile we have,but we never get a result of what was done about is,so i guess we have giving up on singles that have in their profile they are married or with someone we would like to say thankyou for being lest we know what we are getting ourselfs into if we choose to.
our thoughts only.
cheers
needachange
1 - 2 weeks after you have reported a possible deceptive profile, if the profile hasn't been changed (couple to male or female) or banned (shows up as inactive profile) then it has been verified
. We are a married couple (close to 50 years married) and have been playing with others for over 30 of the close to 50 years we have been married on and off.
I am the main participant in the chat room, my wife knows I often come in here and she comes in the chat room now and then when she is in the mood for it (she never shows her face in the general room but will if she goes private with a guy), she will often put on a show when on cam for the guys, she gets a good reception from them.
I don't feel guilty being in the room by myself under the couples banner at all, if you could change from single to married easy enough I would do it when I am in the room by myself, but that is not an option, if I am in the room and the wife wants to join me she just comes on cam with me no problem at all.
PS their are a lot of married guys who come in the chat room as single guys as well :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by OKandQ
well thats a single guys comment for sure it may not matter to you who you fuck but it may matter to others who they entertain
OKandQ this is true and as for married people male or female that are playing without thier partners knowing ,if they are prepared to be dishonest and lie to their own partner imagine what lies and bulldust they are going to spin with someone they just want a quick root from
Melbcpl01
Quote by OKandQ
well thats a single guys comment for sure it may not matter to you who you fuck but it may matter to others who they entertain
lol, i does matter to me, my point was ffs ppl stop single guy bashing, you do realise that without single guys 3/4 of this site wouldnt be here, im single and show it, i dont pretend.
Sex God
Quote by coastie67
well thats a single guys comment for sure it may not matter to you who you fuck but it may matter to others who they entertain
lol, i does matter to me, my point was ffs ppl stop single guy bashing, you do realise that without single guys 3/4 of this site wouldnt be here, im single and show it, i dont pretend.
We dont realy think there is a problem with genuine "single" guys on this site and is not single guy bashing think the point of the post is not aimed at them its more aimed at the ones that try to be dishonest are married and prepared to lie and cheat to get what they want , after all if they are married/attached they are not "single" are they
We wouldnt want to be involved in someone elses problems or being part of something that could cause someones divorce
Melbcpl01
Gaawd, who really cares whether they are married or single, that's their business not ours.
If they are cheating on their wives thats their business not ours; we can't pass judgement on them because we don't know what is happening in their marriage. Maybe she is cheating on him and he wants to even the score. Who knows.
Sometimes I detect an element of "holier than thou" on this site; that is people who are engaging in things that most people would find kinky or perverted want someone they can kick down to the rung of the ladder below them, to take the attention off themselves.
Quote by Simone1
Gaawd, who really cares whether they are married or single, that's their business not ours.
If they are cheating on their wives thats their business not ours; we can't pass judgement on them because we don't know what is happening in their marriage. Maybe she is cheating on him and he wants to even the score. Who knows.
Sometimes I detect an element of "holier than thou" on this site; that is people who are engaging in things that most people would find kinky or perverted want someone they can kick down to the rung of the ladder below them, to take the attention off themselves.
lol cant wait to read responses to this comment
Quote by Simone1
Gaawd, who really cares whether they are married or single, that's their business not ours.
If they are cheating on their wives thats their business not ours; we can't pass judgement on them because we don't know what is happening in their marriage. Maybe she is cheating on him and he wants to even the score. Who knows.
Sometimes I detect an element of "holier than thou" on this site; that is people who are engaging in things that most people would find kinky or perverted want someone they can kick down to the rung of the ladder below them, to take the attention off themselves.
+1
All we ask is that they tell us their status and be honest about it so that we work around their situation (ie. we be careful about possible marks etc) as we ar very comfortable playing with people who are in a relationship.
As for the bolded bit, we give that a very large +1 thumb up shout that lady a drink and the attitude does piss us off somewhat as the site is all about sexual fun, not judging why a single may be here.
Quote by Simone1
Gaawd, who really cares whether they are married or single, that's their business not ours.
If they are cheating on their wives thats their business not ours; we can't pass judgement on them because we don't know what is happening in their marriage. Maybe she is cheating on him and he wants to even the score. Who knows.
Sometimes I detect an element of "holier than thou" on this site; that is people who are engaging in things that most people would find kinky or perverted want someone they can kick down to the rung of the ladder below them, to take the attention off themselves.
+1
All we ask is that they tell us their status and be honest about it so that we work around their situation (ie. we be careful about possible marks etc) as we ar very comfortable playing with people who are in a relationship.
As for the bolded bit, we give that a very large +1 thumb up shout that lady a drink and the attitude does piss us off somewhat as the site is all about sexual fun, not judging why a single may be here.
Now, that all said and off the chest we will also say that this site is nowhere near as rampant with their treatment of single guys in particular as there are some sites where a single guy (particularly those in relationships) may as well state that he has a sexual disease given the abuse they do receive. We found and came to this sire because it was far ore accepting of singles and also those couples who sought them and we do hope it remains far more accepting than some of the others
Quote by shebagazz
Gaawd, who really cares whether they are married or single, that's their business not ours.
If they are cheating on their wives thats their business not ours; we can't pass judgement on them because we don't know what is happening in their marriage. Maybe she is cheating on him and he wants to even the score. Who knows.
Sometimes I detect an element of "holier than thou" on this site; that is people who are engaging in things that most people would find kinky or perverted want someone they can kick down to the rung of the ladder below them, to take the attention off themselves.
+1
All we ask is that they tell us their status and be honest about it so that we work around their situation (ie. we be careful about possible marks etc) as we ar very comfortable playing with people who are in a relationship.
As for the bolded bit, we give that a very large +1 thumb up shout that lady a drink and the attitude does piss us off somewhat as the site is all about sexual fun, not judging why a single may be here.
Now, that all said and off the chest we will also say that this site is nowhere near as rampant with their treatment of single guys in particular as there are some sites where a single guy (particularly those in relationships) may as well state that he has a sexual disease given the abuse they do receive. We found and came to this sire because it was far ore accepting of singles and also those couples who sought them and we do hope it remains far more accepting than some of the others
x a million, thanks guys for speaking the truth, that attitude drives me up the wall..................
we arent single bashing but dishonesty bashing, its good to see some actually read what reply's are posted while others see it as opportunity to further their own desires regardless, and again we dont give a rats how you portray yourself on here but you wont pass the bullshit fake filter if your dishonest or cheating or more trouble then your worth .
As to the influx of singles being a large component of the member ship this site was alot more informative and enjoyable when the majority of chatters were committed relationship typel folk.
There is a difference between swingers site and sex site which has been lost somewhat over the last few years.
It is still possible for like minded cpls to discover each other and its proof there is someone for everyone .
Like every on we have rules and standards we choose to live by and some have a totally different set,
we dont judge you for your kink or character for others , but we do obviously for our own acceptance and or participation
I guess if you have dubious profile or circumstance thats your burden to live with but you have less right to push it on others than your perception of any right to force acceptance from others to your cause
We only ask for the truth so we know what you are trying to involve us in , not too much to ask for we reckon
Quote by QandOK
we arent single bashing but dishonesty bashing, its good to see some actually read what reply's are posted while others see it as opportunity to further their own desires regardless, and again we dont give a rats how you portray yourself on here but you wont pass the bullshit fake filter if your dishonest or cheating or more trouble then your worth .
As to the influx of singles being a large component of the member ship this site was alot more informative and enjoyable when the majority of chatters were committed relationship typel folk.
There is a difference between swingers site and sex site which has been lost somewhat over the last few years.
It is still possible for like minded cpls to discover each other and its proof there is someone for everyone .
Like every on we have rules and standards we choose to live by and some have a totally different set,
we dont judge you for your kink or character for others , but we do obviously for our own acceptance and or participation
I guess if you have dubious profile or circumstance thats your burden to live with but you have less right to push it on others than your perception of any right to force acceptance from others to your cause
We only ask for the truth so we know what you are trying to involve us in , not too much to ask for we reckon
glad you got that off your chest, i hope you feel better now
Sex God
Quote by Simone1
Gaawd, who really cares whether they are married or single, that's their business not ours.
If they are cheating on their wives thats their business not ours; we can't pass judgement on them because we don't know what is happening in their marriage. Maybe she is cheating on him and he wants to even the score. Who knows.
Sometimes I detect an element of "holier than thou" on this site; that is people who are engaging in things that most people would find kinky or perverted want someone they can kick down to the rung of the ladder below them, to take the attention off themselves.
Would you care about it when the unknowing partner finds emails or phone numbers of someone their partner is shagging on the quiet and you get the abusive phone calls or emails etc it soon becoimes your bisiness and having to explain whats going on
Simple a cheater is a cheater no matter what and when things turn sour it can soon become your bisiness very quickly
Melbcpl01
Everyone can make their own decision on who they want to play with and not everything can be black and white. There is always an element of risk when choosing a play partner and whilst its not nice to be on the receiving end of a phone call from some guys partner that you didn't know about... it's also not nice to see a playing couples relationship break down in front of you.
This post was originally about the profiles on site... asking for married men to register as a couple. The question was answered as to why they couldn't if they played alone. Rick_salt you don't have to worry about changing to single because you are a playing couple even if you do things alone as well
Please respect everyone's choices when it comes to the reasons why they are playing and the people they choose to play with. If something does not agree with you that is fine but don't attack another for it.
This site has always had more male profiles than couples... for the 2 and a half years I have been here, even in the chatrooms. They were just smaller then and not as many people lurked. The 'single' male and 'married' male debate has been raging the whole time as well.
It all comes down to personal preference in the end. Just remember.. the more animosity someone receives for who they are... the more inclined they are to hide it. It would be nice if more people were honest and it would be nicer if people weren't attacked for being honest too.
:)
Please respect everyone's choices when it comes to the reasons why they are playing and the people they choose to play with. If something does not agree with you that is fine but don't attack another for it.
This site has always had more male profiles than couples... for the 2 and a half years I have been here, even in the chatrooms. They were just smaller then and not as many people lurked. The 'single' male and 'married' male debate has been raging the whole time as well.
It all comes down to personal preference in the end. Just remember.. the more animosity someone receives for who they are... the more inclined they are to hide it. It would be nice if more people were honest and it would be nicer if people weren't attacked for being honest too.
:) ok let me clear something up, i was not single bashing, i was only pointing out that ppl in relationships should have a couple banner and not single banner, i dont care if they are cheating or not on their partners thats their own mess to clean up and they would pretty much get caught in the lie eventually. if you are single then you should be under the single banner how can we as a couple when we are online get whispers from pple that are under the single banner and then believe them when they we say couples only sorry, and then they turn around and say we are a couple, do i believe that fuck no, im not stupid, even when chatting to couple we will only talk to them if they are both there most of the time.
thank you all for your comments.
love one love all, dont get to busy making a living that you forget to have a life.
Quote by melbcpl01
Gaawd, who really cares whether they are married or single, that's their business not ours.
If they are cheating on their wives thats their business not ours; we can't pass judgement on them because we don't know what is happening in their marriage. Maybe she is cheating on him and he wants to even the score. Who knows.
Sometimes I detect an element of "holier than thou" on this site; that is people who are engaging in things that most people would find kinky or perverted want someone they can kick down to the rung of the ladder below them, to take the attention off themselves.
Would you care about it when the unknowing partner finds emails or phone numbers of someone their partner is shagging on the quiet and you get the abusive phone calls or emails etc it soon becoimes your bisiness and having to explain whats going on
Simple a cheater is a cheater no matter what and when things turn sour it can soon become your bisiness very quickly
Melbcpl01
Wow after reading everyones comments i really can not believe that people are saying that it is ok to be someone that your not, If your married but "single on here" then there should definatly be a red box or something whether you are a married female or male so that everyone on this site knows what their getting into, And if they choose to still meet up with someone whose profile is red then thats their call......
Just dont see the need to lie about it, of course everyone will have all different oppions about the topic,
but i def see that as cheating whether your married on this site or not you should be confiding in everything with your partner!
And if you belong in the "single but married & they have no idea" catorgory,
maybe chat to your otherhalf you never know you they maybe interested in this world and you will leave that catogory and become a couple she/he may want to check it out too!
why leave them out of this awesome world!
Yes i understand some people wont be able to do that but if you cant talk to your partner about being on this site are you prepared to be caught on this site, even if it is just innocent flirting. To them it wont be it will be a complete world of lies are you ready for that?
I am now interested in hearing back from the "Red Boxed singles" and getting their thoughts on what they would actually do if their otherhalves caught them on here? Have they thought about it? Do they think its just harmless fun?
This was the whole idea of this forum post the guy came home and found his wife cheating, and his on here as a single guy with the status of married, now if both of them are into fucking others they should be on here as a couple, this single guy with a married status give the poor singles a bad rep, i really feel for them, i cannot tell you how many times a guy that is married has whispered to us or msg us and then we say sorry couples only and they say yeh i am a couple, well dude get a couple profile before i even chat to you and believe you. i think that there should be a different sort of profile for the ones that want something extra on the side without their partners knowledge. I know some ppl get off on doing married or attched ppl, it would just be nice if it was clear. This way the singles can enjoy their single profiles properly.
Just saying.
:color:
Quote by tripmeup
This was the whole idea of this forum post the guy came home and found his wife cheating, and his on here as a single guy with the status of married, now if both of them are into fucking others they should be on here as a couple, this single guy with a married status give the poor singles a bad rep, i really feel for them, i cannot tell you how many times a guy that is married has whispered to us or msg us and then we say sorry couples only and they say yeh i am a couple, well dude get a couple profile before i even chat to you and believe you. i think that there should be a different sort of profile for the ones that want something extra on the side without their partners knowledge. I know some ppl get off on doing married or attched ppl, it would just be nice if it was clear. This way the singles can enjoy their single profiles properly.
Just saying.
:color:
you guys have put your thoughts down in a great way without "single male bashing", its just a shame that the holier than thou moral fucking police brigade had to jump on the bandwagon.
at the end of the day its a sex & swingers site, people are looking for sex & friendship, some (maybe lots) of people are going to lie & there are all kinds of shades of grey involved there.
lots of couples on here are just plain rude when it comes to single guys, i make sure im twice as rude back, then block the self righteous arrogant aresholes as i just am not interested in people who think just because they are a couple they can treat other people like shit!!!!
rant over
well mate this isnt a "sex" and swingers site its a swingers site
secondly you say your twice as rude then this isnt the place for you.
No one here has been rude each post has been evidence/ experience based and not intended to lay any law down.
people share there views and experiences, your nic appropriately describes your attitude so many single's who dont get their own way get abusive and threatening and thats why it so hard for the bulk of single no matter how genuine or not they might be.
Couples owe your nothing, some may want to include you thats great for them and you, and some dont want singles at all and make that clear in there profiles, they shouldnt be determined by the likes of you as "self righteous arrogant aresholes"
this comment alone should see you banned from this site as its crosses the abuse line entirely with no other intent but display your flaws with socialisation.
It seems its the holy grail to mention singles, whilst totally acceptable for singles to lose the plot and be "twice as rude" aggression isnt a very sought after character trait of swingers.
Most couples have balance to there reply's as they are considered and take account two peoples positions and not just your own wants.
If you cant play like an adult with out temper tantrums, dont ruin the educational and social benefits that open discussion in a forum provides
