Trying to keep this question as simple as I can. I have browsed through the forums and profiles here and elsewhere and just need to know why no one ever states on their profiles *no married or attached women please*. I honestly haven't found one.
Some profiles in particular(couples/females) state they do play with married or attached guys but only with their partner's permission. Stuff about you must be honest with your partner as it tells us alot about you, etc, etc. If you have that in your profile in *about me* section then I would like to know?
If a married/attached lady messaged you, would you ask her that in order for me or us to play with you, I would require your husband/partner to know? **Be honest here!**
Perhaps this has been discussed in detail in prior forums but I haven't been able to find it. Would appreciate people's views and why? I ask this question as I feel like I'm shackled in a segregated group. However I'm open minded and a good answer would probably educate me.
Cheers
Hi. Our profile states that we wont play with ANYONE behind their partners back. For us this means male or female.
It's an interesting question - I won't chat/meet married men and I'm getting used to asking early on in the chatroom as I don't want anything to do with married men. I'm guessing men don't mind as much whether women are married and I get the impression they sometimes find it a turn-on!
I personally have not come across any married women looking for 'discrete sex' on the side OR maybe they are able to hide it well that they are married or attached.
I think I am pretty good and working out who the married men are when chatting to them, alot of guys give them selves away over time when chatting.
If a attached or married woman approached us, we would not be playing with them. We don't feel comfortable about doing that and don't 'go there' with anyone who is married or attached. But that's just us.
DG
there are plenty of married women passing themselves off as single and plenty of 'couples' who are actually both playing behind their partners back together.
As the male population is so rampant on these types of sites and you will noticably see a lot more married males than you do females there will definately be more of a stigma if you are a married male.
makes you wonder though, for those who dont have as much of an issue with a married female, is that because if a female is playing behind her partners back then its a ocmmon consensus that it had to be her partners fault? Therefore making it not as bad as if it was a male because of the bad rap males get on these sites?
We will play with people in relationships irrespective of their sex, but we are not prepared to be party to a 'revenge' type of scenario where one partner is seeking to hurt the other - if that is what they seek us for than we suggest that they go forth and multiple with themselves. With that said, if we get a sense or feeling that the person whom has approached us is seeking to hurt their partner, again we will advise that they go forth etc etc.
Now, we do get approached by guys most of whom claim to be single but no doubt where some are in relationships and we treat them all the same. If they are of interest, be that in a profile comment, likes&dislikes, photos or if any message sent to us grabs the attention that we will likely try to meet socially to see if that initial feeling flows through to a connection when in person, and if all good we will see what happens. If on the other hand the written personality does not match the reality than we pass.
As mentioned however, that is with guys and we would do the same for females ........................ if only we were approached as to date we have not in this site been approached by any solo females, but we do live in hope :-D
But, as has been said as well, there are a large number of people who will try to pass themselves off as couples across all similar sites to this one, so basically it is a long winded process to weed out the genuine from the not so genuine and while it can be frustrating at times it should always be looked on as fun.
With regards to Infinite_Sky's comments above, that is an interesting point regarding a perception of fault as from many general conversations we have had over the years the general consensus is very much that a male is a cheating schmuck whereas a female in the same situation is 'poor baby'. It is an interesting discrepancy but for us, as we stated early on we feel that we are not there to judge who is right and who is wrong (as we know that there are always 2 sides to any story), but we will not play to hurt another
Shebagaz
we have it on our profile, that we wont play with attached play alone, and that's either male or female, we don't even go down the path of "the partner allows me to play" route, as it is impossible to makes sure this is not just a line. If we smell a rat we walk away, to be safe rather than sorry. We also insist on profile photos public or private, we don't go by cams or emailed photos, usually find attached people won't have a profile photo in fear of getting caught by their partner. Nothing can be 100% but so far these measures have work well for us, and we have caught a lot out using them too.
