I notice it’s been four to five days since a female signed up to the site.
What are we doing wrong? What would entice more genuine females to join and remain active?
Be great to read your thoughts. If you don’t feel comfortable posting. send a message, all confidences respected.
i think women would be very wary of coming on a site if their privacy isnt guaranteed, and the fact that females have been recorded while on cam, and have had it distributed to external sites, is a major turn off, so when the arseholey men stop being cunty, then the female population will stay away.
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...and the fact that females have been recorded while on cam...
Thanks Kerry_1975, that’s a section of the site I don’t use, appreciate your perspective. Extremely concerning for privacy to be breached and for those individuals to lack decency and respect.
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Thanks Kerry_1975, that’s a section of the site I don’t use, appreciate your perspective. Extremely concerning for privacy to be breached and for those individuals to lack decency and respect.
I used to cam many moons ago, and wont do it these days, unless im feeling generous lol
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haha, I love your turn of phrase.. But I agree too.
hehehe even though i was a debutane, my potty mouth sometimes belies that fact lol
Single gal here. Just rejoined after a 14 year break from this site. Have to say it's the amount of Single male wankers that are on here and cannot be bothered to read a profile that turn a lot of us off. Nothing the admins of this site, or other similar sites can do to stop this. We just have to get tough, and ignore them. Sigh!
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Single gal here. Just rejoined after a 14 year break from this site. Have to say it's the amount of Single male wankers that are on here and cannot be bothered to read a profile that turn a lot of us off. Nothing the admins of this site, or other similar sites can do to stop this. We just have to get tough, and ignore them. Sigh!
Doesn't help when you block them yet the block doesn't seem to work anymore and they still message you in chats let alone inbox.
And the whole recording of cams etc. I've had MAJOR problems in the past so much so I refuse to cam now.
Oh and the PUSHINESS of guys these days. It's bit crazy. You don't answer one for a few minutes and they start losing it. Most of the ladies get BOMBARDED with message windows the second you log into chat. OR inboxes as soon as you sign in online. So it can be a bit overwhelming and then mighty pushy when every msg is wanting pics or or or plain and simply attention all on them, immediately.
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Doesn't help when you block them yet the block doesn't seem to work anymore and they still message you in chats let alone inbox.
And the whole recording of cams etc. I've had MAJOR problems in the past so much so I refuse to cam now.
Oh and the PUSHINESS of guys these days. It's bit crazy. You don't answer one for a few minutes and they start losing it. Most of the ladies get BOMBARDED with message windows the second you log into chat. OR inboxes as soon as you sign in online. So it can be a bit overwhelming and then mighty pushy when every msg is wanting pics or or or plain and simply attention all on them, immediately.
Agreed. The behavior of some males makes us gentlemen embarrassed.
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Doesn't help when you block them yet the block doesn't seem to work anymore and they still message you in chats let alone inbox.
And the whole recording of cams etc. I've had MAJOR problems in the past so much so I refuse to cam now.
Oh and the PUSHINESS of guys these days. It's bit crazy. You don't answer one for a few minutes and they start losing it. Most of the ladies get BOMBARDED with message windows the second you log into chat. OR inboxes as soon as you sign in online. So it can be a bit overwhelming and then mighty pushy when every msg is wanting pics or or or plain and simply attention all on them, immediately.
I don't use chat these days, it's embarrassing the lack of manners or just decent social skills that exist on there. I will raise one point in favour of singles though (male and female), years ago the chat was open, friendly, welcoming and inclusive, now I find it very dominated by a select few couples (self appointed guardians of chat) who are just plain rude. I have come online, straight away get attacked for daring to join a room as a 'newbie' (been on this site since it's inception) and basically mocked for saying anything against the discussion. This is a swinging site for all, couples, singles, male, female, able, disabled, straight, queer, black, white, so can some of you please try and remember that. Be kind to new people, be kind to ALL, remember, you were starting out once, just do as you would be done by.
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I don't use chat these days, it's embarrassing the lack of manners or just decent social skills that exist on there. I will raise one point in favour of singles though (male and female), years ago the chat was open, friendly, welcoming and inclusive, now I find it very dominated by a select few couples (self appointed guardians of chat) who are just plain rude. I have come online, straight away get attacked for daring to join a room as a 'newbie' (been on this site since it's inception) and basically mocked for saying anything against the discussion. This is a swinging site for all, couples, singles, male, female, able, disabled, straight, queer, black, white, so can some of you please try and remember that. Be kind to new people, be kind to ALL, remember, you were starting out once, just do as you would be done by.
Great Post..
Oz cock has hit the nail on the head the self appointed guardians (couples /persons) have made it to uncomfortable for people attempting to chat the sarcasm in the pool rm has created friction to so many members (new and old) they have now chosen to leave chat.
austcpl40s We attended 2 meet n greets with the same outcome. Yes 1 mod in particular is part of the mob... example is. a newbie couple introduced them selves in the pool the mod immediately replied.. quote.. just look take it easy until they get used to you!!. part of the mob or lost complete control of chat?..the couple left after being ignored on several post never to return..guardians you know who you are.. it's an adult site it's time to act like adults not children in the play ground
Sounds like it's not worth having a paid membership if the chat is the same as AMM. I used to have private chats when it was free, great fun.
To bring up a point of order here, this is an adult site and the expectation is that its members have at least the capability of acting like adults.
The site AUP https://www.swingersheaven.com.au/legal/acceptable-use-policy is clear in that abusive behaviour will not be tolerated. If you experience anything that breaches the AUP, or see it happening feel free to use the report option at any time. The one caveat there is the abuse must have happened within the confines of the site. We have no jurisdiction over things that happen off-site as we can’t log that.
NB. This is why we always discourage the use of other proprietary messaging services.
In the words of someone famous: “Now that’s out of the way, who’s up for a shag”? 😜
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i think women would be very wary of coming on a site if their privacy isnt guaranteed, and the fact that females have been recorded while on cam, and have had it distributed to external sites, is a major turn off, so when the arseholey men stop being cunty, then the female population will stay away.
Ohhh dear ohhh dear Kerry..a disgusting post using such language why would anyone want want to socialise with a person male or female using that language?. Why has chat gone down hill? this is a perfect example..you admit to having a potty mouth we reclassify it as gutter trash talk the 13people that liked your trash talk really need to think again...HEY BOB gutter language should be censored it would be a start re read austcpl40s last post.
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We have tried to be friendly where possible to everyone. We have hosted 2 Meet and Greets with big numbers and all have been inclusive. We went to the last Adelaide M&G only to be told by a certain person who is a mod. to my wife to FUCK OFF. As in the mod didnt want us there or the fact we turned up who knows. But agree the room has turned into a chat about certain topics or the room is cleared. We are chatters by no means in the clicky group and would strongly argue against those who think we are. Dont make the mistake of our friendliness and easy going nature to be included in the people you are referring.
Agree with austcpl40s you should be the last person to engage on this tread. We have seen you many times.. kill the chat... or change the subject to what you want.. or make it known you have done that bigger and better than anyone else..or sarcastically put people down.. we talk to everyone that's B.S Loz...The trouble is you and the other 4 guardians have been doing the antisocial practice together for so long you don't know your doing it.. We have had our disagreements in the past on room issues only for it to go in one ear and out the other same old loz..and yes we will strongly argue that you Are in the clicky group.
okaaay.......well......this has gone south pretty quick 
Let's all just agree to be kind and to try and remember that when we are in chat rooms. If you feel you could have behaved better in the past then that's great, learning is better than ignoring. As for Admin, I appreciate the input, but SOME admins seem to protect their friends rather than be objective, that in itself is causing distress for those seeking assistance. I am a member of this site and the UK site, I have to say that the latter tends to work better, maybe because it has a larger membership I don't know.
BOB_admin...I have waited a few days to see if you act on your policy of abuse to others will not be tolerated. So why is Kerry's post not been taken down? IT'S AN ABUSIVE POST TO THE MALE MEMBERS HERE. I would agree that her manner/language will attract some more of the undesirable men but her post is abusive to the majority of your male members TAKE IT DOWN BOB!!!!. Plus I wish to make it known to other nice people here in all our time S.H we have blocked a handful of persons not ever have we experienced the behaviour that she leads us to believe. You reap what you sow kerry. PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH BOB...TAKE IT DOWN START THE CLEAN UP!!! Show us your not a toothless tiger
As I said, this is an adult site and adult language is to be expected. Reading through the above it’s obvious that people have varying opinions, which is fine, but if I were to show my teeth I’d be sanctioning a number of you for attacking others. I think it’s best this thread is locked and we all move on with our lives in more constructive ways.
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