Oh it's a problem that many couples face. I think it would be in your best interest that you don't allow this to grow into a real problem.
Everybody has their limits. So sit down and talk about how both of you feel about this. Having fun is always good but know when to stop.
I agree with windmill, the best solution to any problem between a couple is to sit and talk about it, a couple share a bond of trust which allows them to do this, good luck.
alone, luckily for you..i have the best solution for this. You and me both know how impossible is to talk to a woman. Their brain has no input button...only output in the form of ramblings..So my solution is that make her spend a day or two with me. Trust me, i'm repulsive..she would see how such a nice guy you are and tada!! all is well.. So when you sending her? :grin:
I know a woman doesn't listen. So you reject couples with attractive males next time then she will understand what she did to you ;)
Keep very honest with each other. And never say you liked that girl more than your girlfriend ;)
She never should get the feeling you have more feeling with the new girl.
I think that the most important thing to remember is that you love each other and only each other.
The way that my husband look at bringing in another partner is that they are just for sex, and sex is sex and love is love!
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There will always be a little jealousy there. After all, you are sharing your loved one with others. The best thing for you to do is to keep talking to each other..If she can't handle something, you should certainly avoid it. Marriage comes first..swinging should be seen as a leisure time activity.
Women are more possessive then men. They feel insecure if your other playmate is attractive then her, as they feel that you may get attracted and start loving her. So have fun but never tell your wife things like that girl was nice on bed then you.
Women are more possessive then men. They feel insecure if your other playmate is attractive then her, as they feel that you may get attracted and start loving her. So have fun but never tell your wife things like that girl was nice on bed then you.
On the contrary, I believe men are the most possessive. Men have this urge to possess and sharing is not something we like. As long as you talk to each other, things will be fine. Communication is the key to eradicate jealousy.
we just started swinging about 3 months ago. Initially we were very excited. we still are. But she is a little bit jealous. After all she is my wife, She had said no to couples with sexy girls. I'm a little bit jealous too. But we both agree that this is too much fun. How do we overcome this?
That is a problem lot of couples face. Finding swinging too much fun and having trouble with jealousy. There is no real solution for this but to talk to each other. I believe swinging should be stopped when jealousy arise. This can be very damaging to your relationship.
This is one of the major concerns for us. When I first introduced the idea to him, the first thing that he said to me was about being jealous. Should I take that as a bad sign? I wanted to experience something different. There were things I want to do before I die and I thought this is the best time to go for it. But I don't to want to pur our relationship in an irrecoverable state of devastation. This is not that easy as I thought it would be.
I think this is a big issue when it comes to couples. I feel that a lot of it has to do with insecurity. Jealousy is hard to overcome especially when it comes to a sexual relationship. It is hard at first, but I find its best to talk and figure out what the problem is. I have always reassured my partner that I am only in it for fun.
Think in other way, if your partner is jealous about you being with attractive women. Then its obvious that she feels some insecurity in your relationship. So please say no to attractive swingers for some time and try to improve your relation with your wife.
we were the same when we started just give it time and it will get easier. talk about what each of you want and how you can make things easier for each other maybe seperate rooms. or maybe you are just not ready for this yet. leaving this as a fantasty might be the way to go for the moment until you are really ready. hope this helps.