Although we're not normally looking for single guys, last year we had arranged to meet a single guy at Hillary's just for coffee. With 1/2 hour notice he pulled out claiming he had to go to a meeting at Bunbury.
Last week, Mrs was so horny she wanted to be taken in any position in any hole by anybody. The offer was made to 2 seperate single guys who were interested, but when they realised the offer was genuine they made excuses.
So why do we bother, these guys weren't time wasters, they obviously weren't serious to start with. How do you tell who's serious & who just wants to fantasise & play online?
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How do you work out who's serious?
Sex God
They are the ones who will turn up. 
Orgasminator
its a pity when this happens we have 3 single guys we play with and they are all gr8, really hope u can find a guy that stops giving the single guys a bad name
Warming the Bed
Only time will tell.
Sexlightened
We have had similar experiences in the past, so when we want a single (and sometimes when we want a couple) we jump on chat scantily clad and switch the camera on. When we have had a peek at the various profiles, we send a whisper to someone close asking "How long would it take for you to get here"? We do like to see some pics before we do this so single guys make sure there is a pic on your profile ( and not just of your dick!!)
We now have a number of genuinely single guys to play with at a moments notice
Hope that helps
Fires
Guys in our experience only a small % of persons on sites like these are genuine about swinging. It would probably would be a good research project to categorise the agendas of users.
But to answer the question of thread, in truth we considered ourselves pretty bullet proof in sorting out the wheat from the chaff swinging wise. But just recently we had a good one put over us. We had an approach from a supposed couple who subsequently cancelled. No problems we thought. But when we checked our mailbox we noticed that we had also messaged several other couples very similar to the couple who had dropped out. In fact they were all exactly the same height, age, the profiles read the same, and they all lived in the same location. So yes, five profiles were in fact the same person and when confronted with this, we never had a reply. So what was his motive? Who know's?
Bottom line is, we are very experienced swingers but had the wool pulled over our eyes. But every now and then you meet up with a great couple. So is it really worth it? Absolutely in our opinion!!
I read this thread with some interest , I still dont understand why the need to keep jumping in supporting the extras guys when they are in over supply , having said that quality and reliability are in reality reasons these guys are single if they are , many are cheating or experimenting with everyone bar their own partners, some dont care and I dont care to bother why people do what they do .As a couple we take our own needs and desires and measure against compatibility.
WE have attended a meetngreet and met maybe 50 people , we meet a couple probably twice a month say 20 couples privately. We regularly attend swingers clubs and have enjoyed the environments but find it hard to cover all the bases on the spot with new people.
The stats for us show we can easily find enough people to meet and enjoy meeting out of those 100 odd people we only fancied about 10 couples and given work other commitments it took a while to spend swinging time with three of them .
3% total market to total sale , we would concede that we could enjoy and easily accommodate 10% of those we meet ,
Three times we have been victims of single male liars and one surprise group bang.
We feel the meetngreet provided a good time socially and we were contacted afterwards and had a great regular experience with a couple from the greet.
We have met couples at swingers clubs and have taken a few meets to experience them too.
In all it appears you have to keep chatting keep going to clubs and become familiar and social with people, they can grow in your opinion and you can do the same , so again keep being friendly but recognise the requirements of all involved.
WE are a quality couple we believe "just because you can doesnt mean you should" , maybe this is over complicating the situation but it has worked well for us we feel closer and more open and happy with each other than ever before,
We wish other couples the same outcome as it feels good, is good for all concerned if you can stay true to what you want and believe.
Warming the Bed
Just to add another reason for "no-shows". A lot of people who frequent this site have fantasised about meeting, they are quite comfortable UNTIL..they have to take that step to actually meet. This goes for both M and F, and couples as well.
Many can talk the talk..but when it comes to walk...err..thats far more confronting.
Over the past 6-7 years we have had only one no show, if we applied our current rules we would not have arranged to meet them,
Our Rules
Photos of both face and body.
Swap a couple emails
Chat on phone to both
1st Meets for coffee ....only about 1-2 out of 10 will end up playing in the future.
1st Meets with 4 star apartment booked, shared costs, dinner booked allways ends up in play after dinner.
We dont do chat rooms etc they appear just random words, for at least a forum you can follow a subject.
