Hi everyone, Mrs Seaford here. I thought I would share an issue I have because I don't quite understand why I do have this issue in the first place!
I can't stand porn, more to the point I hate it when Mr Seaford gets off on porn. I've recently found out that I also have an issue with Mr Seaford getting hard watch a couple fuck.
Now I'm normally open minded, we've been swinging for over ten years, we've had 3somes ffm and mmf, and also done the couple swapping. When we are at a swinging party I don't have an issue with Mr Seaford going walkabouts on his own.
So can anyone explain to me why porn phases me?
I just don't get it!
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Mrs Seaford
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Looks like you get off on the shared experience and adventure, though if you aren't sharing the same arousal as your 'Mr' then you have an 'issue' which is either jealousy or anger.
If you have an issue of 'Mr' getting hard watching others fuck I don't understand how you are fine when 'he goes walk about on his own' at swingers parties as he is likely being aroused. Would be interesting to hear how you view the 2 scenarios differently.
Sexpert
Porn is no different to any other form of entertainment such as movies, music and books.
We are all individuals and therefore what one person finds interesting and enjoyable, another person may find very boring.
Luvvy and I are constant readers but we rarely enjoy the same book and that does mean one is more intellectual than the other.
With porn, what turns one on can repel the other = there is so much porn available via the internet although of it is crude, rude and in poor taste but others may say its all good as long as it porn.
It has long been an issue between men and women that probably dates back to the 1st issue of Playboy and that is men "getting off" and making unfair comparisons between the centre-fold girl and his wife which can lead to anger and jealously,
"The girl in the porn looks better than me and she turns him on more than I do." has probably ended a few relationships.
and..
of course, the reverse is true as well, the wife looking at and fantasising over the Male porn stars and good-looking men.
Both Mrs BB and I love watching porn, but... like everything else, if it became an issue between us I would stop, wanking to porn is not worth a happy marriage.
Orgasminator
most new porn sucks, so over acted, maybe its that or you think he needs porn to get arroused for you. just likw when he watches another couple. maybe it makes you feel unsexy. thats all i can think of
Thank you for your responses.
Porn: if it actually looked like real people with some sort of story line I might actually be interested. I don't get the spitting on dicks or pussy or in mouth. I don't get women being degraded either.
If I was jealous I wouldn't let Mr Seaford play alone or let him go to a party on his own. I trust him enough to know he's not going to have a relationship with someone he swings with.
Again I'm not too sure why my reaction is so. But thank you for your insights.
Sex God
time to bring back a bit of old school porn , story lines half decent actors that had lines to follow they were the days , so love ouur old porn VHS tapes
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Porn: if it actually looked like real people with some sort of story line I might actually be interested.
Try to find a series by Playboy TV called Swing. It's not overly explicit (no cum shots or anything), but it does feature real people (warning: not always stunningly attractive) with a real story and real sex (no spitting on dicks). You get some idea of who the people are, why they're looking to swing, what they hope to get out of it, etc. They play some sexy, flirty games with other people and eventually get it on in a group play room or back in their bedroom.
Or ditch the porn movies completely and read erotic fiction to each other. It works for us! ;)
Sexpert
lol @ warning: not always stunningly attractive
Aint THAT the truth. The resident swingers are certainly the catch there.
That aside, we agree... what's with the spitting on cocks and on pussies these days? ...and all the anal? ...and then BJ's AFTER anal?
We found a good one amongst our extensive collection the other night where a couple started chatting with another couple at a restaurant, and then, after a couple of bottles of wine, ended up taking them back to a friends' apartment where they were persuaded to join in their first swinger interraction after viewing others' doing it.
This then leads to them having ongoing interludes of a deeper & deeper nature. It was good, realistic, and, I must say, something that we dream of happening when we're out on the town one night.
Even Mrs ajs said it was great, a couple of days later, and that's most unusual.
A & J
Orgasminator
so whats the title aj ???
mrs seaford, i think you hit the nail on the head, theyre beyond fake. they do nothing for me, try to find amatuer stuff on the net and see if you like that
Orgasminator
of course, the reverse is true as well, the wife looking at and fantasising over the Male porn stars and good-looking men.
Really? I admit, I haven't watched much porn since splitting with the ex, but I can't remember seeing any guys (except for the guy on guy action) that I would fantasise about. Way too many in the Ron Jeremy camp for me *shudder*
Sexpert
count me in too. i love amateur gang bang or orgy videos. so hot to watch
Sexpert
Quote by TemptedTwo
We found a good one amongst our extensive collection the other night
Yes - title (or filename) please!
We've renamed it, so I had to watch it again to find out the title. The things I do for you (depraved) people...
It's called:
An Open Invitation: A real Swingers Party in San Francisco
Oh, and it actually has a plot. Who knew...lol
Enjoyyyy...
A
Orgasminator
thank you so much aj for your sacrific to keep us informed. legend. oops i ment leg end 
Orgasminator
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the Private Gladiator movie
I especially loved the roman orgy scene!
just got hold of one and two so were holding you to it zphinx :twisted:
Warming the Bed
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I enjoy watching porn when it has a storyline ( rare ! ) so was very pleased to find the Private Gladiator movie which was a take of the title featuring Russell Crowe to be one of the best .
I especially loved the roman orgy scene!
Oh wow we will have to have a look for this. We were wondering if a Roman themed porno had been made lol.
The Private series are pretty good for story lines going off the ones I've seen except I recall a movie about paintball and there was not one scene of paint balling. That was just disappointment. Lol.
Warming the Bed
Ooops double post.
Sexpert
Funny you mention "Private" studio porns. That one we spoke about earlier was Private too.
Forum Virgin
I can understand the porn thing. I enjoy porn, but I really have a hatred of the would you call it mainstream porn can't think of word, mass produced. Anyway I only like amateur porn. I much prefer people just being themselves I have a site I go to a lot which is mainly pictures but ahs like the people telling the emotions , the bet they lost or whatever the story is as well. So that makes it better to me as you getting the inside deal on it. you all probably know it. As to not liking hubby getting off on porn and watching other couples. I'm guessing it's because you're not involved in the act or possibly the fantasy. I think we all like to feel we are the ones that makes the partner horny. and they are imagining us whilst they masturbating.
And just as an offshoot..wow ajs what a body :P
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the Private Gladiator movie
I especially loved the roman orgy scene!
just got hold of one and two so were holding you to it zphinx :twisted:
It's my favourite ! Love to hear your feedback on it.
Rumoured to cost over $1 mill to produce and the orgy is rather lavish!
Now would love to see a game of thrones porno....wait they already have , sex and violence !!! Lol
Warming the Bed
Quote by ajsydney
We found a good one amongst our extensive collection the other night
Yes - title (or filename) please!
We've renamed it, so I had to watch it again to find out the title. The things I do for you (depraved) people...
It's called:
An Open Invitation: A real Swingers Party in San Francisco
Oh, and it actually has a plot. Who knew...lol
Enjoyyyy...
A
Hi AJ,
After your recommendation of A real Swingers Party in San Francisco, we ordered a copy online , and received it last week.
And yes it was rather enjoyable, we both enjoyed it. Thankyou.
K & B
