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ok, just wondering what age difference you would have for your swing parteners. weve been nit up by half our age and not sure if its too young. we think it is
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I think it all comes down to what you have in common and to how you get along. I've had a lover both 18 years older than me and 18 years younger. We had great fun together in both cases. I've also met plenty of ppl in my own age bracket who I've found dull, self centred, lacking in the ability to communicate (and please).
On the other hand, Mr Twiddle and I had a young girl friend for a while. She was notoriously unreliable. I think that in her mind she was able to contemplate a relationship of kinds ( be that friends with benefits, just straight out sex, or something else) but when it came to the crunch, she constantly kept chickening out/ letting us down/ making excuses/ getting better offers. I must point out that at all times meetings were initiated by her - there was never any pressure from us for her to come and visit, although we welcomed her warmly. It became something of a joke between Mr T and I to guess what outrageous excuse she would make up to leave each time ( if she even managed to show up) - she could have just said thanks guys, I'm off now! She's out there now - I've seen her in the chat room on this site making plans with older partners. I wonder if she has become more confident in/ committed to her desires.
So I think that age ( years) does play a part, but maturity, self enlightenment, confidence and just general compatibility are more important. I guess it also depends what you want to do. If you want to be best friends and bbqs, then you have to consider what on earth you will have in common to talk about.. If you want wild uninhibited sex, perhaps the conversation skills aren't so important. I recall one session with my young man where he met me naked at the door... And I left a few hours later while he was in the shower.... Not a word was said!
Forum Virgin
Being a couple that one (Russ) is twice the age of the other (Lollie) we find that we sometimes don't fit into everybodys age requirements and hey we don't expect to either. We feel that age is just a number and shouldn't be the be all and end all of getting to know someone. And hey you never know someone till you spend time with them right?
Sexlightened
Our policy is that we don't play with anyone older than our parents or younger than our kids...easy
Orgasminator
thanks everybody, we didnt go with the couple. just couldnt play with somebody our kids age. was very tempting
We tend to take the kid;s ages thing as well as we find it, well kinda creepy to think that we could be playing with someone our kids ages.
Sorry to those that may offend but it just strikes us that we could well be playing with someone who could be our child (so to speak).
As for older, no real age as sheba has played with guys well into their 60's and gazz has experienced ladies of that age as well.
But essentially all is about connection.
Orgasminator
yep, no one old enough to be my parent or young enough to be my spawn. My last fb/bf was 2o years younger, swore not to do it again *shudder*
I've heard a rule of thumb that the youngest you can go for a partner is half your age plus 7: i.e. if you're 50, the youngest you can go without being creepy is 32 (50/2 = 25 + 7 = 32) but I think it really comes down to personal preference.
I'm 23 and I've met (through another site) women 30 years older than me, 15 years older and 3 years younger and had a great time with all of them.
At the end of the day, I think the only rule is that everyone involved has to be comfortable.
Just as an aside, I do have a thing for older women and find it hard to find casual partners so if anyone is interested let me know ;)
Quote by twonewbiesits all about having fun if u hit it off great then theres never a problem younger ones look for experiences so hey why not teach them then others learn from themand its always about us having fun so relax enjoy
ok, just wondering what age difference you would have for your swing parteners. weve been nit up by half our age and not sure if its too young. we think it is
Quote by twonewbiesif ther legal hey hit it up hunny why not enjoy yourself teach a younger one then everyone after that will understand what great sex is
ok, just wondering what age difference you would have for your swing parteners. weve been nit up by half our age and not sure if its too young. we think it is
Do people really have a problem with the age gap
I have had some good times with younger woman and older woman than me,
It's all connection
I have also encountered woman that don't like married men, live local , older men or travellers, ( I fit into that catagory )
There are a lot more areas we could talk about but this is being about age
That's my two bobs worth.
Hmmmm, I've had a lot of experience on both sides of my age and have observed the following (while i have grown up myself)
that :
Late 20's ( 27-28ish) onwards is a great age for guys as they have encountered a bit of playing, developing their own style of pleasing a woman and have the stamina to keep going and going and going !
I love guys in their 30's as they are maturing and have finished growing, their physique has been defined and still have stamina and plenty in the tank to play for hours.
But by the time the guys have hit their 40's their stamina doesn't hold up as well, performance becomes an issue for some. I have also observed in this age tho, the guy has learned his own measure and limits and that he develops ways of pleasuring a woman to the satisfaction of both.
In essence it all comes down to the connection between the people who are playing and these are my own observations and not necessarily the norm, just what I have experienced as a woman.
Sexlightened
As many people have said "age is merely a number"
If they're an idiot it doesn't matter if they're 1 year, 10 years or 100 years different in age - an idiot is an idiot.
But you'll find the same as some people like blondes vs red vs brunettes etc some people like older/younger and this is another of those "each to their own" things.
Sexlightened
As many people have said "age is merely a number"
If they're an idiot it doesn't matter if they're 1 year, 10 years or 100 years different in age - an idiot is an idiot.
But you'll find the same as some people like blondes vs red vs brunettes etc some people like older/younger and this is another of those "each to their own" things.
Forum Virgin
We were interested when we joined SH how age would come into play.... and we've actually been surprised!
We find far more people that are 'like minded' roughly within a particular age bracket....
for us, thats usually mid 30's to late forties.
Having said that, apart from some consistent differences in younger people's mind set, age for us means little and all of you are right - there are tool bags in every age bracket!
We often get older couples and singles asking us whether we have a 'barrier' of some sort, particularly with my age being under 30.
The answer is always no... what we are looking for is fairly specific - it doesn't matter what package that comes in... man, women, older, younger, fit, unfit, hair, no hair.....
What an interesting forum topic 
Loralie
Loralie Had a hook up at a club with a couple in their early 20,s. (we are early 50,s) They approached us. We would have normally not even thought of this. The girl was great. The male didn't have a clue. And we got to show the female a few new tricks as well.
Normally we would say 30-65 as our target age range. We go for personal compatibility rather than looks and usually anyone outside of our target range would not be personally compatible.
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As many people have said "age is merely a number"
If they're an idiot it doesn't matter if they're 1 year, 10 years or 100 years different in age - an idiot is an idiot.
But you'll find the same as some people like blondes vs red vs brunettes etc some people like older/younger and this is another of those "each to their own" things.
I tend to agree. Age is just a number and people tend to forget that. If you enjoy each other then what's the problem.
I was recently with a 19 year old and the age difference was not a problem. She liked being with an older guy and I liked being with a younger woman and I reckon that made it all the more a turn on and exciting.
I know I was certainly happy as I would never in my wildest dreams think at my age I could hook up with a 19 year old and at the end of the day being happy is not a bad thing. (18 when we first met)
Age, or the lack thereof, is only an issue if you choose to make it so. We are always upfront about our age (in our 60's) and we have swinging encounters across a broad spectrum of age groups. Mind you the ones we form long standing friendships with tend to be in our own age bracket (+ or - 5 years). After all it is about having fun, anything extra comes as a bonus.
I have personal preferences on age, but really, as long as there's a mutual attraction it shouldn't matter. For example, you might generally think of younger people as being a particular way (whether its immature, cocky, inexperienced, unreliable, or whatever... Or just not generally be attracted) but there's always going to be exceptions.
I normally prefer women younger than me, but was recently approached (on here, i think) by a woman 5 years older who had a smoking hot body. If she lived closer I would definitely have been interested.
I'm currently seeing a 25 yo. I almost wrote her off initially as being too young (I'm 37) but WOW she is incredible. We get along so well - sexually and otherwise - I would have really missed out on something special if I'd knocked her back purely on age.
So yeah, I'm in the "just a number" camp. By all means have an age range in mind, but be willing to look outside if the right person / couple comes along...
I found this a great read. I'm a 19 year who recently starting using this site because I had an encounter with a much older woman who recommended I join up. Age really isn't a big factor for me, I enjoy having with fun with people my own age because they're far more relatable. However, I also find encounters with older, more experienced couples and women great because you expose yourself to ideas and experiences that are unfamiliar to you. Those hook ups have occured outside this site and merely by being in the right place at the right time. I'm beginning to sense that my age will give me a fair bit of grief when it comes to meeting people off here.
Orgasminator
It quite possibly will not help Maxy. Best bet is to play around int he forums and head into your local chatroom. Make yourself known as a pleasant, reliable, nice guy and you should get some hits. We usually pass around names of those we like or dislike, and you may have some enjoyable chats with others. Good luck
Orgasminator
Quote by maxymax
I'm a 19 year .
my kids are older than you maxy
to each thier own to me just feels wrong but some great replies some just dont have any going for them. For something non-committed I'll consider anything from 18-45. Obviously looks + personality are important. My last two FWB we both early 20's but my current one is early 40's and I enjoy the sex with her just as much as I did the other two girls. That said I do prefer younger all things being equal and i most likely will pursue a younger girl next.
As far a relationship goes then the age range is much smaller, I'm 30 and any girl over about 34 I'd have serious reservations about dating exclusively.
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Hmmmm, I've had a lot of experience on both sides of my age and have observed the following (while i have grown up myself)
that :
Late 20's ( 27-28ish) onwards is a great age for guys as they have encountered a bit of playing, developing their own style of pleasing a woman and have the stamina to keep going and going and going !
I love guys in their 30's as they are maturing and have finished growing, their physique has been defined and still have stamina and plenty in the tank to play for hours.
But by the time the guys have hit their 40's their stamina doesn't hold up as well, performance becomes an issue for some. I have also observed in this age tho, the guy has learned his own measure and limits and that he develops ways of pleasuring a woman to the satisfaction of both.
In essence it all comes down to the connection between the people who are playing and these are my own observations and not necessarily the norm, just what I have experienced as a woman.
I think zphinx has nailed it here, but from a bi point of what she has said goes for both sexes. Usually that first meet and greet for a cuppa (or as fight or flight encounter as I call it) will give an insight to what possible outcomes will happen. The one thing I have found is that the genuine younger gen is willing to soak up the playtime activities and use them in the next encounter (or the same one cause they go for sooo much longer) and are willing to explore their sexuality where as the older generation tend to be a tad prudish, and follow a strict regiment to the outcome. I think employ the Aussie spirit and "bugger it, I'll give it a go" and at least have a M/G over a cuppa cause as the couple/single may be young they may also have experience and maybe "teach and old dog new tricks."
Cheers M
Went to a private house swinging party recently that was mostly young people. They seemed a clicky group and I can understand why they might not be attracted sexually to older swingers. We noticed all the other older swingers standing around probably feeling a bit out of it. So we started to mingle and found some nice couples and before long we were playing. I'd say we had just as much fun as the young swingers. We don't care about age really. (anyone over the legal age and under 70's) We feel that older people can be more experienced and so add more variety to the sex and we might just learn something. And if young people aren't attracted to us because of age, we don't mind however they might be pleasantly surprised if they stop being so age discriminating. We haven't played where we haven't added something new to the couple we are playing with.
