Im quite shy at first and have no idea how to get started here.

I signed up to this site as a couple with my wife after I suggested we give it a go she then changed her mind. So I guess my focus has changed which is really difficult because now I need to work out what it is im looking for by myself, I dont think I could do NSA I think im more interested in making friends that I have something in common with moreover im a people pleaser and who doesnt really likes quickies.

This all started because I wanted some adventure my wifes not that adventurous shes very sexual but not really that interested in trying new things.

I have moved out and now live in a sharehouse while my wife and I work on our communication skills were still deeply in love and im commited to spending the rest of my life with her.

Now a little about me.

Im a very analytical person I like to weigh up facts and come to conclusions that way my hobbies include reading, technology, current affairs, learning new things.

My ideal life would be me as a house husband serving and caring for my family.

Iv decided that 2013 is my year of change im going to work on all the little things I dont like about myself in the hopes I can be more comfortable in my own skin.

I moved around a lot when I was young which I always struggled with it has made me a really shy person and I want to change that I want to get out and make the most of life, if im looking for anything it would be like minded people who emphasise fun in friendship.

To me the idea of swinging is intriguing I could imagine theres a lot of men on here who are just interested in getting off but thats just not me, I see it as an adventure exciting and scary at the same time id like to start off by meeting someone who I can be comfortable with who can hold my hand through the experience and help me learn to explore my sexual side. On the other hand if you like the idea of me we can always be just friends to I think someone whos on this site probably has the same sort of view as me so friendship wouldnt probably come free and easy.