If all negative connotations are removed from the word, a 'slut' is simply a person, most often a woman, who has had sex with multiple partners. Unfortunately we slam down women who dress promiscuously, are sexually aggressive and/or unabashedly lay claim to their own sexuality.
Some of us embrace the word slut. Some don't. Can calling a woman a 'Prude' be just as terrible as calling her a 'Slut'?
Not drawing attention away from the word 'Slut' but being called a 'Prude' also creates another demoralising pejorative that is meant to make a woman think about her behaviour. Damned if you do, damn if you don't! Some single guys have called Mrs Bay a 'prude' for not showing enough skin on cam.
There shouldn't be derogatory terms to describe women's sexual behaviour and reclaiming the word 'Slut' is almost like willingly accepting blame for a crime you didn't commit, or rather for doing something that shouldn't be a crime in the first place.
Mrs Bay is sexually aggressive (perhaps it is the red hair) and is unbashful/unashamed about her sexual promiscuity, being called a 'Slut' has no negative connotation but rather a right of passage. Although she is accepting of the term, I am of the opinion that there is a time and place, but more importantly how it is delivered i.e. I am not kosher with single males or people who we do not know calling Mrs Bay a 'Slut'.
Muffins
You are so on the money. We wouldn't mind a single guy from time to time for Mrs Bay, but their attitude makes them so undesirable. A married female friend of ours recently got a message off a single guy the other day, stating he will be the best sex she will ever have. Seriously WTF, talk about a stupid comment. Obviously that single male got told to F off. We have been to a few meet and greets and yes rarely see single males there, at best maybe a couple.
The Bays
Welcome back to the 'Forums' and glad the ban was overturned. I can't imagine the amount of frustration you guys would have felt watching from the sideline. It is admirable to see that you guys invest so much of your time and the impression that I get is that you truly support this site; if you didn't then you would say nothing, do nothing or just use move on.
The Bays
TT has highlight an issue that I wasn't aware of and certainly a matter of concern from my point of view. I also performed the same check and was surprised as to how much I could access and view using Google. Although I enjoy using this site, I am not particularly comfortable with the general public having that sort of access. Perhaps there is a simple solution to remedy the problem.
Well I hope TT does sort out the matter with SH Admin, as I would like to see them back in the forum space as I sincerely believe their action was unintentional. I could have made the same mistake and I deal with writing and interpreting policy from other agencies for most of my working life of 25 years.
Well said Mr B and thanks for your compliment, never considered ourselves in the same league as those mentioned. TT will be sadly missed.
The Bays
Thanks Onewetpusssy for the Meet and Greet, it was a good turn out once again. Love meeting new people and great to see old faces there again. Perhaps we wont wait for almost 12 months to have another one. If anyone wants to contact us send us a message, will be great to hear from you.
The Bays
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Rose, when 'Extras" was I think around $34 from memory, then around $49. Ours is due to run out sometime soon, are we to pay more again? We heard there is an increase in fees again.
Admin,
with the price increase are members going to see some improvements to the profile information? Understand, it is the member's responsibility to populate their profile with information about themselves and for whom they seek, but the profile layout currently doesn't encourage those to do so. I am only speaking for myself here (but others may have similar view), we would like to see changes to profile formats that enables us to apply more filters to our search i.e. smokers or non-smokers, safe sex or not, body type etc. At the end of the day it saves us time searching for what we seek and taking a leaf out of RHP and AMM's book, both sites have made it easy to read and search profiles.
Another suggestion would be a warning to those who are messaging or contacting other members not in their criteria (think TemptedTwo brought this up), it wont necessarily stop them from sending a message but at least it will make them think first.
Quite happy with the Chat rooms and forums, I think in comparison with other sites like RHP and AMM this site is more user friendly.
Although members may be upset about the price increase, I think if this was to enable improvements to the site then I am all for it. We closed our account with RHP 12 months ago after being on the site for several years. Our reason to leave was based because they increased costs and gave the members less in return. It will be a shame if Swingers Heaven went down the same path.
On other sites the single men out number couples approx. 4-to-1 and single girls approx. 7-to-1. What I would hate to see is couples leaving this site purely because of the price increase. Speaking for myself but I would say most couples on here are seeking other couples or single girls, with a small percentage seeking single males. If in fact single males are the major contributors to this site, would this site be less attractive to them if there were less couples as members? It is unbelievably frustrating to find and meet genuine couples or single females, if more couples left, then it will simply make the 'unbelievably frustrating' even more like the impossible.
In summing up, we are happy with the price increase providing it is value for money, something that we didn't feel when we left another site.
The Bays
Leslie, we no longer attend parties that offer entry to single guys for the reasons you have mentioned. The party organisers are simply in it for the money and nothing else. There is no magic ratio and I doubt very much most organisers actually screen the single guys before taking their cash. What we have experienced, seen and heard has been utterly disgraceful.
To be fair not all single guys behave like pigs, unfortunately more often and not you are just collateral damage.
I like the idea of a chatroom having an option to block single guys from viewing and perhaps they may have to earn the trust/respect of the cammer before they are granted access to view their cam. It seems we may need to treat them as children if they are going to act like them.
Maverick, perhaps you weren't praised enough as a child? Perhaps your low self-esteem striving for praise from the outside world, in order to gain a feeling of worth within yourself. I am sure there are people that can help find self worth without seeking it from the outside world.
Found an awesome link about how to detect arrogant people I am sorry but if you want praise because you think you are the Greek god Adonis then you have come to the wrong place.
Same can be said about Meet and Greets or even parties. People tell you they are interested in coming and then hear nothing from them. The Meet and Greet I organised in Newcastle last year was a classic. Most who said they were coming, confirmed as such, but there was the minority that waste my time and effort with me constantly chasing them up (often several messages before get a reply). Hence the reason why I am a little reluctant to do it again. I am sure people who organise parties on a regular basis experience this and I can understand why they get shitty. If people cannot show a little common curiosity by a simple reply i.e. no thanks then perhaps we should drop a little comment on their profile. As for people who contact people who aren't looking for them, well that just tells me you can't read and should not expect a response.
[quote="cuddlycouple66"]shame its not in early febuary[/quote
That's a shame guys, will let you know if our friends have another party in Feb.
. Rules or boundaries are great for couples finding their way within the lifestyle, as they grow more secure or confident in their relationship their rules or boundaries may expand. It's great that some couples don't need rules and are able to do what they like when they like but its not for everyone.